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writes:i am a lady of about 25 years old. I am going out with this guy who had a court weding with an old white woman. We both love each other and anytime i want us to end this relationship because of the white woman he pleads with me to give him time to end it with the woman. Am now confused as to waite for him or walk out. What should i do, i need your help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2011): End this relationship now, and get back together after he has divorced her.
This way you are not saying you're going to cross him out of your life forever. You are leaving open the door to continue the relationship in the future, once he has done what he needs to do.
In the meantime, you are free to see other men. make no promises of waiting for him. You will go and live your life and do what you want while he's still married to her. But if and when he has divorced her he is welcome to call you and if you're free you'll get back with him then.
This sounds fair and reasonable, right?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 December 2011):
 We old white women tend to live for a long time, he is probably not going to be free for another 30 or more years. I think you should end it now while you are still young and have time to find somebody who wont go getting married to anybody else expecting you to wait .... for however long.
Walk out.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (29 December 2011):
 You need to walk away. I know you love him, but he is married. Whether he loves her or not, he made a commitment to prove and give her the love she needs. If he didn't love her, then he never should've married her. If he didn't love her, then he put himself in this situation when he could've walked away. Move on and find someone who you don't have to wait for because if you plan to be with him, you'll be waiting for a long time.
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