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Should I just leave him alone? I don't trust him now!
Q. helow. Im 19 and im having problems wit my bf. He is 20 and we have been going owt 4 two n a half years nw. He always says he loves me. Bt i dnt trust him. A year ago i found porn on his phone. I confronted him abowt it n he sed he wil neva du it ...
A. 27 September 2010: Your putting words into our mouth's...no one here has called you paranoid at all. Your lying yourself... in your original post, the main thing that made you angry is that your guy continued to look at pornography. This made you angry enough to ... (read in full...)
He doesn't even try to have sex with me anymore!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want me as much lately. He doesn't kiss me, hold me, or tell me he loves me as much as he used to. He don't even try to have sex with me anymore! He used to try A LOT! I don't know if he's bored of me or if he found ...
A. 15 September 2010: lol.. I believe in you Shelly, take time, compromise and work things out for both of you.
Wishing you happiness and health..
Before you get into an argument with this guy, come to Dear Cupid and argue with us instead.... (read in full...)
My 14 year old daughter is having sex with a 19 year old. How to handle this?
Q. i walked into my 14 year old step daughters room and found her having sex with her boyfriend who i later found out is 19 the age gap is really worryin me i dont think 14 year old girls would went to have sex do u think he couldve made her do it or ...
A. 13 September 2010: Sorry about that, but they are teenagers and really don't understand.. I think they missed your update. Hope your daughter is ok and is recovering from this upsetting incident.
You can contact the moderators to have this post closed if you wish... (read in full...)
don't want to leave him but hes got too much baggage... all we do is fight...HELP!?
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title. I've been with my current boyfriend for 4 years on and off and we live together now, but all we do is fight. we fight about everything from his drug dealing drinking having people over all the time and messing up the hous...
A. 12 September 2010: He's addicted and he won't get help. He's smoking all his money. Soon the weed won't be enough and he'll turn to the harder stuff.
This relationship will not work in the long term if he is addicted like this.
Sorry.. I wish you luck.... (read in full...)
He doesn't even try to have sex with me anymore!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want me as much lately. He doesn't kiss me, hold me, or tell me he loves me as much as he used to. He don't even try to have sex with me anymore! He used to try A LOT! I don't know if he's bored of me or if he found ...
A. 12 September 2010: Shelby, please stop being so stubborn. You can't force the world to work the way you want and always bow to your demands. If you love this guy, then try to compromise, try to find a way for him to be happy, without making you unhappy. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't even try to have sex with me anymore!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want me as much lately. He doesn't kiss me, hold me, or tell me he loves me as much as he used to. He don't even try to have sex with me anymore! He used to try A LOT! I don't know if he's bored of me or if he found ...
A. 11 September 2010: Although you say he wants to marry you, and has voluntary chosen to give up things which cause him pleasure, the bottom line is the guy is not happy. Remember you came here to find out why your guy isn't as loving as before. As you said, if he ... (read in full...)
I'm 43, she's 18 & pregnant and I didn't know she wanted more than sex. I don't want this!
Q. im 43 and slept with an 18 year old and now shes pregnant but thats not the only problem she said that she fort we was going out when we slept together i knew she gets very close to people too fast but i didnt realise she wanted more than sex i fort ...
A. 11 September 2010: Male anonymous, they hold him responsible because she is young, she lacks experience and has learning difficulties, so she has less ability to make sensible choices....
But I think he has learning difficulties too, so therefore he also makes un... (read in full...)
I slept with him knowing he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi, i'm writing this as i feel lost and very confused. Me and a male friend went out for drinks and i ended up drinking a lot that evening, he was drinking also but didn't seem that drunk. We were walking home and he held my hand, i let him as i ...
A. 11 September 2010: Please don't worry about the girlfriend, a mistake happened, your correcting it.. if he wants to tell, then it's his responsibility, she's not your problem, you made no promises to her... as you say, take yourself away from this mess and chalk it ... (read in full...)
