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26-29,
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writes:I constantly feel fat and ugly, and its effecting my love life, I feel like my boyfriend is getting bored of me because of this. Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 He won't get bored of your looks but he'll certainly get bored of low self esteem. There is nothing sexier in the world than a woman who is confident in herself and her body. I almost guarantee you that given the choice between an average looking woman with lots of confidence and an extremely good looking woman with low self esteem, the guy would take the confidence.
He's with you because he thinks you're attractive. You can't change the way you look (and I'm 100% sure you're more attractive than you think) but you can change your attitude about the way you look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): He will get bored if you are always running yourself down. It is not attractive to be negative about yourself. Confidence in itself is attractive. You have to learn to like yourself, it is important.
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (7 March 2011):
 You say you, "constantly feel fat and ugly". Then you have to change that.
So, in writing this out, now you know that in order for you to feel more self confident about yourself you'll be commiting yourself to:
1. healthier food, 3 days of cardio and 3 days of strength training.
2. Ugly? What do you find ugly about yourself? Are you talking about lack of fashion? or lack of T.L.C (tender, loving, care)?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 March 2011):
 There's nothing more unattractive than a person who can't be convinced otherwise!
Does he ever compliment you? Tell you you're beautiful? If so, how do you react? Probably, "you're just saying that." It's like you don't believe him.
Think of it this way, when you think these negative things about yourself, it makes your BF feel like you don't trust his judgement. Like you don't trust him when he tells you you're beautiful.
He's likely not bored, but rather he's disheartened because he likes you but you hate yourself. You can't truely love others if you don't first love yourself. It sounds cliche, but it's true.
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