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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Once I found out a girl likes me, I lose interest!
Q. Ive been sorta keeping my eye out for a possible relationship with someone, and lately with some of the girls I've met I feel like they could be worth getting to know more but once I find out that they like me or they say yes to a date I don't seem ...
A. 20 March 2011: It probably just means you haven't found the right person and aren't ready for a relationship. The reason you like these people and then lose interest is because you don't really like them, you enjoy the thrill of the chase. It's exciting, but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a complete bore with sex!
Q. My partner is a complete bore in sex and ejaculates in about five minutes and then when He is satisfied He won't carry on and please me! someone tell me what to do x...
A. 20 March 2011: You should have him pleasure you (with fingers or tongue) before even getting to sex. Most women can't orgasm from penetration alone anyways, and it's entirely possible for you to orgasm pre-sex. Foreplay is a misleading term, since most women ... (read in full...)
Should I feel jealous and annoyed that there is porn everywhere?
Q. dear cupid, i am geting anoyed with my husband's porn. not only has he purchased many dvds of porn but its everywhere on our computer, on our ps3, one our phone, and he even orders it through our cable! I found all this out about a month ago ...
A. 17 March 2011: The question is not should you, but do you? Since you do you have to decide what part of it annoys you. Is it the excessive amount? Is it the money? Are you just opposed to it in all circumstances? You need to talk to him to try to come up with a ... (read in full...)
Sex with virgins; STD risk?
Q. If I have had sex with three people and all of them were virgins, is there any chance of me having an STD?...
A. 13 March 2011: If they were truly virgins then probably not. But there's no harm in getting tested at your next pap smear (which you should be getting every other year at your age since you're sexually active). Better safe than sorry, since a lot of STDs don't ... (read in full...)
Safe with birth control?
Q. Im currently on Birth control have been for 5 years none of my previous boyfriends (2) ever cam inside of me.. my boyfriend now wants to. Not all the time but just every once and a while.. im not sure if i should let him iv never done that b4 ...
A. 13 March 2011: As long as you are both STD free, then it's fine. That's actually how the pill is meant to be used, you don't need a condom too or to pull out. Just make absolute sure you are taking the pill at the same time every day. Set an alarm and be diligent. ... (read in full...)
2 Acne Questions
Q. 1. Acne as I envisioned it is patches or white headed zits if pushed on the head comes out an an irritated patch of skin is left. I haven't had those for about a year and a half now, but what I've started getting more and more are large, shiny, ...
A. 13 March 2011: This is a question for a dermatologist, though vitamin E works great on scarring. My friend had a giant gash on her face that the doctor told her to rub vitamin e on. She just bought the capsules, broke them open and rubbed them into her skin.
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Using birth control pills to time a period?
Q. My boyfriend is coming to see me next month. He's coming on the 21 and I really don't want to have my period then. I want to take birth control pills this month on the 13 so I'll get them around the same time next month. Do I have to be on my period ...
A. 13 March 2011: It's not a good idea to start birth control pills just to time your periods better. But no you don't have to be on your period to start the pills, but starting in the middle of your cycle means you won't be protected as soon. I couldn't say what it ... (read in full...)
Best condom for my bf to use so I don't get pregnant?
Q. My bf and are both 18 and want sex what the best condom he can use to prevent pregnancy im not on the pill and don't want to be ...
A. 13 March 2011: The only thing that's important is that they fit him. Any latex condom is fine, just make sure you get the size right or it could slip off. ... (read in full...)
If your hymen is broken will you bleed during 1st time sex?
Q. dear cupid, are you still considered a virgin if your hymen is broken and you haven't had sex? also, if your hymen HAS been broken before your first time, is it likely that you will still bleed?...
A. 10 March 2011: If your hymen is already broken you probably won't bleed. Whether or not your hymen is intact has nothing to do with whether or not you are a virgin, the only thing that makes you not a virgin is having penetrative sex.... (read in full...)
Is squirting fake?