He doesn't even try to have sex with me anymore!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want me as much lately. He doesn't kiss me, hold me, or tell me he loves me as much as he used to. He don't even try to have sex with me anymore! He used to try A LOT! I don't know if he's bored of me or if he found ...
A. 10 September 2010: To be with you, he has to quit drinking, chewing and he has to give up his friends.. and you wonder why the man is unhappy...
Why do you expect him to celebrate and be happy when you've taken away a lot of things that entertain him?
Now you... (read in full...)
Her dad hates me, and I can't figure out his reason!
Q. I am 19 yrs old and have been dating my girlfriend Jillian,who is 18 for a little over 8 months now. From the very beginning her family really liked me, I get along great with her brother and sister, and her parents loved me. We have a great ...
A. 10 September 2010: He's already forgiven you, you impressed him by dealing with things like a man... he didn't ban you, he only asked you to slow down.. I think this man will become a friend if you treat his daughter and family with respect.. again, well done on you.... (read in full...)
My friend is turning into a prostitute!
Q. This is a question concerning my best friend from school. She is 27 years old and was very "normal"...good at studies, we spent time together, had crushes...the works. I left my hometown a few yrs back to pursue higher studies, and I dont get to see ...
A. 10 September 2010: Spot on Jonas and aunts... try building her another world, where love, fun and acceptance isn't built on sex or money... It needs to be a wider circle than just you and your boyfriend, that will make her feel low and increase her jealousy and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says I nag him, am I a bad girlfriend?
Q. Hi dear cupid advisors, My bf has been pulling away from me recently, i have asked him why here is what he says: he thinks i am a nag, he is in debt, i have been telling him not to spend, save his money, cut up his cards. i have access to his ...
A. 10 September 2010: "He's not a very confident person, and i am the only one he's got."
Oh shit, the guy is really fucked then... he should think about starting to date men, if he has any balls left by the time you finish with him....
Your a very cruel person.... (read in full...)
G/f lied to me and was used as a sex toy for 2 years
Q. When I met my girlfriend, she told me she hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years. While "technically," this was true, it turns out she had had a "casual relationship" with a man for two years. And she continued having sex with him for a short time even ...
A. 10 September 2010: THE WORD ACCORDING TO CHUCKLWATERS.... "But the f-buddy relationship is about all about objectification; hence, reducing people to things." "I'm not against sex - love it - so I'll sleep with women who've boned up on their bedroom skills as an... (read in full...)
Who do I pick? The 13 year old? Or the 16 year old?
Q. Hi, I'm 14 and there are 2 different girls that I like and have questions about. There is a 16 year old she has a car and she wants to have sex with me. Should I? But there is a 13 year old almost 14 and I really like her and she really likes me. We ...
A. 10 September 2010: Since your determined to have illegal sex...
Don't pick the 13year old, because you will mess up her life and hurt her badly, and she'll regret ever meeting you.
Pick the 16year old, she'll mess up your life instead. She's got a car, children ... (read in full...)
I'm 43, she's 18 & pregnant and I didn't know she wanted more than sex. I don't want this!
Q. im 43 and slept with an 18 year old and now shes pregnant but thats not the only problem she said that she fort we was going out when we slept together i knew she gets very close to people too fast but i didnt realise she wanted more than sex i fort ...
A. 10 September 2010: Do you have special needs as well? Is that why you made this mistake? Is everything confusing to you? You must take care of this girl and her baby now, because they need your help? Please talk to your care worker about the trouble you now find ... (read in full...)
Doesn't get things done on time, what should I do.
Q. What does it mean when a man says i am tired of you trying to dictate when I need to do something??? He is the worst procrastinator. I have sat back and tried to let him handle our family business. But he will lie about doing it and it never get...
A. 10 September 2010: Why not do it together.. get yourselves a household diary, write down when bills are due. Once a month, you have the family finance day, you pay the bills together, check to see if too much money is going out, make up a proper budget and see if you ... (read in full...)
Her dad hates me, and I can't figure out his reason!
Q. I am 19 yrs old and have been dating my girlfriend Jillian,who is 18 for a little over 8 months now. From the very beginning her family really liked me, I get along great with her brother and sister, and her parents loved me. We have a great ...
