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writes:In General I have always felt that text messaging is a poor way to have any serious communication, but recently it has gone from misunderstandings to causing conflicts. Because of this I am looking for a 3rd party(s) opinion on what one would imply, from a text message, that followed the following situation:Just got finished with a short visit with girlfriend, the last few days have been spent apart with little communication and the meeting was straight and to the point, but things were completely civil and without arguing no talk to the fight few days before. Although the conversation ended awkward without the usual kiss or a goodbye (she believing this being my fault and I believing it hers, but does not change how the misunderstanding occurred, so can be viewed however you like). Within minutes of us parting ways I received a text message that simple stated, "Wow..."Would like to get some feedback on what others (male and female) would have thought this messages intent was?Any information is helpful, from simple/short response like, Positive or Negative, to anything more specific or detailed about what you would have thought this message meant if you received it following a similar situation.Much thanks for your help and time in reading and/or responding!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 December 2011):
 Sounds like sarcasm. Unnecessary to write you that, I think she intended to provoke another fight. However, since texts are a troublesome way to communicate how about you start calling instead?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2011): COuld be a few things.
Wow that the conversation was so intense and she left slightly in shock that nothing really was solved
wow that she is tired and the experience was quite negative, particularly parting on quite negative terms (no nice goodbyes)
wow that she is frustrated that you didnt apologise or realise it was your fault (not syaing it is but in her eyes this is what she'd be thinking).
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (9 December 2011):
I would also take the "wow" as negative. She was expecting more from your meeting and was disappointed or maybe even flabbergasted by the outcome.
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (9 December 2011):
 She is trying to say one of two things
"wow - cant believe you didnt even give me a kiss/say you lvoed me"
or
"wow - cant believe you didnt even apologise"
None of which are positive. You both need to sit down together and discuss the issues that caused the arguments. Someone has to back down first. Perhaps you could apologise for your behaviour in the argument. Shouting and carrying on never helps a situation no matter who is in the right... tell her you understand that and you apologise for shouting so much. It will at least open up the conversation and hopefully you can both sit down and discuss what caused the argument in the first place.
IF you cant then you need to seriously work on your communication together...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): Since the meeting of you 2 left awkward, without a kiss or goodbye, I would assume negative. I think it could possibly mean she expected more from you two getting together, whether it be an apology or for you to have made the attempt to give her a kiss or say goodbye. I know if my boyfriend and I got in an argument and met to talk about it, but things ended awkward, or not how I would have liked, I may think "wow, can't believe it ended without him even "insert kiss, say goodbye or apologize if you say she thinks it is your fault"
That is how I would take it after a meeting like that after a fight.
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