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writes:I was always wondering wat is the differnece between "loving someonne" and "being in love wif someone". My best friend says that she loves her boyfriend but she isn't in love. I don't know what it means to be in love at least i don't think so. So wat is the difference? And wat does it mean to be in love? And how do u become in love wif someone?
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reader, Becca64  +, writes (22 June 2010):
 When i broke up with my boyfriend... i had come to the conclusion i loved him in the way i love my best friend. Not the same 'in love' feeling as i used to have with him as a partner
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reader, busy04 +, writes (22 June 2010):
 Personally I feel that you can love someone but not be in love with them. I think relationships have to progress to the "being in love" point. A person knows when they don't care, love or appreciate someone else. So they also know if they're in love or not.
You can always "just" love someone. Just care. Just be kind to them. Just enjoy being around them. Or JUST tolerate someone. You know, you love them but you don't feel that "extra" feeling of passion.
But to me being "in love" is when you can't imagine yourself without them...when you've become wrapped up in them. Can't wait to get home to them. To talk to them. When you can accept the "not so pretty or nice" things about them. When you put them before yourself.
I think love & being in love differs for many people & everybody can have a different opinion about it. It's hard to tell another person what the "exact" feeling is. But when it happens, you'll know :)
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (22 June 2010):
No'one can really tell you what inlove is really until you find it. believe me you will know but i will tell you this it is made of respect, trust & communication between 2 people and feeling you still have your own indivualality!
at the same time and at the end of the day you meet in the middle and ask how each others day went. and it doesn't come easy you have to work at it to keep it together thats where all 3 above come in to play. and you know when you first start dating it's very sexural and after yrs of being together you will see the best part i think. when i met mine now we knew right off the bat that we wer'e going to be together 4-ever i have been thru- 2 other relationships in my life and i can look back and see where it wasn't a love i know now what it is. so you don't know until you find the right person and only then will you know we can only tell you what we have gone through.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 June 2010):
 Well, since this is all about opinions, I'll state mine.
I think the whole "I love you but I'm not in love with you" is grade A bullshit. People say that for the same reason that they say "it's not you, it's me."
People say that when they really mean "I don't love you anymore, yet I don't hate you and I feel guilty that I'm about to break your heart and hurt you."
Your best friend doesn't love her boyfriend, but she's justifying why she's still with him at the moment.
Your question "what does it mean to be in love" is a HUGE question. You just know when you're in love. You love the person more than you love yourself and would do or give anything for them.
How do you fall in love? You just do, and it happens differently with different people.
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