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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 21 October 2010: I don't know if that's really fair to say he just wants to get off. I just listened the other day to a guy in a magazine waxing poetic about how his favorite way to show his love is to have sex with his wife and how it's the most loving act he can ... (read in full...)
Bennefits of Porn
Q. Hi: I have read a lot of negative things at forums about the dangers and evil of PORN (OMG) and wish to offer my perspective on Porn. When I got caught up in Porn, it was not because something was missing in my current marriage. I just liked ...
A. 19 October 2010: Cerberus, next time before you blow up in anger and tell me all the studies I've cited, which are all either in peer-reviewed journals or in well-researched books, why not try actually reading these studies you seem convinced are totally wrong? You ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 18 October 2010: "I'm saying that, just as one spouse may have to go without sometimes, it's only fair for the other to put out for a quickie now and again."
I agree with this completely and get a lot of flack for saying it on other posts. If me or my partner (who... (read in full...)
Boyfriend ejaculates but doesn't orgasm. Any suggestions?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the past 6 months and we are having problems in the bedroom. He has never had an orgasm, he still ejaculates but he doesn't orgasm. I didn't even know that they were two different things until I met him. ...
A. 18 October 2010: Well then the only thing you can do is go to the doctor, who will probably refer him to a psychologist. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Raised my stepdaughter as my real child up until I caught her having sex
Q. I am 44 and have been happily married for 10 years. I have no children of my own, but my wife has a daughter from a previous marriage. I love her to death and raised her as my own since she was 6 years old. She is now 16, turning 17 in 2 months ...
A. 15 October 2010: For the cost of counseling, normally I wouldn't say lying is EVER the best course of action, but in this case, I'd tell your wife that you feel traumatized by walking in on her or something along those lines. Nothing good can come from telling your ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend ejaculates but doesn't orgasm. Any suggestions?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the past 6 months and we are having problems in the bedroom. He has never had an orgasm, he still ejaculates but he doesn't orgasm. I didn't even know that they were two different things until I met him. ...
A. 15 October 2010: Hi I know I wasn't the one to originally put the name on it, but I'm familiar with the problem, and it's not always (or even mostly) a problem with women, or a problem letting go. It's really the type of thing that he needs to go to a doctor for, ... (read in full...)
Pregnant wife questions husband's fidelity after finding sex profile
Q. I'm eight months pregnant and I recently found out that my husband has a sex profile on a website that he frequently visits. I learned this from a friend who stumbled across it on her search for whatever. She sent me a link and the most recent time ...
A. 14 October 2010: sexlessintheuk is spot on. Before making a big commitment, like having a baby, getting married, etc... a lot of people (guys especially though) have a total panic attack and go crazy. I don't think he cheated, he sounds like he was being honest with ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be a guy who doesn't like porn
Q. Ok here is the situation, I am visually turned on by females, and always have been. Thats important because the next part of what im about to say hinges off that fact. Porn as a whole has never done anything for me. I have always been more ...
A. 14 October 2010: You are not the only nor are you weird. I think it's really sad how much pressure a lot of guys are under to like it/watch it. Somewhere between 25 and 30% of guys never watch/don't like it, and most women wish that number was a lot higher.
The n... (read in full...)
Lonely... my boyfriend of two years just moved out, out of the blue!
Q. I am so confused.. my boyfriend of the last 2 years just moved out, out of the blue. We have lived together almost the entire time. We have had some money issues and he is not used to not having extra money to spend. He says he still wants to be ...
A. 14 October 2010: The only thing you can do is give him his space. Don't call or text AT ALL unless he contacts you first. Let him have his space. If that's the reason he left, then if you give him his space he'll realize what he's missing and come back. If you ... (read in full...)
Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 13 October 2010: We're not saying there should be no secret solo activity. Well maybe minus the secret part. I don't think you'd find many couples where neither person ever masturbates. We're not saying you shouldn't encourage him to occasionally masturbate if you ... (read in full...)
