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writes:please help.i am not attracted to my partner at all. i love him and care for him but dont think im in love. i dont get excited about him . but he is the nicest boyfriend and would do anything to make me happy. we have a 7 month old son and i do not know what to do?help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): thank you both. i deffinitly want to work on it im not ready to just give up on us.it has only been the past few months ive been feeling like this so maybe i am exhausted and need to look into it further.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): I am in a very similar situation, with a seven month old daughter. I genuinely care about my boyfriend and certainly love him on some level but there has always been something missing. I wish i could be properly attracted to him I don't know what to do...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 June 2010):
I'm interested in the fact that you've had a son who's only 7 months old. Have you been feeling this way since you've been pregnant, or since you've given birth? Because this seems like you could be either exhausted or you could be suffering from a form of depression. I think that's something that's worth exploring. You've just had a child, so you might well be tired, maybe you need more help, maybe you need a break together. It would be a dreadful shame for your son if you couldn't work this out, especially considering your partner seems to be a good guy.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 What happened? Obviously you used to be attracted to him enough to have a son together. Before you trash the relationship, think about whether or not it might be post-partum depression, or you need a vacation (you're burned out) or something like that.
He's the father of your son. Maybe you should talk it out with him and give him a chance to work on the two of you. He seems like a good guy.
If you try everything you can (and I mean everything) and you're still miserable, then you'll have to gently let him off the hook and break it off.
I just feel bad if he's actually a good guy and is about to get hurt. Too many hurt people in the world.
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