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writes:Me and my ex boyfriend broke up 2 weeks ago because i hurt him badly. I didnt cheat on him but he just doesnt trust me now and i've ruined everything. I regret it so much but he has accepted my apology. The thing is he told me he still loves me very much but can't ever take me back but that he wants us to be friends. What does this mean?I really love him and want him back more then anything but i would rather have him as a friend then nothing at all. If i can regain his trust as a friend, do you think there is any hope for us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Believe me I've tried all that.. :( I think ive ruined my chances of us even being friends now because i text him today just being normal and then he told me hes over me? I was devastated and sent him an angry message. I thought he loveed me but i obviously meant nothing to him since he is over me after only 2 weeks. he then text me back saying to not talk to him again till i realise that its my fault we ended and to cop myself on. Im utterly heartbroken by this. Over 2 weeks ago we were happier then ever and now were like this? I just wanna make things right...
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reader, Redstars14 +, writes (7 August 2010):
Have you tried explaining to him that the guy was just a good friend, and telling him that if he's uncomfortable with the way you treated him then you won't do it again. Tell him that you love him and you only want him and that this is all just a misunderstanding and that you and that guy are no more than friends. But if you feel bad about it maybe you treated him in a way prehaps you shouldn't of. I hope it all works out. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): Basically the reason he doesn't trust me wis because i was 'all over' another other guy. I admit i was a bit friendly towards him but thats because were good friends. I didnt mean anything bad by it but it hurt him so much. We had a big fight after that and i did beg him to take me back and all the usual stuff but he was having none of it. He did tell me though that he loves me and that he wants me back but the fact that he doesn't trust me means that he can't? Whats even more frustrating is that before this our relationship was better then ever. we were together for almost a year. He told me today that we can be friends so i guess ill have to settle for being just friends for now cause i would rather that then not having him at all I'm still hoping he might change his mind eventually cause we've only been broken up for 2 weeks so far. I can't stress enough how much i love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): We need more information on what your boyfriend says or thinks you did for him to end the relationship with you.
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reader, Redstars14 +, writes (6 August 2010):
I think that the problem is we can't help you until you tell us what you did that caused you to lose his trust. However him still wanting to be your friend is a good sign maybe one day he'll trust you enough to be more than friends again, but don't push it, give him time. Keep us posted on how things go... and maybe update your story and tell us what you've done?
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): Well i was chatting to one of my guy friends and he accused me of being all over him. I know i had my hand on his back when we were talking but i meant nothing by it. There was loads of other people there too and everyone of them said I did nothing wrong but the fact that hes hurt so much by this makes me feel guilty. Hes been hurt very badly before by other people so he doesn't believe in second chances but he still wants us to be friends. I really dunno what to do.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 It's really hard to give you advice without knowing what you did to hurt him. Usually, it's cheating that causes that level of pain in a guy, but you said there wasn't one. Did you talk to an ex or steal his identity for financial fraud or something?
Let us know!
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