Raised my stepdaughter as my real child up until I caught her having sex
Q. I am 44 and have been happily married for 10 years. I have no children of my own, but my wife has a daughter from a previous marriage. I love her to death and raised her as my own since she was 6 years old. She is now 16, turning 17 in 2 months ...
A. 13 October 2010: No don't talk to your wife. You need to seek professional help so you can get your relationship with your daughter back to normal.... (read in full...)
How do you do something spontaneous?
Q. i wan to do something spontaneous/be moe spontaneous for my girlfriend?how do i do that? any suggestions? :D...
A. 12 October 2010: Show up at school with a picnic for lunch. Or just give her little gifts for no reason (thoughtful personal ones, not super expensive ones). Leave her little thoughtful notes, like in her mailbox or something. Take her someplace really exciting and ... (read in full...)
Why do I find teenage girls attractive?
Q. Hey, I'm a 22 year old guy and would just like to know why I still find teenagers attractive, nothing under legal age of course, just barely legal really turns me on. My last few girlfriends have all been 16, it's not that I don't find girls my own ...
A. 12 October 2010: You need to back off the teenagers, as you're definitely going to be viewed as a pervert. It's unhealthy to have a fixation on such young girls. You should ask yourself why, because women in their 20's are "young and beautiful" as well. Are you sure ... (read in full...)
Does fingering mean I'm not a virgin?
Q. I see sex as a binding act of marriage, but I'm with a guy I love. I told him I do not want to have sex, and he's ok with that. The thing is, every time I'm with him, things get a little further. I enjoy it, but should I? Last time I was wi...
A. 12 October 2010: Fingering does not make you any less of a virgin, just as using tampons, or masturbating does not make you less of a virgin. You are not lying to anyone. Why do you hold yourself to such a high level of "purity?" If what you're doing feels good to ... (read in full...)
Does spotting count as your period?
Q. Does spotting count as my rag?? My rag was to start oct. 6 and I spotted on the 8 and then again on the 9. Is that my rag or just spotting. And does anyone know why that might happen. ( I am under a lot of stress right now) but thanks for anyones ...
A. 12 October 2010: Stress can really mess up your cycle, causing missed and/or irregular periods. It's impossible to know if that was your period or just spotting, but unless it continues once your stress ends, don't worry about it. ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend needs to stop being so clingy!
Q. hello my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a week now. we have known eachother since summer only problem is i live 8 hours away from him so were doing the whole long distance thing. he is so clingy. i talk to him everyday and when i try and ...
A. 12 October 2010: You've only been dating a week and he's already bugging you? You should talk to him about it and ask him to back off. Otherwise, you've only invested a week, so it's better to know he's clingy before you're emotionally invested. ... (read in full...)
Lip gloss as a lubricant?
Q. Oh my gosh, well, I was like really well in the mood. And I used lip gloss as a lubricant, and I'm scared can this damage you? :/ Any help would be very much appreciated. ...
A. 12 October 2010: It can cause an infection, but other than that or irritation you will be fine. Take a shower and wash it off as best you can and don't use that again. You'd be safer using some vaseline or something. Why not go to the drugstore and buy some cheap ... (read in full...)
Because of my abusive sexual past my boyfriend is afraid of overstepping bounds
Q. Hi, so I'm having some serious issues here. I wont disclose any actual information or names, hence anonymous, but I would really appreciate some advice. I've been dating my boyfriend steadily for almost two years now. We've reached a marker...
A. 12 October 2010: It's perfectly normal for him to feel nervous, like he's going to hurt or scare you. Reassure him that you will tell him to stop if it hurts, or if you're uncomfortable, or anything. You may want to come up with some kind of "safe word" or something ... (read in full...)
He sent emails to other women and says its because he's afraid I'm going to leave him
Q. My bf of 6 years, Lee, and I are struggling with trust issues due to betrayals by both of us (I slept with 2 other people our first year while he was married and he continues to be set up by friends, text/email females, set up accounts on dating ...
