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writes:Early in February, I was seeing a man who is about 8 years my senior and I like him a lot. We hit it off very well. I felt that we were on a road to a relationship. I guess he was thinking otherwise. We were seeing each other for almost a month and were intimate as well. One evening I planned on mentioning during dinner that I felt we should take it to a relationship level. All the body language was there as well as the way he talked to me. I believed we were on the same page. He first brought it up and I told him how I felt. Then, he just told me he saw nothing more with me and he was seeing someone else.Jump to March and I'm living my life happy and single. While I was in my hair appointment, he texted me out of no where about a dream he had of us being intimate. He flirted and got my hopes up. Then, he told me he made the other girl he was seeing his girlfriend. Then I ended it off there.Two weeks later, I get a random text from him and he wanted me to come over. I was busy with some family issues, but I then find out that he just wanted to be intimate again. I refused and he mentioned about his girlfriend being at work and all that. I still told him no. Then, he texts me last night telling me he wants to be intimate and i just ignored it.Is it bad that I have feelings for this guy and still do? Though I do know he is willing to cheat on his girlfriend just to be intimate with me. I know I'm being played and I'm just an object of his lust. I don't want to be involved with a man like that.How do I stop this vicious cycle before my heart breaks more? Every time he texts me, my hopes rise and get crushed all in one night. I really want this out of my life.
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reader, MaryB +, writes (3 May 2012):
I realize you really like this guy but, you need to look at the whole picture here. Have respect for your self first of all...this guy is a loser & he is just using you. You need to sever all ties with him.
Put yourself in his gf's shoes...she probably cares about this guy as much as you do but, she is the one who is being cheated on. You should realize how unfair that is to her & how hurt she would be if she were to find out.
With that said, you should think about what it would be like even if he were to break up with her & get back with you...could you ever truly trust him after what he has done? I think not! You deserve someone who loves & respects you for you, not what they can get from you. For your own sake stop responding to his texts & emails...eventually, he will give up if he realizes you are no longer taking the bait. Take care!
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (2 May 2012):
 Stop txting him and/or change your number.
Delete his.
He has another woman whome he chose to be with, he's just using you! Dont take crap and give him all the control,
stop responding.
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