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writes:I am interested in hearing male and female opinions on my question.If a guy liked two girls, which one would win out in the end, the one he has a physical connection to or the one he has an emotional connection to? Both women are attractive and he likes both. But the attraction to one is physical and the attraction to the other is emotional (which could lead to physical but hasn't yet). Which girl would he choose to be with in the long run? Thank you for your opinions! :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 October 2012):
 This guy? If he keeps rude enough two women on standby and base enough to tell them the only reason he's keeping them around, then I say he hasn't a very strong connection of any kind with either of them.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (25 October 2012):
Personally, I've watched more than one guy string along two women for extended periods of time by telling both of them that he 'wasn't interested in anything serious' and 'lets just say we're friends with benefits for now.'
If a woman is already involved with a man who isn't ready to settle down it doesn't matter whether she has looks, substance, or both...he isn't ready to settle down with her and she shouln't hold her breath waiting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): The way I see it, if the guy isn't looking to settle down just yet, and is only looking for fun, then he'd opt for the one he has a physical attraction to.
If he's ready to settle down and is looking for something long term, he'd opt for the one he has an emotional attraction to.
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reader, Trinklett +, writes (24 October 2012):
 Sounds like you are the one he's emotionally connected with and there's a girl whom you're threatened by and you feel he may be physically attracted to. I may be wrong but if it is so, I'll give him space because he'll mess with you and if you're as emotionally connected to him as u feel you are, if it goes bad, you're going to be on the receiving end. Not a good place to be. Trust me. Guard your heart and let him make his choice. If he chooses the other girl its his loss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): It depends on what he wants OP. if he wants something casual and/or no-strings then emotional connection is not going to be a priority.
Plus whats to say the physical won't develop into an emotional connection, you know early on OP, great sex can be a far better pull than someone with an emotional connection. Emotional connection is just not as passionate.
Cold hard truth? I wouldn't make any choice if I were him, I'd just enjoy two idiots battle for my attention. Have my ego stroked and affection from my emotional girl, have some physical intimacy and fun with the other.
Because you know what liking both means OP, it means he doesn't either of them in any kind of serious way. He just likes his cake and eat it. Simple, he won't make his mind up because he doesn't have to. Personally I would never date a person so fickle as to have another guy she's dating, I have too much self-respect to be a person's option.
Besides there's a reason guys are supposed to do the chasing OP, we will use you and throw you away at a whim if you don't make us prove ourselves, offer yourself to us on plate and you leave yourself very vulnerable to that.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (24 October 2012):
 in my opinion i would go with the girl i have got an emotional attachment too every time. The physical attachment is all well and good but that attraction does not last forever, where as the emotional attachment is more long term.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): The one he loves.
How can he tell?
1. among the 2 girls which one he can't last a day without talking with.
2. Whom he thinks the most?
3. Who gives him butterflies, just the thought of her.
4. Who inspires him?
5. Who he fancy marrying with?
6. Who he prefer to spend time with, if given a chance both are free.
7. The one who makes him happy.
The choice is his to make...
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