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writes:Okay the thing is, i had a girlfriend not in the same school but in the same town like 6 or 7 months back who i really liked a lot, we broke up in April and we were determined never to speak to each other again, and we didnt, except a couple of 5 minutes convos on whatsapp during summer holiday, which were fierce.... but i havent spoken a word to her in ages..... i got over her during summer/totally forgot about her and life was good, still is good. But for some reason since the past few days, im thinking about her, and i have to admit i really have an urge to talk to her again, just once again.... but it is awkward to talk to someone you havent spoken to in ages, especially your ex..... i dont know, she's still on my whatsapp..... and i really want to start a convo.... but its awkward and i dont want her to think im still in love with her or miss her or needy of her.......... i hate this situation.... what do i do? plz help
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 March 2013):
 well you want to talk to her about what?
what would talking to her accomplish?
what do you see happening?
if you don't love her
if you dont' miss her
if you are not needing her
then what's up with the wanting to talk to her so badly?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (7 March 2013):
Hi there. It really depends on what your intention is, doesn't it?
Do you simply want to be friends, and just say hi, and catch up?
Or, are you hoping to get back with her again?
Because, once a relationship is over, there really is no point in keeping in contact, unless you have something in mind.
So what I am really saying here, is for what purpose, do you want to get back in contact with her again?
You may be thinking about her at the moment, because you haven't met anyone else you really like, since the breakup.
So you are perhaps remembering all the good times you had together, and it is making you think about talking to her again, or maybe even seeing her again.
So because of this, it would be wise to think about it really thoroughly, and ask the question - "What do I hope to gain?"
Could it be that somewhere in your mind, you would like to see her again?
Before taking any action, you first need to be very clear on what it is that you want now.
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