A. 12 October 2010: You need to leave this guy. He's dishonest and attempting to start relationships with other women. His "excuse" that he's afraid of you leaving him doesn't even make sense. It sounds like he was just scared that he got caught and blurted out the ... (read in full...)
Buying online erectile dysfunction meds
Q. Does anyone have experience buying ED meds from online pharmacies without a prescription? I hear the ED drugs from India are safe and effective, but I also read that importation of generic ED drugs is illegal. There are some generic ED drugs that ...
A. 12 October 2010: It is illegal even if it's not the "brand name" and it's very dangerous. You need these meds from a doctor for a reason. If you are at risk for heart disease it can be fatal and it can interact with other medications in a dangerous way as well. ED ... (read in full...)
Too much masturbation?
Q. I've tried reading up on the internet about the effects of too much masturbation but i thoguht i'd ask on here too. I'm a 16 year old girl who's a virgin and doesn't want to lose it till 17 at least and I've been masturbating for probably around t...
A. 12 October 2010: It's not usually a problem unless it's interfering with other aspects of your life. Though 2-3 times a day sounds like it could be taking up a disproportionate amount of your life. Have you tried taking up hobbies? I mean there aren't any health ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 12 October 2010: Yeah I read the article when it came out. When women aren't making $0.80 to every dollar men make, which is actually more like $.40 to the dollar when you factor in how much more of childcare and healthcare women usually have to pay, when women hold ... (read in full...)
Should I disclose a past prostitute visit to my girlfriend?
Q. I am in a committed relationship now. However, a few years before, I lost my virginity to a prostitute. I did so because I was feeling depressed, things were looking bleak, and thought I wouldn't be in a relationship. I don't have any desire to ...
A. 12 October 2010: I wouldn't bring it up until she asks, which she will eventually (since she'll want to know who you lost your virginity to). Poke around a little first to see what she thinks about men who visit prostitutes. I wouldn't lie, since if she finds out ... (read in full...)
Why does she have to have the same name as my ex?!?
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles, I am currently friends with a girl who has the same name as my ex. Me and this girl have been spending so much time together in the summer and getting closer. We are not exclusively goin out but we have kissed once...
A. 12 October 2010: Who cares what your friends think. If she's someone you like, once they meet her they'll realize how cool she is. Don't let something as small as a name stop you from going after someone you like!... (read in full...)
Should I see a dietician before I embark on this new healthy lifestyle?
Q. Trying to improve my health and get into a healthy eating routine and start jogging to increase my energy levels and improve my libido drastically. Would it be advisable to see a dietician first to get started as I have no idea where to start a...
A. 12 October 2010: I'd at least get a book or something about how to eat healthy, and make sure you don't overdo it on the exercise. Be sure to give yourself at least one day off per week, and if you add in muscle building, like weights, sit-ups, etc... Don't do those ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 12 October 2010: Just because a female virgin is desired, doesn't make it any less sexist. It's not desired for any natural reason, it is simply because men, being in a more sexually privileged group, feel they are more entitled to feel angry and jealous than women ... (read in full...)
Are men who watch porn more likely to ogle women?
Q. I understand men glance, and I understand men look at attractive women. If the woman is extremely attractive or if she is scantily clad, I understand men will probably want to look a little longer. So, what I am wondering is if my boyfriend wat...
A. 12 October 2010: I've heard comments from ex-users (very rarely do people who are slowly inching that direction actually realize it's happening) to that extent, that people who watch oodles of porn find themselves staring at and dissecting by body part in real life ... (read in full...)
Was this a sign of ED, or just due to alcohol?
Q. Hello, this is a health related question something that I am pretty shy about and I will try not be too graphic. I am a 26 year old male, I do not smoke. I am a social drinker on weekends, but I drink in moderation. I "try" to eat healthy, I...
