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writes:This the first time this has happened to me. So me and this girl have been good friends for about 6 months. Well just out of nowhere about a week ago she says she likes me so we start going out. four days later she says “so what do you think about us going back to how we were(friends)” then she puts a smiley face in text msg. We’ve talked on the phone once.What I wanna know is what I did wrong? And why is she breaking up with me? Also what should I say to her?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 June 2010):
At your age, you're going to find out that no one really knows how they feel. Very occasionally, I do believe that teenagers can fall in love and that it can work out. Other than that, teenagers are out to find out who they are, so frequently change their minds. I don't think you did anything wrong. I just think that she wasn't really sure about what having you as a boyfriend ever really meant. I'm not sure she's mature enough yet to understand the idea of relationships.
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reader, ShelbyS01201 +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Well this sort of deal is extremely normal at our age. You may have been her first boyfriend and she felt like she wasn't ready, or she may have gotten in trouble with her parents due to grade slips. It's okay to just be her friend; she is most likely not ready for that kind of commitment. You should know that even if she doesn't ask for another chance with you, there are sooo many other girls out there! Good luck!!
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reader, twinlab99 +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Ask her dude. What's the worst that could happen? She says, she realized she didn't like you that way? I don't think you did anything wrong.....sometimes things like that just happen. Don't fear her answer...ask her...otherwise you'll always doubt yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@CaringGuy
yeah she already broke up with me.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Aww man. Good question. Probably the thing you should say to her is "why do you want to be just friends again?"
If you both are the same age, it's kinda typical for both boys and girls to be a bit flighty. She could have met another guy. OR - her parents might have yelled at her for dating young (my parents were strict on me waiting to date until I was 16, and I was grounded more than once for breaking that!), or she might be nervous about losing you as a friend, or she might have been afraid of getting physical.
If you like her as more than a friend, tell her.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 June 2010):
Well, you've struck upon the problem. You don't know what she's on about, and because she's said so little, neither do I. So your first best bet is to ask her what she means. Just ask her gently "What did you mean when you asked us about going back to how we were?" I mean, did she actually even dump you?
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