Q. Hi guys!! Do women really squirt?? i read many articles stating that it is fake?...
A. 10 March 2011: All women are capable of squirting, but it's extremely difficult for many (most even) and some women don't like the sensation or sensation required to do so. The squirting in porn is most definitely 100% fake, they're just peeing. It's really not ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants us to stay in different rooms for a month!
Q. my girlfriend turned round to me as i was about to get into bed last night and said she wanted us to stay in different rooms and not have sex for a month so she can work herself out and that it wont be a problem if i love her. Someone tell me how i ...
A. 9 March 2011: Well it's not good news... A break usually means the other person is reconsidering the relationship. But hopefully, she'll realize that she misses you if you give her the space she needs.... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend. Is it normal to have a crush on someone else?
Q. DEAR Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for one year and i truly love me him, he's like my best friend, we have the greatest relationship. I just started a new job and theres a guy there thats super cute and really nice. For some odd reason I ...
A. 9 March 2011: It's normal to an extent, but it's treading dangerous waters to be flirting with him, especially if you like him. It may seem innocent, but if the tables were flipped, how would you like it knowing your boyfriend was not only crushing on someone, ... (read in full...)
I have a perfect relationship since a young age, but friends have said I'm missing out..
Q. Ok i am now 19 and have been going out with my boyfriend for four and a half years. He is the only guy i have seriously been with and well, the only guy ive been with (vice versa). I have a tight knit group of friends and we have all been hanging ...
A. 9 March 2011: Missing out on what? If you're happy, then you're not really missing out on anything. It's not worth sabotaging a happy relationship because your friend says there's better stuff out there.
As for this other guy, same deal. It's not worth sabotagi... (read in full...)
Do girls masturbate without thinking of boys?
Q. i have a girlfriend. i am in a relationship for the past 1 year. we started speaking of sex and all for quite some time now. initially she would tell me that she loved someone else and had slept on the arm of her classmate in d school while in ...
A. 8 March 2011: Anyone can masturbate to anything they like. Some people masturbate thinking of people they know, some masturbate thinking of celebrities, some think of scenarios not involving anyone in particular, some just enjoy the feeling. I'd imagine she's ... (read in full...)
I believe I have OCD and its only getting worse...help!
Q. Hello I'm a 15 year old girl, and I have serious case of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder.) I have had it ever since i was about 11years old. I'm not really sure what to do about it, I have not been diagnosed with it, but all the signs are poin...
A. 8 March 2011: You need to go talk to a therapist. This isn't the kind of thing you can just think away. They prescribe you something, like an anti-anxiety medication to help deal with the fear that comes from not having every germ gone or every electronic ... (read in full...)
He got an erection from just cuddling?
Q. me and my boyfriend were snuggling on the sofa together, and he got an erection.. Whats with that?, We were just watching a film, not even kissing.. I don't understand why it happened.. ...
A. 8 March 2011: Because you were touching and you are attracted to each other. It's not unusual at all. Why is this a bad thing that he's attracted to you?... (read in full...)
Am I imagining emotional abuse? I am so desperately confused! Please help!
Q. My husband (of 16 years) is an intelligent, kind man. He does not drink or abuse drugs. He is not violent. He does not gamble. I can see eyes rolling and people asking, "So, what's the problem?" We've been together 21 years in all, and it's con...
A. 8 March 2011: No you're not imagining things, he's not treating you with respect or kindness. I know communication is hard, but it sounds like you're very unhappy in this marriage. Can you go to marriage counseling? They can help with the communication aspect.... (read in full...)
Bleeding but scared to see a gynae doctor
Q. I have this weird problem that Im a virgin 32 year old and still not been able to give in to my guy, even though I fantasize so much and so wanna have sex but even the mere thought makes me so wet that now I even bleed while Im with him and ...
A. 8 March 2011: Why are you scared to see a gynecologist? They don't bite! I'm afraid medical help is not a good thing to seek online. It doesn't hurt to get an exam and she can tell you if what's going on is normal or not.... (read in full...)
