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writes:first of all I’m just looking for advice not for people to judge me. Well I am 18 years old and there is one guy that is about 15 years older than me. He would always flirt with me and he would say stuff to my sister so she could tell me. About a year later I finally talked to him and gave him my number. We stared talking, and now I am in love with him. I have told him that and he says he loves me too. we even get in fights like we are actually girlfriend and boyfriend. But the thing is that he lies too much to me. and I saw him one go in a hotel with another girl. I told him but he denies it. every time we fight we say bad things to each other but at the end he always convinces me and we end up talking like nothing happened. one thing that he has always told me and tells me every time he calls me is that he would love to get married to me. and that he will talk to my parents if I want to. but with all those fights I don’t know if I should be believe him. Another thing you guys should know is that he acts like my boyfriend, he calls me every night, during the day, and says cute things. well my question is, is he worth my time? or what can I do or say to him so I can be sure if he really loves me as much as he says?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you both. you got me thinking about the things you said. and ALLCAPLOL your right. i have to confront him. thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): First of all, he isn't interested in marrying you if he hasn't even established a title for you guys. It sounds like he's just using you, but I don't know him and therefore don't know what his true intentions are. I'd like you to elaborate on seeing him in the hotel. Why didn't you confront him then? Are you certain it was him? If so, he's using you and telling you exactly what you want to hear (older guys are known to do this to younger girls, I have first hand experience). Get out and find someone you're certain isn't lying to you and has no problem calling you his girl. Now, if you're not willing to walk away just yet, you should confront him and ask him why he hasn't considered you guys as being exclusive to one another and just keep an eye on him. You'll find out for sure soon enough. I also suggest you try digging into this hotel thing. Most hotels keep names of people who rent a room... you could always be sneaky and pretend you called the hotel and that you already know he was there, or if you think you can convince him to tell you the truth, try coaxing him into being honest. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Darling i think your too young for this old man..
I'm not judging you, but i think his taking advantage of you, being young and naive. You saw him in ahotel with another girl and denies it.
I know someone who could do like that. My goodness, where are you from? maybe this is the same guy? haha just joking but really i know a guy like him, who will promise you marriage and everything. In my eyes, he is too jerky, 'coz a guy who's really in love would buy you a ring not just promises but words put into action.
I'm sure your parents will not like him. He isn't worth your time coz u are dealing with a professional player.
Trust me been there, done that...
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