A. 10 September 2010: Absolutely brilliantly handled, man to man, you forced him to be truthful and tell you exactly what was wrong. Agree with Tish, you have every reason to be proud of yourself. Now, be bloody carefully, keep your hands to yourself until you can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to have the hots for his neighbour!
Q. please help as this is driving me insane! I'm 36 and been wth my partner for 2 1/2 years, we dont live together, he lives alone and i live with my kids (not his). he has never in the 11 years at his address socialised with the neighbours - he ...
A. 10 September 2010: Your playing your cards all wrong. You sound like the jealous woman, arguing and nagging all the time. It makes her look like an angel, able to stay calm and listen to all his problems. Your fighting, controlling and bossing him around. That ... (read in full...)
An ex of my husband wont leave us alone on facebook
Q. Hi, my husband and I have been married for about 3 months now. and he just recently got a FB account. about 2 weeks ago his ex (with her 4 years were engaged) friend requested him as well as all of his other close friends. so it annoyed me she ...
A. 10 September 2010: Fi the Tree has it.. block her, problem solved. Go to your settings and change them.... (read in full...)
Should I just leave him alone? I don't trust him now!
Q. helow. Im 19 and im having problems wit my bf. He is 20 and we have been going owt 4 two n a half years nw. He always says he loves me. Bt i dnt trust him. A year ago i found porn on his phone. I confronted him abowt it n he sed he wil neva du it ...
A. 10 September 2010: That's fine, you don't like porn, no problem.. But it's his phone and his pc, not yours. You need to stop looking at his stuff if your going to get upset by what you see.
Tell him how you feel, you don't like the pornography stuff, and it humil... (read in full...)
Ladies, how did you form your first ideas about love and romance?
Q. Question for young women out there (under 30 ideally) I would love to know where and how did you first form your ideas about love and romance? Did you read books, see movies or get your ideas from your parents or friends? How did you expect y...
A. 9 September 2010: Hey.. found similarities at last...
"do all the hard work" (xAx)
Poor, uneducated man or alcoholic who dumps us
"He's just not into you"
Jane Eyre (looks after rude blind man) Scarlett (looks after everything)
V.C Andrews (looks after ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how did you form your first ideas about love and romance?
Q. Question for young women out there (under 30 ideally) I would love to know where and how did you first form your ideas about love and romance? Did you read books, see movies or get your ideas from your parents or friends? How did you expect y...
A. 9 September 2010: Hey thanks guys... Glad to have so many response..
Nope, not what I expected, but I should have. Different women with different experiences and realistic expectations of life.. Truly, truly beautiful though...
It's the women's insecuri... (read in full...)
Does anyone else feel that by men constantly watching porn means that they will never be really happy with a real partner?
Q. Does anyone else feel that by men constantly watching porn means that they will never be really happy with a real partner? Of course most wives will never be as attractive as skinny teen porn stars - because they are not teenage any longer, pert boo...
A. 9 September 2010: Ah pregnant.. men sometimes get scared of sex when your pregnant. But if he's been turning you away for many years, he has a big problem with porn or his erection.
How did you get pregnant if the man doesn't fancy you?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says I nag him, am I a bad girlfriend?
Q. Hi dear cupid advisors, My bf has been pulling away from me recently, i have asked him why here is what he says: he thinks i am a nag, he is in debt, i have been telling him not to spend, save his money, cut up his cards. i have access to his ...
A. 9 September 2010: Please aunts don't get upset.. this is purely a entertaining post to make our day.. this woman can't be for real.
" i knew it was expensive and he payed for all of it, my friend offered to pay, but i thought my bf offered to pay for everythi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says I nag him, am I a bad girlfriend?
Q. Hi dear cupid advisors, My bf has been pulling away from me recently, i have asked him why here is what he says: he thinks i am a nag, he is in debt, i have been telling him not to spend, save his money, cut up his cards. i have access to his ...