I used my partners email to set up a Facebook account, now I have no privacy..
Q. hi i have no privacy when i first set up facebook account i did so useing my partners email add,it was his idea.an also i did,nt have email add cus i only recently started useing a computer.unknown to me i did,nt know everytime i got contacted on ...
A. 8 March 2011: Just change the email setting to send to you. Explain to him that you want to know when someone sends you a message or something. It's reasonable to want notifications sent to you not him. Besides, if you don't have access to his facebook, he ... (read in full...)
Is her discomfort an excuse for not wanting more?
Q. So I read tons of stuff on here about girls being able to go for round after round of sex, and Its left me with a lot of questions. My girlfriend and I have, from what I can see, a very good sex life. Though we are both in high school, we do it...
A. 8 March 2011: It doesn't sound like anything is wrong. It sounds like she's orgasmed and is done/hypersensitive. Not all women are capable of multiple orgasms from sex. The fact that she even has an orgasm from sex is great. Multiple orgasms usually happen very ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 March 2011: Here's some food for thought:
Since most people consider cybersex (even with someone you will never meet) cheating but porn is absolutely not cheating, is that an allusion to the idea that women in porn seem less than human? I've heard people t... (read in full...)
Getting pregnant without sex?
Q. Neither me or my boyfriend have ever had sex before, but we do other things together. I was just wondering how low/high the chances are of getting pregnant if he doesn't ejaculate near my vagina, but his penis touches it and rubs against it while ...
A. 7 March 2011: The chances are very low, but that isn't zero. It would be though if he doesn't ejaculate and you leave your underwear on. Or just have him wear a condom.... (read in full...)
Doctor cut out part of cervix and now I've lost sensations!
Q. I have a problem ever since my OB cut part of my cervix out i have lost sexual sensation. She was tring to to a biopsy in the uterus i could never deliver vaginally and she insisted on going through the cervix. Now I have lost sensation and she ...
A. 7 March 2011: That should not have affected your sensation. You should call your doc right away to get it looked at.... (read in full...)
Can someone contract STDs or mouth infection through oral sex?
Q. Hi I have never tried any form of oral sex. I have a fantasy about it but i'm scared i might get any form of STD or infection of the mouth. Is it possible to contract the above mentioned diseases through oral sex? Also should i ignore the natur...
A. 7 March 2011: There's always a small chance, but it's highly unlikely. It's more likely a woman would contract one if she swallowed. Also yes all vaginas have a smell to them, many men find it attractive. All women smell different, and no there isn't really any ... (read in full...)
Unexpectedly pregnant and not sure if I really want a termination....
Q. Ok so here goes. Im in a relationship with an amazing man. he's 22 and im 26 We've been together for just over a year and i have fallen unexpectedly pregnant. We have discussed it and decided the best option in a termination ( I don't want you views ...
A. 7 March 2011: This isn't the choice about where to set on Friday night, it affects the rest of your life. Are you really prepared to sacrifice the next 18 years of your entire life because of what your boyfriend thinks? YouWish said it perfectly, that this is the ... (read in full...)
He's asked me out on a date but he's so effeminate!!!
Q. Hey, I have been talking to this dude for about a week. Get on great with him! Hes lovely, hes really funny and quite ambitious. The thing is, hes quite feminine, haha. I think hes gay like! And he did ask he out on two days ago for a date. Now ...
A. 7 March 2011: Gay men aren't effeminate. It's a very negative cultural stereotype to assume men who show any "feminine qualities" are gay. Very confining. Do you not like him because you think he's gay or because you're not attracted? ... (read in full...)
I feel so unattractive. how can he love me?
Q. I constantly feel fat and ugly, and its effecting my love life, I feel like my boyfriend is getting bored of me because of this. ...
A. 7 March 2011: He won't get bored of your looks but he'll certainly get bored of low self esteem. There is nothing sexier in the world than a woman who is confident in herself and her body. I almost guarantee you that given the choice between an average looking ... (read in full...)