A. 12 October 2010: It sounds more like alcohol related problems than ED. Everyone is affected slightly differently from alcohol. Some people can be falling down drunk and still "get it up" while some people can have trouble after even half a drink. Don't worry too ... (read in full...)
We used to have sex all the time, now he can hardly be bothered
Q. Like most couples at the start of my relationship with my boyfriend we had plenty of sex, all the time and everywhere. I understand that it's normal for this to calm down a bit after a few months or so but recently my boyfriend is just tired all of ...
A. 12 October 2010: You should sit down and try to work out a solution. Maybe he's really stressed, that's the number one libido killer. Maybe he's bored and needs a little more "spice." Like jumping him at an unexpected time, wearing sexy lingerie, something like ... (read in full...)
In love with my single 25 year old teacher!
Q. Ok. I know you're going to say "Forget him" and "that's just stupid" but im still going to write it. I am 14 (nearly 15)years old, and i am crushing on my teacher who is 25 and is single. I am now in year 10 (14, nearly 15 years old). in year 8,...
A. 12 October 2010: Stay away. The only way he'd like you is if he was a pedophile, and then he would go to jail. It is illegal, it would get him fired (and thrown in jail) and basically ruin his life. Plus I guarantee you he's not interested. Find a hobby, do ... (read in full...)
Spicing up our foreplay!
Q. Im 23 an my wife is 21 we have been together for three yrs an married a lil over one. now at first sex life was great we both liked new things an she even set up three different times for threesums an i didnt even ask her. but know she says she dont ...
A. 12 October 2010: Why not go to a sex store and buy some fun toys? Or try role-playing?... (read in full...)
My wife is extremely jealous!
Q. My wife is extremely jealous. I need help. I can't look anywhere without her accusing me of checking women out. I'm not allowed to go out without her anywhere. When we watch TV, she expects me turn around every time a female comes on screen. I have ...
A. 12 October 2010: You should put your foot down about the counseling. Since there are kids involved and since this is such a long marriage, it would be a shame to just walk away from one issue. You need to tell her that if she doesn't agree to counseling/get some ... (read in full...)
Public intimacy
Q. Ladies what are your thoughts on public intimacy… How do you define public intimacy? What things/actions do you consider to be public intimacy? What things/actions do you consider to be appropriate/inappropriate expressions of public intim...
A. 12 October 2010: How do you define public intimacy?
Doing things you'd normally do in private, in public. Like making out, gazing mushily at each other, etc...
What things/actions do you consider to be public intimacy?
See above.
What things/actions do you co... (read in full...)
Do you always need to compromise on the things you want in a relationship?
Q. Hi there. I broke up with my boyfriend (of 3 years) about a month ago because he was downloading porn. He refused to meet me half way on the subject and didn't care about how i felt on the topic. To be clear, the issue is not him downloading porn...
A. 12 October 2010: It sounds like things just weren't good with your ex. While it's pretty much impossible to find someone you're PERFECT with, you shouldn't feel like you have to shelve your feelings or "put up" with anything that you really don't like. Someone who ... (read in full...)
Co-worker offered sex for money!
Q. Not sure what to make of this. I was involved with a woman from work earlier this year. She ended things and went back to her ex and has been hot and cold with me ever since (she's generally nice to me when she wants something). She's been invol...
A. 12 October 2010: Definitely don't get involved in a relative stranger's finances. I'd just stay away from the whole situation. Don't lend her any money, and certainly don't pay her for sex.... (read in full...)
Do you have to ask to buy laxatives?
Q. Do you have to buy laxatives over the counter? I want some for my bowel trouble but its quite an embarressing thing to ask for. Do they ask you any questions and do you just ask for sumply 'laxatives' coz i know theres lots of different types. ...
A. 12 October 2010: I agree with Aunty BimBim. Laxatives at your age are a bad idea unless you desperately (like seriously desperately) need them. Have you tried some cod liver oil or prune juice? Make sure you're getting enough fiber in your diet, eating whole grains, ... (read in full...)