A. 9 September 2010: "i blurted out that me andmy ex had sex in the forest there and in the car down the lane. he just went quiet and wouldnt talk to me for the rest of the evening...i meant nothing by it!"
Are you a troll? Is this a joke post? ... (read in full...)
Religious Parents
Q. A little background before I ask my question - I grew up in a strict and controlling environment with very traditional and religious parents. I still live with them and I have to abide by their rules (i.e. – not going outside freely like most people ...
A. 9 September 2010: I'm so angry for you.. do the best you can do to protect yourself.. and if you can't stand it, you will have to give up school and try to go it alone.. you can get education later.
So sorry, be strong, it won't be much longer now.. big hugs... (read in full...)
I'm offended by my boyfriends interest in celebrity, how do people feel about celebrities?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for three years now, I'm 21 and he is 31. About a year ago I stumbled across lots of naked pictures of celebrity women on his computer, no porn videos, but tons of celebrity images. I was quite hurt and told him I saw ...
A. 9 September 2010: Good, you can't have Johnny Depp cause he's gonna marry me... ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 9 September 2010: Sorry, had to just add this last part.
Porn girls are no threat to you. He finds you sexy or he wouldn't be with you. You are pretty and he dosen't want to change you. He would hate if you looked like them fantasy girls. They are pictures... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got pregnant to keep me in the relationship!
Q. I have been in this relationship with Grace (not real name) for almost 6 years now I have been staying with her for 3 years out of the six. She tells me she intentionally got pregnant and gave birth to our beautiful 2 year old baby girl because she ...
A. 9 September 2010: Worried about this sister Anne.. she screws her sister man, the father of her baby niece.. she doesn't love you, she just likes screwing family... What the hell is that all about?
The whole family seems a little strange to me.... (read in full...)
I'm offended by my boyfriends interest in celebrity, how do people feel about celebrities?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for three years now, I'm 21 and he is 31. About a year ago I stumbled across lots of naked pictures of celebrity women on his computer, no porn videos, but tons of celebrity images. I was quite hurt and told him I saw ...
A. 9 September 2010: Nope.. people who my man will never meet don't threaten me. I also don't expect my man to go deaf, dumb or blind because he's dating me. I like when a man loves me, even though I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world. They got their money, ... (read in full...)
Would you have a problem if boyfriend was still in touch with a Fbuddy?
Q. OK, just a simple question. If your boyfriend stayed in touch with a girl while seeing you, who you know used to be a "f*** buddy" would you be concerned. I mean, even if he told you they were just friends etc... would you have a problem with him ...
A. 9 September 2010: Yep, now I'd be worried.. sexual conversations doesn't seem like a proper friendship to have.... (read in full...)
G/f lied to me and was used as a sex toy for 2 years
Q. When I met my girlfriend, she told me she hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years. While "technically," this was true, it turns out she had had a "casual relationship" with a man for two years. And she continued having sex with him for a short time even ...
A. 9 September 2010: "Bottom line is she lied to me, and was used as someone's sex toy for 2 years."
Your views are outdated, this is the 21st century babes. We women can do casual sex if we don't fancy dating. Men do it all the time. Have sex with lots of women un... (read in full...)
Would you have a problem if boyfriend was still in touch with a Fbuddy?
Q. OK, just a simple question. If your boyfriend stayed in touch with a girl while seeing you, who you know used to be a "f*** buddy" would you be concerned. I mean, even if he told you they were just friends etc... would you have a problem with him ...
A. 9 September 2010: Nope.. no concerns at all.. unless he is hiding her away from me, as long as I know, I don't worry about his friends. People need friends. You date me, you need to be faithful to me, I don't check on you or worry about you, but if I find out, then ... (read in full...)
Daughter's breakup is effecting the entire family
Q. Please help my 16 year old daughter has just split up from her boyfriend. It was a serious relationship very quickly they were together 7 months she is devestated it is effecting the entire family what can i do?...
A. 9 September 2010: Tea in the kitchen is always good. She cries and tells you her story.. you cook dinner and keep saying "mmmmm... sorry honeypie, but that is life"...
