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writes:Just wondering whether people can offer some perspective with whether I should seek help for this or just accept that it's part of me, and work on some things myself. I'm just scared it will affect my relationship with my boyfriend most, since I adore him..I'm not sure whether i suffer anxiety or not. I've been to Doctors before and been on anxiety medication before, but it was following a bad breakup of a relationship that left me feeling quite unwell, nervous constantly, i couldn't eat for weeks. I also saw a psychologist for counselling. Anyway made it through that ok. I have always been really shy, and also not all that confident in myself. Now and then I go through bouts where I get so nervous and everything becomes busy and I race about not eating much and feeling like so much is going on in my head. I sleep less and somehow have all this energy I didnt think I had. It was always normal for me to feel this, and i've noticed it gets worse prior to menstruating. I find at times also I tend to think negatively, which in turn affects my relationships. Someone only has to cut me off when speaking (nothing to do with me most probably) and I feel like bursting into tears and i tell myself I'm boring or they dont care what I say. My boyfriend decides to go out with a friend to a movie and instead of feeling ok with it (like i usually do and should do), I get all worried he just wants to get away from me. I can tell he is tired of me being so negative and worrying, even though he won't say anything to me and still stands by me.other times these thoughts dont even come into my mind. But i do notice when i start to get more negative or down feeling. Im not sure what I can do about it. Whether its part of my being me or whether its something worse and I need to seek help for it? I also get restless, often complaining im bored in life even though I have a fantastic life. this in turn upsets my boyfriend as he thinks he is boring me and I should go find someone else. I like being on the go and feel im being held back even though no one is holding me back. And i do love him and want to spend my life with him, and know we have a great life. If i decide i want something and cant have it yet (like big things like children - it is going to happen, just not for a couple years), I focus on it constantly and get anxious about little things like that if i wait i wont be able to have children. I also worry my friends find me boring so somewhat step back and most of the time they just say they dont know whats going on with me because im so 'hidden'. Is it personality issue or something like an anxiety disorder? By the way I'm 28.thanks
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 Anxiety is verrrry common. I think the best natural and safe solution I can offer you is to look up Magnesium deficiency. It is a common cause of anxiety. You will be very surprised how it can change your life.
I would also recommend taking Vit D supplements which can aid in the negativity! Get some exercise, eat well, plenty of rest and perhaps do some yoga. Good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): What you have described could be any number of things. You are concerned about it so you should take it seriously. Please go to your GP and describe your concerns. They should assess your symptoms and prescribe advice. If you are not satisfied that they have helped you, ask for a referral to an appropriate specialist. Good luck and take care of yourself.
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