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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend is whimsy. She goes to great length of persecution to have things done her way, for no visible reason...She does not answer without a reason, she throws tantrums about me not loving her out of nowhere, and if I get mad after taking it for a while (and I'm patient and nice and try to be helpful!) she plays the victim role and she even gets her friend to side with her.She can yell out of nowhere at someone around her to shut up. For no visible reason except that she wants them to shut up.I think you get the idea. It has taken me a while (years) to put words on this. I am not a whimsy person at all myself, and I barely know what it is. I finally understood.I am in a way venting and would like to collect opinions, but I think the truth is blunt and actions will follow: she's just too whimsy for me to bare. Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (10 December 2011):
 Whimsy.... very old fashioned word, not sure I understand it. Sounds like she is under stress, she finds life hard and doesn't know how to handle it. Maybe talk to her, find out what is bothering her, what's on her mind, she may have secrets that she is trying to hide, but they come out in a very bad way.
Say to her.. "baby I love you, you are my world, but all the time you are upset and fighting with everyone, are you hurting, talk to me, maybe I can help".
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reader, supermum +, writes (9 December 2011):
 Some people are just insecure and stubborn! I make sure I get my way, I make sure people do as I say, and I make sure I lead all the time. That is just me.
Perhaps you know what you have to do, but perhaps try one last frank chat with her. Say that you are considering leaving her because you find some of her recent behaviour unbearable. See what she says to that, then make your desicion.
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