Does it seem weird to anyone else or am I letting my imagination and pms get to me?
Q. Hello everyone I just have a quick question...so my boyfriend and I of about 4 years are very serious and live together and all that. We have both made mistakes in this relationship to kind of hinder the trust but we have buikt it back up and been ...
A. 7 March 2011: This has nothing to do with pms. The amount of detail and thought you put into writing this is mildly concerning. I know it's easy to fall into a schedule when you live together, so when he deviates from it slightly it can feel odd. But like ... (read in full...)
I'm Freaked Out by Beer, and My Boyfriend Drinks (Reasonably)
Q. I come from a long line of alcoholics, and addiction traits run in my family. As a result, I really hate beer, as I'm watching my grandfather rink himself to death with it. I live very healthily, not drinking and never touching anything like a ...
A. 7 March 2011: Wow what a nice gesture on his part! About the meetings, there are two types. Alcoholics Anonymous is for recovering addicts, but Al-Anon is for family and friends of addicts. As I'm sure you've realized, it's very difficult to make it through ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I want to be friends with one of my closest friend's bf?
Q. Is it weird that I want to be friends with one of my closest friend's bf? They've been going out for a month, and I just met him. I just feel like him and I have so much in common, more then they have in common. Like we like music and art, but my ...
A. 7 March 2011: Very thin ice you're treading on. I don't think you're being honest with yourself about this. It doesn't sound like you really have any interest in being friends, you just want to date him. You should stay away. You're saying some very telling ... (read in full...)
Did he really want to break up or was he just angry?
Q. Last week I had an argument by text message with my long distance boyfriend. I sheepishly text him the next day to apologise and he text back saying that he didn't hate me or not want to talk to me, but that he felt that this was very much the end. ...
A. 6 March 2011: Stop being stubborn and call him to have a talk about this. If he's stubborn too, you will have to take the initiative to work things out. It does sound like most likely he was just angry, but you have to call him to talk it out if you want to fix ... (read in full...)
Why do my friends hate the idea of me being pregnant?
Q. Why do my friends hate the idea of me being pregnant? I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years now and I feel like I am ready to have a child with him. And hopefully he does too. I know I should ask him first but as a young woman I have asked ...
A. 6 March 2011: They would probably disapprove not because you'll give up partying, travel, and drinking but because at your age your life is changing a lot. This is frequently the age when your life changes the most it probably ever will. Maybe one or both of you ... (read in full...)
How do I lose weight in my thighs?
Q. hey guys... im not one of them people who are obsessed with their figure and saying *OMG I GOTTA LOSE THIS HALF KILO.. coz im not like that... im not being vain but im happy with how i look.. thing is im really curvy; therefore fat thighs, u just d...
A. 6 March 2011: I see from your age you're going through puberty. As women we naturally accumulate fat on our stomachs, thighs, hips, and butts. There is really no way not to. The women in fashion magazines who tell us that we can easily lose that weight are either ... (read in full...)
I'm Freaked Out by Beer, and My Boyfriend Drinks (Reasonably)
Q. I come from a long line of alcoholics, and addiction traits run in my family. As a result, I really hate beer, as I'm watching my grandfather rink himself to death with it. I live very healthily, not drinking and never touching anything like a ...
A. 6 March 2011: It's understandable you'd be sensitive about it, and since it's in your family it's probably a good idea for you to stay away from it to some extent.
That said, it doesn't sound like your boyfriend has a problem. One beer once in awhile is reall... (read in full...)
I don't have concrete evidence, but my gut tells me my boyfriend is cheating! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 years has gone from having some porn on is pc to something like 16 porn sites. I don't mind that, but I’ve found him on a dating site. I challenged him and he's no longer on it, but I have a feeling he's cheating on me. Over the ...
A. 5 March 2011: It really sounds like he's cheating. The sudden need to protect his phone, outbursts about you being "crazy," and the dating sites. I'd go with your gut feeling on this.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to pressure my wife to masterbate before sex, even if she doesn't like it?