That's what mother's all round the world do.. listen and make comforting noise and pass tis... (read in full...)
don't want to leave him but hes got too much baggage... all we do is fight...HELP!?
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title. I've been with my current boyfriend for 4 years on and off and we live together now, but all we do is fight. we fight about everything from his drug dealing drinking having people over all the time and messing up the hous...
A. 9 September 2010: Cindycares is spot on.. that's what I mean about police pressure.. you are in the house, you know what is going on.. it's no problem for them to lock up you and him. He can't take the blame, your there and you know.... (read in full...)
I slept with him knowing he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi, i'm writing this as i feel lost and very confused. Me and a male friend went out for drinks and i ended up drinking a lot that evening, he was drinking also but didn't seem that drunk. We were walking home and he held my hand, i let him as i ...
A. 9 September 2010: Good girl.. shit happens, we make mistakes.. but you don't have to feel guilty no more.. it happened and now you are making sure it is ended..
Good for you.... (read in full...)
My 14 year old daughter is having sex with a 19 year old. How to handle this?
Q. i walked into my 14 year old step daughters room and found her having sex with her boyfriend who i later found out is 19 the age gap is really worryin me i dont think 14 year old girls would went to have sex do u think he couldve made her do it or ...
A. 9 September 2010: I wouldn't mess around.. They know that sex is illegal.. since they ignored the rules and did it anyway, I would stop them spending any private time together, they can't be trusted.
Don't try to be her friend anymore, be an adult. They are not ... (read in full...)
Going to meet my half-siblings, My mom is a bit mean.
Q. So I just got into contact with my two younger half-siblings. I've never had any contact with them and didn't even know they existed till a few years ago. These are my dad's kids (I don't have contact with my dad) We are planning to meet. Both our ...
A. 9 September 2010: Lots of kisses and telling her she's the best mother in the world, and how you want to make her proud of you.. followed up by, how supportive she is even though this is difficult... slap on some flowers and a nice card.. phone whenever you think of ... (read in full...)
Divorce, from the child's perspective
Q. I dont really trust my family. Its not that I dont love them, because I do. I have two older sisters [17 and 22, im 13]. My mother is in her mid forties, my father is in his early fifties. When I was about six my mother called a family meeting, ...
A. 9 September 2010: Stuff, thanks Sis, I missed that one, and I'm always the one crazy about young people and online safety...... (read in full...)
Religious Parents
Q. A little background before I ask my question - I grew up in a strict and controlling environment with very traditional and religious parents. I still live with them and I have to abide by their rules (i.e. – not going outside freely like most people ...
A. 9 September 2010: I'm not gonna assume your Christian, but it doesn't matter, Christian or atheist, your mother is a bully.
As you notice, there is no pleasing her. If you try to be good, she still finds someway to criticize you and punish you for no reason. ... (read in full...)
Do most booty calls turn into relationships? Or not?
Q. do most booty calls turn into relationships?...
A. 9 September 2010: Nope, most booty calls are booty calls and are all about sex. Many women who have sex expecting a relationship, often fall in love and get disappointed when the man drops her.... (read in full...)
I slept with him knowing he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi, i'm writing this as i feel lost and very confused. Me and a male friend went out for drinks and i ended up drinking a lot that evening, he was drinking also but didn't seem that drunk. We were walking home and he held my hand, i let him as i ...
A. 9 September 2010: So, anyway, what do you think he's up to?
Answer to your question: He wants to have sex with you again, then he will go back to his girlfriend and pretend nothing happened. He can have sex with you, he can have sex with her. You know the scor... (read in full...)
He doesn't even try to have sex with me anymore!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want me as much lately. He doesn't kiss me, hold me, or tell me he loves me as much as he used to. He don't even try to have sex with me anymore! He used to try A LOT! I don't know if he's bored of me or if he found ...
A. 9 September 2010: "But when my interests are in my friends or someone else, then he puts all of his effort into not losin me and into our relationship... What can I do to get him to want me?"
Seems you answered your own question.
Keep doing new things with him,... (read in full...)