Bennefits of Porn
Q. Hi: I have read a lot of negative things at forums about the dangers and evil of PORN (OMG) and wish to offer my perspective on Porn. When I got caught up in Porn, it was not because something was missing in my current marriage. I just liked ...
A. 11 October 2010: I wasn't going to touch this one, but...
56% of divorces cite pornography as a major reason for the divorce. That is more than due to cheating. (Paul, 2005)
"After watching only six hours of nonviolent pornography, research subjects were mu... (read in full...)
How can I go about blanking out the flirting so that it does not get to me?
Q. My boyfriend flirts a lot with girls. But it is clear he loves me an will never cheat. How can I go about blanking out the flirting so that it does not get to me? Need ways of doing this....
A. 11 October 2010: If you've already tried talking with him about it and it doesn't help, how does he react when you flirt with other guys? If he can't control his flirting, you shouldn't have to either. Give him a taste of his own medicine and see if that doesn't ... (read in full...)
First Time Oral Sex And Worried About A Smell
Q. hi im Ellz im 17 Hey Agony aunts and Uncles i need some advice! Ok so my bf and i have had sex before and ive given him oral before but hes never done it too me, And im worried, i keep 100% shaven down there anyway but im worried about mayb...
A. 11 October 2010: Just take a shower or bath beforehand and you'll be fine. Most guys are turned on by the smell. You don't need to keep 100% shaved to be attractive you know, many guys like some hair so long as it's trimmed.... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to have a crush on another female?
Q. Hi I am in my 2nd year of uni and I have this crush on a female lec and im female too? She's about 33 ish. Is this ok? lol I daydream about her and me together :s thanks...
A. 11 October 2010: Sure it's OK to daydream and fantasize however you like. Why wouldn't it be? But that is an enormous age gap and she's in a position of authority, so you should act on it. But it's healthy to fantasize about either gender.... (read in full...)
Horny while on period?
Q. Is it ok if i feel horny though i got my period?What to do?haha...
A. 11 October 2010: Totally normal. Many women report being their horniest while on their period. I'd assume you would do whatever you normally do when you get horny. Either go to the guy in your life or masturbate.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend ejaculates but doesn't orgasm. Any suggestions?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for the past 6 months and we are having problems in the bedroom. He has never had an orgasm, he still ejaculates but he doesn't orgasm. I didn't even know that they were two different things until I met him. ...
A. 11 October 2010: I've heard of this before, he should go talk to a doctor about it to see if counseling would help, since I'd imagine it's a psychological holdup.... (read in full...)
Normal for a guy to watch porn once a day?
Q. ok, just want to know is it normal for a guy to watch porn alot? i mean like almost once a day? and why? when you have the real thing that does anything you want and enjoys it just as much....and why don't he ever initiate if he just wants oral or ...
A. 11 October 2010: What Cerberus/Raphael said? Spot on.
Basically, if it is something that really bothers you, you should talk to him. And don't let him tell you that all guys do it or it's natural. Because neither is true. Ask him how he would feel if you were mas... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 11 October 2010: First to address the rape statistic, sorry I haven't looked at the statistics since high school, but according to Rainn.org (the largest American group working to end rape) the number is actually 1 in 6 now. Sorry for misrepresenting. Other than an ... (read in full...)
Why do men disappear giving you no closure and think it's OK?
Q. Why do men disappear or dump you and give you no closure and think its ok? This is what my ex did....
A. 11 October 2010: They don't think it's OK, it's just easier for them because they don't want to have to deal with someone breaking down and crying/begging/being devastated. It's not a gender specific thing, it's just something people do when they are cowards.... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation with boyfriend about unplanned pregnancy?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have started to have sex. Yes we use protection, but there is always a chance of pregnancy, and I believe it is the right thing if we talk about what we would do in that situation now then if it might happen. I want to know his ...