Q. I love to watch or help my wife masturbate two or more times a week. We do have great sex after the masturbation. She says she does not like it but only does it because I like it and the all around sex after it. How do I get her to maybe want to ...
A. 5 March 2011: No you're not wrong for wanting it or asking. But if she doesn't want to do it, it is wrong to force her. She's probably feeling self-conscious or uncomfortable doing something so private in front of you. Try talking to her about it during a ... (read in full...)
Can you access facebook if you are incarcerated?
Q. Ok I got a question for you...can you comment and access your facebook account if you are incarcerated??? I am confused because I have a friend who told me he is in jail (in new jersey if that helps) and he is commenting on posts on his facebook ...
A. 5 March 2011: No, he's definitely lying to you. If he wanted to communicate with you you'd have to get approved first. http://www.bop.gov/inmate_programs/trulincs_faq.jsp.... (read in full...)
I like oral sex, but I do not enjoy intercourse, and I see it as a burden. How can I learn to enjoy sex?
Q. I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend just over a year now. He's the only person I've ever had sex with and I've never really enjoyed it. I enjoy oral sex, but whilst we are having intercourse I don't feel much at all and I feel as if sex is a ...
A. 25 February 2011: Like another poster said, only around 25% of women can orgasm from intercourse. You shouldn't have it if it's not something you like. It's not good for you or your relationship to do something it sounds like you can't stand, you'll start to resent ... (read in full...)
Have I pushed her into this other guy's arms by refusing to be friends with her after the break up?
Q. My girlfriend of two years recently separated after living together for 5 months. She immediately began dating a coworker that she had been spending a lot of time with. It's now been two months and they are still together. She tells me she still lo...
A. 25 February 2011: I couldn't say whether there is hope or not. But I am 99% sure you didn't push her farther away. It sounds like she liked him and they either planned to get together or they were already together (since it's not typical to come out of a long term ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant - what will happen to my child, and the father?
Q. I'm 14 and pregnant and i'm not getting rid of it, but if I don't what will happen to the father of my child?, and would social services take it off me? ...
A. 25 February 2011: I understand the pill doesn't agree with you, it's not for everyone, but you should be on a reliable form of birth control especially since it's illegal to be having sex at your age. As well, if he is older than 16 he could be in a ton of trouble. I ... (read in full...)
Is flirting online a form of cheating?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years. Our arguments have always been about him flirting with women on Facebook or MySpace. Is that considered cheating if hes flirting online and he tells women he's single? ...
A. 25 February 2011: Cheating, probably not. Being extremely obnoxious and disrespectful, yes.... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant - what will happen to my child, and the father?
Q. I'm 14 and pregnant and i'm not getting rid of it, but if I don't what will happen to the father of my child?, and would social services take it off me? ...
A. 25 February 2011: That depends on how old he is. If he winds up on the birth certificate it's considered an admission of guilt. You are not legally considered able to consent to sex of any kind. Can I ask why you didn't use protection?... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 October 2010: Randomly from a cool blog (http://www.antipornmen.org/), apparently awhile ago some guy who worked as a porn reviewer for Hustler magazine opened up about his job, and had some pretty interesting things to say:
h... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: Yes it is a lot faster and easier. I know, I've actually had a significant amount of experience with this too. What I'm saying is that it's just sad that it's so deeply embedded in people's sexuality that some people literally cannot tell the ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: "For many men porn is equated with masturbation in their mind." I honestly don't mean offense when I say this, but I hear this a lot and it's very sad to me. People have been masturbating since the beginning of our existence, and it's only recently... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 October 2010: I've been reading around on this site for a long time, and the amount of entitlement many of these men feel about their porn use is astounding. It's been so solidly drilled into most of them that they assume that any woman who has a problem with it ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 October 2010: Not that anyone is reading this anymore, but I just stumbled onto a really interesting study from 1999, and I'm just going to copy and paste the abstract here. If I was doing the study I'd personally have picked a larger sample size, but from what ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 30 September 2010: "Why should the guys happiness over rule the womans? If she's already insecure and that makes it worse, why wouldn't he want to make her feel better?"