Been masturbating -- is this normal for my age?
Q. So I like to masturbate. I admit it. Iv been masturbating for about a year. Is this strange for my age? Can someone help me figure out?...
A. 9 September 2010: Normal.. no problem... (read in full...)
My friend is turning into a prostitute!
Q. This is a question concerning my best friend from school. She is 27 years old and was very "normal"...good at studies, we spent time together, had crushes...the works. I left my hometown a few yrs back to pursue higher studies, and I dont get to see ...
A. 9 September 2010: Push her towards getting some counselling, your friend is very lost.... (read in full...)
don't want to leave him but hes got too much baggage... all we do is fight...HELP!?
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title. I've been with my current boyfriend for 4 years on and off and we live together now, but all we do is fight. we fight about everything from his drug dealing drinking having people over all the time and messing up the hous...
A. 9 September 2010: Addiction.. difficult It's not supposed to be physically addicting, but yes it is, especially if your a heavy daily user. If you come off the weed, you miss it for maybe a couple of months, but it's not like heroin, crack or cocaine, you won... (read in full...)
don't want to leave him but hes got too much baggage... all we do is fight...HELP!?
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title. I've been with my current boyfriend for 4 years on and off and we live together now, but all we do is fight. we fight about everything from his drug dealing drinking having people over all the time and messing up the hous...
A. 9 September 2010: I live in that type of neighbourhood.... no good smoking profits, that will turn him into a poor pothead. He's got to bank that money, he's risking stuff, and it's stupid to just use the money for fun. Yep guess it was just the weed... he's sil... (read in full...)
We dated, she broke things off, then sad we aren't friends? WHAT does she want?
Q. Im 18 years old. I am not very experienced with women. Sometimes its embarrassing to feel like the odd man out when it comes to this stuff. When i was in high-school i would hear people talk about sex and relationships and i wouldn't get depressed ...
A. 9 September 2010: She wants to be friends.. you've done nothing wrong, but "she's just not into you". That happens sometimes, she wanted to feel sparks and they didn't come. They didn't come for you either, you just like her because you feel comfortable and like ... (read in full...)
don't want to leave him but hes got too much baggage... all we do is fight...HELP!?
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title. I've been with my current boyfriend for 4 years on and off and we live together now, but all we do is fight. we fight about everything from his drug dealing drinking having people over all the time and messing up the hous...
A. 9 September 2010: One last thing.. if he's already on probation then he's not a very good drug dealer. The police and the law know about him, and they are likely to catch him soon and put him in jail.
Please plan with him what you will do when he goes to jail.... (read in full...)
Cursing...
Q. Would you allow your boyfriend to curse at you and call you a bitch during an argument? ...
A. 9 September 2010: He wouldn't dare, not unless he wants to see the sunrise next morning. He can call me a bitch to describe me, that's factual. But if he wants to curse, my mouth is dirty and I get violent when disrespected.
Easy.. I'm a lady, so men don't cu... (read in full...)
don't want to leave him but hes got too much baggage... all we do is fight...HELP!?
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title. I've been with my current boyfriend for 4 years on and off and we live together now, but all we do is fight. we fight about everything from his drug dealing drinking having people over all the time and messing up the hous...
A. 9 September 2010: Ok, you really love him, and it's just his drug dealing job. Tell him he has to study at home and get some qualifications. He will not give up drug dealing until he can get a similar amount of money from legal work. The only way he can do that is ... (read in full...)
don't want to leave him but hes got too much baggage... all we do is fight...HELP!?
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title. I've been with my current boyfriend for 4 years on and off and we live together now, but all we do is fight. we fight about everything from his drug dealing drinking having people over all the time and messing up the hous...
A. 9 September 2010: He has a job. He's drug dealing, that's his job, he has no time to go to school. He's not interested in work or school, he can get more money dealing drugs.
Drug dealing is very time intensive. As you notice, he has to go out all funny times of... (read in full...)
Pain during oral sex because he WON'T LISTEN to me
Q. First, he's not a boyfriend so the question of whether this guy cares about me or not is moot. However, I am somewhat confused by him. Last night, he kept saying how he wants me to orgasm really hard (squirt) and kept saying that. So he did oral ...
