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writes:I live with this girl and her mum and two other students while I go to college as its closer to the college rather than commuting for 2 hours daily. Last year we got on great together, e.g. going out on nights out etc. this year since she has gotten a new boyfriend she has taken a strong disliking to me and I’m pretty sure she has told her mam something. She doesn’t want to borrow or use make up like she used to or anything. She hates the thought of asking me to do a favour for her. Her boyfriend is a douchebag. I heard from a friend that his friends and he said she was the local bike and that everyone has had a go. They had a row but now they are happy. The other students don’t like him and neither do I but we always take the piss out of each other as a joke and get along unlike his girlfriend. They are a terrible couple and have nothing in common. She has no sense of humour whatsoever and she can’t talk to save herself. It always has to be about her and nobody else. We watched mock the week (comedy program) and while everyone else is laughing at the jokes she goes on about it being sad that one of the comedians isn’t saying anything. She gets thick with him when he starts joking with me and told us two weeks ago to stop acting like children and left him in the dog house for a day. She doesn’t allow him to talk or hang out around the house with me anymore. She shouldn’t get jealous because she knows we wouldn’t do anything. The other night I was asked to open the door for her by one of the other students when she got in cause she had no keys and when she found out it was me she text her mam who came rushing down the stairs and told me to head on up to bed and that she would wait downstairs and let her in despite the fact that I was watching a TV program and there was half an hour left. I knew nothing of what was going on until one of the other students told me.I don’t want the boyfriend but I shouldn’t feel like an outcast in a house I’m paying to stay in. I can’t and don’t want to move house because there is nowhere else to live around that close to campus and I can’t commute because it’s too long of a day. What do I do?
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (25 October 2012):
It sounds like your getting on well and joking around with her boyfriend has been interpreted as flirting with him.
Have you tried sitting down with her when you two are alone so you can ask her what is wrong? Have you tried calmly asking her mother what is going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2012): Find another house. You're no longer welcome.Would you rather stay in a house where you're no longer welcome? But before you leave make sure you find a new one first near your school, I'm sure there is another house, it would be best for you.Even if you're paying for the rent but still it's their house, since its their house they are free to do whatever they want.Things are getting complicated, your friend is a jealous type of person, it seems like she hates you, you may try to talk to her out of it to settle your in differences but there's no guarantee that things will be the same again.If i were you start looking for a new house, that would be best. Pray as well it must be hard living with your enemies everyday. Be strong.. Good luck
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reader, psychic fiona +, writes (25 October 2012):
 well, you say you feel strange in your own home . Don't because she has to understand that you live there to, and you do pay rent also, and she's the one that needs to clean up her act towards every one who lives there. She needs to compromise and balance things out and the only way for her to do that is you need to talk with her. Talk to her in a nice way and let her know whats going on and there needs to be some changes made. You need to bring some space between you and her because it is her life and you need to understand that she can do what she wants with it and its really no one's business unless it affects you. It doesn't look like it, because you seem to be making it your business.
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