A. 10 October 2010: You can't know unless you talk to him about it. Also he has no right to judge a woman for what she chooses to do with her body. It is YOUR body, your choice. If he is someone who would leave you based on your decision to get an abortion, something ... (read in full...)
Devastated... Is my husband gay???
Q. Today was the worst day of my life. My husband thought he had cleared the history on our computer, but this time he wasn't thorough enough. When I clicked on what websites he was visiting, they included teenage girls, boys, she-males (this was the ...
A. 10 October 2010: I'm not sure what you mean by "his kind" of porn addiction. He fits the signs of what most addicts fit, meaning he's choosing porn over sex, and going to more and more extreme/weird porn (the shemales, looking at gay porn even though he's not gay) ... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation with boyfriend about unplanned pregnancy?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have started to have sex. Yes we use protection, but there is always a chance of pregnancy, and I believe it is the right thing if we talk about what we would do in that situation now then if it might happen. I want to know his ...
A. 10 October 2010: You just need to start talking about it sometime, in a non-sexual way. If you feel comfortable enough to actually have sex, you need to be comfortable to talk about sex and/or its possible consequences. This is a very important conversation to have, ... (read in full...)
Devastated... Is my husband gay???
Q. Today was the worst day of my life. My husband thought he had cleared the history on our computer, but this time he wasn't thorough enough. When I clicked on what websites he was visiting, they included teenage girls, boys, she-males (this was the ...
A. 10 October 2010: This doesn't mean he's gay. It means he has an addiction to porn. He's not choosing porn over you because he's gay, it's because he's developed a serious compulsion with porn that interferes with his life. This is not a reflection on you in any way, ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 10 October 2010: Yes I read that article in NY Mag. I wasn't particularly interested in the article but I did read through every single last comment. I couldn't help it. I got interested from seeing the anger around the issue on this website, and then the comments ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 4 October 2010: I agree about faking it, I never understood why it became so OK to fake it. It's so deceitful! I can't even imagine how much that would hurt, to be a guy and find out you don't rock her world as much as you thought you did. Plus all it does is ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 3 October 2010: "It common knowledge that for every one lie a man tells, the women tells ten."
Um, excuse me? That's an incredibly sexist assumption, just like that response in the marriage post saying white women are selfish and you won't date them anymore. I assu... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 1 October 2010: He could respect her wishes and stop. I know that some of the lying is about protecting her from hurt feelings, but a lot of the lying is also so he doesn't have to face up to the reality that he's hurting her and to avoid dealing with her getting ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 25 September 2010: "In the US, the whopping 85% reduction in rape in the last 25 years tracks almost exactly with a corresponding increase in availability of porn"
I've seen the study you're referring to and it has some flaws. First off, the significant reduction in r... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 22 September 2010: "most men don't want to understand because then we wouldn't be able to justify ourselves being able to watch it,"
Right on the money. Because you can't justify a need for porn beyond a need to get off to other women. There is no other way to just... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 21 September 2010: Because it's lying and hiding. Why is it so difficult to understand why lying and hiding something that hurts her, is hurtful? You say it's to spare her feelings. Yes, I get that, we all get that. But it's exactly the same reason people lie about ... (read in full...)
Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 15 September 2010: I'm not saying it's not normal, but I am saying making time for sex is really important. I know once kids come along it's REALLY tiring, but sex is the way men bond with their partner. I'm not saying it's wrong, if your sex drive just tapered off, ... (read in full...)
Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 15 September 2010: Once or twice a month is pretty infrequent (the definition for a sexless marriage is once a month or less)... Is there anything you need/want during sex that you're not getting? Sex is a very important part of a relationship. Do you get your needs ... (read in full...)
Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 9 September 2010: Be careful what you wish for... Why not buy a bottle of lube, give him a quick handjob, then you're both happy?
And I love that male anon answer about using her bum and his hands! LOL though sounds like a pretty good idea... You could always pose... (read in full...)
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