A. 9 September 2010: He's watched too much bloody porn. Have a strong word with him and tell him, that sex isn't about causing women pain. Tell him you don't like a man that won't listen, and you don't like to be hurt. Only a pig ignores a woman who says she's in ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else feel that by men constantly watching porn means that they will never be really happy with a real partner?
Q. Does anyone else feel that by men constantly watching porn means that they will never be really happy with a real partner? Of course most wives will never be as attractive as skinny teen porn stars - because they are not teenage any longer, pert boo...
A. 9 September 2010: Millions of older men have sexy wives who are fat, with sagging breasts and wrinkles on her face. They love her, and they still say she's the sexiest woman on earth and they still have an exciting sex life, albeit they have to be more careful due ... (read in full...)
My friend is turning into a prostitute!
Q. This is a question concerning my best friend from school. She is 27 years old and was very "normal"...good at studies, we spent time together, had crushes...the works. I left my hometown a few yrs back to pursue higher studies, and I dont get to see ...
A. 8 September 2010: Poor girl... you can't do any more than your doing, and you seem a very caring friend, even taking on board some of what we are saying.
She's very low in self-esteem.... maybe you could try another trick... ignore the men and the bad place sh... (read in full...)
My friend is turning into a prostitute!
Q. This is a question concerning my best friend from school. She is 27 years old and was very "normal"...good at studies, we spent time together, had crushes...the works. I left my hometown a few yrs back to pursue higher studies, and I dont get to see ...
A. 8 September 2010: "Prostitute" that's a strong word to use. Is your friend asking for money in exchange for sex?
The terms you use, "Joke", "prostitute", "other people.. settle down", "family.. shambles"... you don't see her as an equal, and that might be why it's... (read in full...)
Should I just leave him alone? I don't trust him now!
Q. helow. Im 19 and im having problems wit my bf. He is 20 and we have been going owt 4 two n a half years nw. He always says he loves me. Bt i dnt trust him. A year ago i found porn on his phone. I confronted him abowt it n he sed he wil neva du it ...
A. 7 September 2010: I think your guy likes to look at pornography, and he will lie about it if you force him to stop.
However, this doesn't mean he is cheating or will sleep with other women. Lots of men like pornography and so do lots of women, but this has noth... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 3 September 2010: Please join our discussion about pornography in relationships.. I think you will find it helpful. Even if you continue to dislike pornography it will at least give you stronger reasons that you will be able to challenge him with.
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Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 3 September 2010: "I know he's not actually having sex with them, but if he actually went to a prostitute and had her perform sex acts for him while he pleasured himself, that would be cheating. So I guess I don't understand why hiding behind a computer screen to ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 3 September 2010: Elvis and Marlon Brando were severely over weight.. I'm sure they told the doctors they were trying as they thought about the 12 hamburgers the ordered in.
In the real world, people like stuff and lie when someone tries to take it away. Sure the... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 3 September 2010: Q is another good example.. again another man frightened away from helping with porn issues. He used to be very vocal, but like me, his advice has become softer and changed, and sometimes he says things to please and not what he actually thinks.
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Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 2 September 2010: PS: Your guy understands your feelings, but he doesn't agree. ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 2 September 2010: He won't let you install porn blocking software, and if he does he'll just get video's and magazines and watch them instead. Men lie about pornography because you force them too. Your not comfortable with porn, but he is. It makes you feel ... (read in full...)
Divorce, from the child's perspective
Q. I dont really trust my family. Its not that I dont love them, because I do. I have two older sisters [17 and 22, im 13]. My mother is in her mid forties, my father is in his early fifties. When I was about six my mother called a family meeting, ...
A. 30 August 2010: Hey Q, she's my favourite too... you've become very popular young lady, everyone is talking about how smart you and nice you are.
Anyway, divorce.. sorry, bad stuff happens. The problem is, everyone is so busy fighting, so busy worrying about th... (read in full...)
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