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female
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36-40,
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writes:Last week I had an argument by text message with my long distance boyfriend. I sheepishly text him the next day to apologise and he text back saying that he didn't hate me or not want to talk to me, but that he felt that this was very much the end. I quickly called him and all he said was that it wasn't going well and there was no point in carrying on any longer. This was quite unexpected, as the weekend before he had taken me to a work dinner and introduced me to his colleagues. I asked him why he couldn't have done it in person 5 days earlier and he said at that point he hadn't wanted to. We haven't really had a conversation about the break up, so I don't know his reasons beside "it's not working". I do however know why I think it wasn't working, and this could be very easily fixed with a bit more communication. I left him 5 days without contact and then sent him a friendly text message, which didn't need a reply, just to show that I wasn't angry and it was ok. He replied immediately and then sent another 5 texts. I just replied and didn't ask him anything, but each time he came back with another question and talked about neutral topics (for example a film that he knew I loved that he watched the day after we broke up and he thought was great). After about 5 messages I cut the conversation off saying that I was going to bed but we should speak soon, and he then sent me a goodnight message. We are both quite stubborn people, and I don't think he really wanted to break up with me, but was just angry with me after the argument. Do you think this is the case and that he still has feelings for me? If he didn't want to talk to me, I don't understand why he would keep texting asking questions. What should I do now?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 Stop being stubborn and call him to have a talk about this. If he's stubborn too, you will have to take the initiative to work things out. It does sound like most likely he was just angry, but you have to call him to talk it out if you want to fix things. Just bite the bullet and call.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 Stop being stubborn and just ask him straight out if you can both work on things. You both need to communicate open and honest if you want the relationship to work, and yes it does sound like he may have broken up with you because of a silly argument that you both had and never spoke about it properly. So tell him how you feel and ask him is he prepared to work on it. Its the only thing you can do to try and resolve this. Goodluck Sweetie.
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