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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:why is it when you like a guy and you're all affectionate and flirty with each other, you've even made it clear that you like him and that you want more than what you already are, they act oblivious to it or don't say much on the idea and lead you on wondering all these questions and you have no idea where you stand with them.Then suddenly, when you don't give them as much attention and are more reserved towards them. Then is when they show you that they like you and want your attention!?Sorry for ranting, but i can't understand why this happens. It's happened to me and all of my friends, so now i'm just frustrated. Why is it when you aren't showing them that you like them or being affectionate, is then when they decide they want you and like you? Wouldn't a guy like when he knows a girl likes him and is affectionate and gives them her attention, not in the needy way but that sweet we like each other way, instead it seems they like the opposite? Someone please explain!
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reader, person12345  +, writes (24 October 2012):
 It's called playing hard to get and has been going on from both sides for as long as dating has happened. The basic idea behind it is that if someone is throwing themselves at your feet, it seems a little desperate and doesn't make them seem desirable. On the other hand if someone is nice to you, but clearly has a lot more going on in her life and is busy all the time, she is clearly popular and probably has other guys after her and is therefore desirable.
And again, seems less desperate. It's also nice to know that if you get involved with someone, you won't become their whole life, they are still independent and you are simply an addition.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (24 October 2012):
 I think it's an age thing, and it certainly isn't all guys that are this way. But you may have heard the saying "the thrill of the chase". Men like a chase sometimes, they don't want anything too easy and too available. Its also a bit of "you want what you can't have". You seem to have moved on so now he wants you. That's why people play games when dating, acting like you are busy when you aren't, not telling someone how you really feel...etc. The right, and more mature guy, will appreciate you showing affection so don't change yourself. A lot of men really like when a woman is very straightforward about her feelings (not needy, honest). You just haven't met the right ones yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Not all guys, but I'm sure with some guys when their ego is being stroked, they're satisfied for the time being, but when they get no attention they crave for it.
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