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writes:Im married 6years. Me and my hubby have just opened up a bar which is going ok. I did hire this girl who i found out a few days later that she fancies him. I have fired her already. But she keeps coming to the bar. Ive said it to my husband and he has noticed it to he just dont talk to her anymore. Ive also said it to the girl but she isnt getting the hint. What do i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2011): Red green, that is ridiculous !. What is the OP going to do ?.Lock her husband away so no one else will fancy him ?.I could understand her getting fired if she was harassing him,but she hasnt even done anything !.I have fancied classmates at school and in work who werent single.does that mean i should have been banned from school or fired from a job ?. Grow up !
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2011): Your extremely insecure aren't you. Luckily where I live you can't get fired for flirting someone because if anyone does fire you without merit, they can have legal action taken against them and get huge fines on their business, which is a good thing when there are such insecure and people who react way over-the top. Your husband should have talked to her and warned her that she was acting inappropriately and that it had to stop. The girl isn't taking the hint because you have now come across as a controlling and manipulative woman, you should have trusted your husband to deal with the situation. I suggest you ask your husband to tell her that he doesn't want her to come near him anymore, then go and find someone to help you with your insecurities and trust issues, because you obviously don't trust your husband at all. You reacted very imaaturely and not all professional, I hope your husband has a better head for business.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (29 December 2011):
"You shouldn't have fired her for fancying your husband"... BULL! Clearly this woman doesn't take a HINT very well, and doesn't care about your marriage. You we're right to fire her, and I assume that your country allows people to be fired for any reason, rather than having to prove they're inept, or incompetent. I live in a state where you can be fired for any reason, or none at all... we RARELY let people go, but when we do, we try to document multiple instances, then sack them.
You could have written her up for flirting, then sacked her, but odds are good you're fine. You might be able to ban her from the pub, but that could require a legal proceeding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2011): You shouldnt have fired her for fancying your husband.You should fire people for not doing their work properly. Its natural that you arent the only woman who fancies your husband. Your husband could fancy other people but as long as he doesnt act on it, its ok.Its natural to find other people attractive .For gods sake, are you going to ban any woman who fancies your husband from going near him ?.As long as he doesnt cheat on you,what does it matter if people fancy him ? You are way too paranoid and life is too short to be worrying about things like that.There are a lot more serious things in the world to worry about.
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reader, XOLoveOX  +, writes (29 December 2011):
Simple, every human gets jealous it's completely natural (if you weren't I would've been worried) well you may not trust this girl but always trust your Husband, if she comes on too strongly he should stop her if not, maybe he isn't that faithful to you, but it doesn't seem like it well do what you think is best. I hope this helps.
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