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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years. Our arguments have always been about him flirting with women on Facebook or MySpace. Is that considered cheating if hes flirting online and he tells women he's single?
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reader, hazeleyedjones  +, writes (25 February 2011):
Yes it is definitely a form of cheating and don't put up with it for a second longer. I know this from experience! I found my ex boyfriend doing the exact same thing and just let it go, then i checked his phone a found text messages to another girl arranging to meet up he swore they were just friends and nothing was happening. Few months later I checked his phone again and found a video he had taken involving her (i knew because i saw her on facebook) the video was of them having sex. You may think i'm stupid but we can be so easily manipulated by these type of men and if you let him away with this he will just push it to see how far he can take it. Please take my advice and walk away now before he hurts you anymore he obviously has no problem lying to you about this so what else is he lying about??
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 I don't think it's 'cheating' but in the words of Arnold Schwarzenegger he is being a 'girly man'. I'd say dump him in a way he'll remember that you think he's 'weak'. I wish you all the best!
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 If he's pretending to be single when in fact he's involved in a relationship with you, then yes it is a form a cheating in my opinion.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Cheating, probably not. Being extremely obnoxious and disrespectful, yes.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Not to mention showing you absolutely zero respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): Technically it's not as jmtmj and dirtball said. But he is opening that door and putting himself in the position where he could cheat, so while it's not cheating in the strictest sense of the word he is playing games and those games may very easily get out of hand.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (24 February 2011):
 I find it odd how everything seems to be classed as "cheating" these days. I think "cheating" and I think of somebody physically crossing the boundaries with somebody other than their partner. Everybody seems to have their own opinions as to what counts as cheating.
I don't see "flirting" as cheating, largely as its so subjective... what is considered flirting to one person can be considered normal conversation for another.
Saying he was single, well yeh, that's a lie and a scumbag thing to do. Would I personally consider it "cheating"... nah.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Technically it's not cheating because he hasn't been with any of those girls. Some will say it's a form of emotional cheating. But what's evident is he has clear intentions of cheating if he's telling these women he's single.
Dump him, it's really that simple. What's the point of being with a guy who is browsing for more options, and whom you can't trust?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 February 2011):
Cheating? Not so much in my opinion, but he is lying, hiding you, doing something he knows you don't like, disregarding your feelings...
I think it's time to tell him he's gotten his wish. He's now single and free to flirt with as many women online as he wants.
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reader, katie3  +, writes (24 February 2011):
I agree with CaringGuy and have just posted a similar question myself!
You will keep checking up on him: which it difficult to do without getting caught! I'd suggest checking his phone to make sure it has stayed on Fb and not gone any further x
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reader, Eilish +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Yes. If he's willing to tell them he is single, then it is classed as a form of cheating. Even though he's not cheating physically, he is hurting you. He should be telling these women to back off because he's with you, but instead he's chatting them up. Bit dodgy sweetie, I'd watch this one.xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 February 2011):
If he's there telling women he's single, in my opinion he's cheating. And if this argument has been ongoing, then perhaps the time has come for you to end it with him - because he sure has hell isn't going to change.
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