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writes:today, one of my parents and one of my siblings got into an extremely heated screaming match. you could almost feel the hate boiling between them. they were hoarse after, because it was so intense. then there was horrible crying and sobbing, it was so gut-wrenchingi usually get quite upset when i have to listen to anyone fighting in my house which happens a lot and is always heated, but this time it was different. as they screamed, my whole body tensed up and my chest clenched very hard. i began to shake and my heart began to pound very fast. i felt fear and claustrophobia. i could not calm myself down. 20 minutes after their fight, i was still shaking and my heart was still pounding.I feel frazzled and completely on edge. i cant focus, and im afraid when i get like that i could boil over. im not sure why i react so strongly to this, and my other siblings do not. do i have a condition? is this a panic attack?i feel like a nervous wreck Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 October 2012):
 Yes it is panic/anxiety and no you don't have a medical condition. Yours is an acceptable response to perceived danger. The problem is you shouldn't be inspired to feel danger at home with your family.
They obviously feel very passionately about one another and lack a more effective means of communication.
How receptive do you think they would be if you told them what you told us? As a confession not an accusation, that is.
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (24 October 2012):
 It would be wise to find a new place to live if you can. This is a very unhealthy stressful situation to live in and deal with. When something is very stressful we try to remove the source of strain. If you can't then you need to find healthy ways of dealing with it. When you feel an argument coming on can you leave the house? If not, put on headphones and blast music. When I was growing up in an abusive household I had to use some of these techniques. When I got out of the living situation I am now much more calm, not so on edge and scared of when the next fight may break out.
It seems like you are holding in a lot and that is exactly what you can't do with so much stress. What I do when I feel like its all becoming too much on me is I talk to someone I trust. I also get out my computer and type out all of my thoughts and feelings, it becomes like a weight is lifted off of me. I also watch comedies on tv, cartoons like family guy, they make me laugh and I can calm down and escape. You need to find healthy outlets for yourself to relieve the stress. I do reccomend you see a doctor though as well because this could be or have caused a condition, also could be a panic attack. Shaking, fast heart beat, claustrophobic etc doesn't sound good. Make sure you are okay and maybe he can also give you tips to not get so bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): You are not alone. Happens tome too.
I would see your doctor. You ask medical questions. I say that as much to get you reassurance about it rather than thinking you are at risk.
You ask is it normal. The important thing is that it is YOU! Self awareness is a wonderful thing :-), Normal is irrelevant and comparison causes more problems than benefits fro many.
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