A
female
age
41-50,
*licia
writes:i am in a long distance relationship with a man who isnt working and does his own business.but i call him everyday. sometimes i feell low and need him to uplift me or atleast chat to me when i call but i talk and he doesnt say much. sometimes i wanna talk coz i had a bad day and need my man to talk to but e says nothing. all he wants to know is how i am and how my day was and if i say it wasnt fine he just changes the subject and moves on to something else or just keeps quiet until i just say bye and then i am depressed for the rest of the day.I end up thinking of my past relationships where they left me but atleast we chatted and laughed all the time.what should i do? should i let him go?
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (2 May 2012):
 Its not his job to make you happy; he probably has his own issues and probably doesnt know what to say to you under pressure.
Cant blame him for that, least he asks how you are and makes some effort :)
I do agree, you need a man who makes you laugh , laughter is a good medicine for depression :)
maybe you should tell your man you need some laughter on the phone and see his opinion.
If he listens and makes effort after that then dont let him go!
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (2 May 2012):
 Hello Alicia,
Long distance relationships are hard and you are clearly not happy. I would let this one go and find someone who is in your area. Your needs aren't being fulfilled and sometimes just because of the long distance you lack what you really need.
It's not helping that you feel like you can't even talk to him and are getting depressed because of that.
Oh, and something you should remember is that guys are not mind readers and you actually need to tell them you are not fine and you did have a bad day. Especially long distance because he doesn't know what you been through that day and cannot see the emotions on your face.
You will probably be happier with someone in your area.
Good Luck!
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