I've been asking myself this question for a long time. Obviously it's very hard to put your... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 15 September 2010: "Question- those antiporn, are you also completely against strip clubs etc?"
I'm not completely against porn or strip clubs. If porn existed in a vacuum where there were no similarities between what happened in porn and what happened in the real... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: I remember you also asking about women and porn and I read something interesting in the Washington Times saying women are MORE susceptible to porn addiction than men, basically because a woman using porn is far less stigmatized than a man using porn ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Disagree with your statistics Person12345" I cited them below. They are from studies and surveys, the most prominent being from the Kinsey Institute, another from the Witherspoon Institute, several from other books, all/most from academic scholarl... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Porn will always be around."
Yes. No matter what it is, whether it's bad or good, once it's been introduced it can't ever really just go away. But look, people said the same thing about cigarettes (they even had all the same "who are you to judg... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 September 2010: “Problem with your statistics, that around this time, George W Bush targeted funds to promote abstinence and no sex in schools. The research I've seen said that this didn't encourage teens to have sex later, but it did mean those on abstinence ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: As for teens, it isn't a good sign when you have 15 year olds quoted in the New York Times as saying things along the lines of why would anyone bother with dating when porn's so easy? As for boredom/anal, since 1995 (around when internet porn became ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Also when I talk about the objectification of women, I'm not talking about how women who do porn are treated. I'm talking about portrayal. If we want to get into the people who do porn, there is fairly little sex trafficking of men. There are far ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: "Either men are being objectified and 'marketed' as much as women, or neither are at all. And frankly, if all you can see is said 'objectification' I think that says something about your insecurities." This is a joke, right? It's the old, well men... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: And when I say all people, I just mean people in the US UK and parts of western Europe as that's really the only place reliable data are available.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: "it's 85% of people who use porn.."
Well actually it's approximately 70% of men and 30% of women who use porn, which means around half of all people.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: I said that you don't need any sort of "warning" traits like an addictive personality or family history or what have you to become addicted. Anyone can become addicted and no one is in any kind of a low-risk category. Some people may have a slight ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 28 August 2010: Well porn IS addictive and between 15-20% of users do get addicted. Sure not everyone gets addicted, but it is addictive. It's not like we gloss over how addictive cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol are because not everyone gets addicted.
"but sure... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 25 August 2010: Sorry for not responding. Today is my last day of packing.
Yes I agree with Gabrielle, in the past few years, maybe 5-10 since I was in high school, porn has changed. I remember being a teen looking at the stuff with friends a few times, and it seem... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 24 August 2010: Hey so I found a book you might be interested in. Well it's not a book, but it's a report by the Witherspoon Institute where they got 54 experts together to discuss the social implications pornography. I haven't finished reading it, but it's ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Mia I was saying it IS controlling. Definitely is. I was just saying asking people to do anything from not cheating, to taking out the garbage is also controlling. A relationship is just about deciding what kind of control you'll agree to. I'd find ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: If men should give up porn to prove their love, should women also stop wearing make up and wear a head to foot black Burka (the black tent dress that some Muslim women wear) to stop other men from noticing them.
Actually my boyfriend hated th... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yes I heard GGW has actually had a profoundly negative impact on many of the women who participated as well (shocking, I know *sarcasm*). Some have apparently been so humiliated by the experience that they drop out of school. Obviously some probably ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Aunt in hiding? Well, I guess don't much like that. I am, well me, I just didn't want to be forever associated with being super anti-porn on this site since that's not the stance I intend to take when giving advice. But if you insist...... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Because frequently, people who are against it view it as cheating. So to them, compromising on this is like saying OK you can have sex with other women once in awhile, so long as I don't know about it. From the other side, they are unwilling to ... (read in full...)
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