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*epsi
writes:Hi everyone, my boyfriend acts so different with me. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. I've noticed that he has changed with me. he used to be funny, eloquent, loving in the past two years everything changed. He acts like im just another seat in our house. Every time we go it behaves well with those around but me. He acts grumpy and tired of me most of the times. When not grumpy he is affectionate with me but only at home. i left the house twice already and returnt he said he was going to change but nothing. So i always get the worst of him at home and everyone outside gets the best. I dont know what to do. Im not a quittet but i dont want to justify myself. He gives me everything i want and i often tell him money is not everything but he doesnt understand. Please help i dont even know what kind of help im asking for hahah sorry. Its the firt time i tell anyone about it.everyone thinks we are perfect together but they dont lnow the truth.
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reader, Hepsi +, writes (8 December 2011):
Hepsi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have spoken to him about it, he always says "theres is nothing wrong" since we start the relationship he never shares anything, about his feeling or needs and i got used to it. I just decided not to ask him and wait until he is ready but it has been the same thing since 4 years ago. i seriously dont know his plans or what he wants to do in life . So i stopped asking but that didnt matter it didnt make a difference. Still the same. He makes me feel like am crazy because he always said there is nothing wrong haha but i feel the change because i know the person he used to be and the person who he is know. I guess ill give it a try one more time. Thanks for the help!!!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 December 2011):
 Just dump his sorry bottom and find yourself a real, nice boyfriend. This one isn't worth your time and/or your mental effort...
Good luck...
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reader, Miss Karma Louise  +, writes (8 December 2011):
i read this question and the first thing that came in mind was "people always take things out on the people closest to them." Also, maybe your boyfreind feels like he can just be hiself around you...which is tired and grumpy. people feel they need to be that kind of person when they around other people...which is happy,funny,bla bla.maybe thats a pure act when your boyfriend behaves that way with others and the actual fact is that he is tired and grumpy... however, im not calling you selfish but have you ever stopped and thought about how your boyfriend feels?? asked him what was on his mind? is something you can do to help him feel uplifted?? refreshed?? maybe he feels like you have changed also...perhaps he feels like your nagging him?? have you explained thouroughly why it makes you upset? tell him that it hurts to see him sad and grumpy because you want him to be happy and when hes happy that makes you happy, which is the probelm here i guess. maybe if you change your ways he will too. Good luck darling. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): If your boyf is disrespecting you ie ignoring you etc,then you need to confront him and ask if he has a problem with the relationship.You just need to talk to him about it, because the way he is acting sounds like he has something to say. I have found with my best friend and boyfriend,they act happier around other people,and when they are moody or angry,they take it out on me and vice versa.Usually people take their negative feelings out on those closet to them,because they know that their other half/friend will take it and understand.However, if he is in a pernamently bad mood, you dont have to stay with him and put up with it.
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