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writes:My new years resolution would be not to masturbate while dating. Though since im not I do everyday after school ( Finished all my homework etc.) will it be hard to stop. the reason(s) are below2. I heard that an over consumsion of Pornagraphy may lead to Reduced Sexuall urges with partners, and Cripple Relationships.I need to know if this is true if so I will immedietly decline pleasure giving activities to a minimum. Its not for religion or whatevers its because I would like to have a family later on in life but not be Addicted to the Adult Film Industry and get into problems later in life. I will take any and every response into note please dont soften respones
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Masturbation is normal and healthy, but porn at your age isn't. Obviously most people look occasionally, but it's good that you're realizing porn consumption, especially at your age, can have a very negative impact on future relationships. But by all means, masturbate away. Like Miamine said, it's the safest form of sex there is and though it's inconclusive/conflicting, there are some studies that found that masturbation can reduce your risk of certain kinds of cancer. Not to mention put you in a better mood. Just don't get too carried away, it is possible to overdo it and become "addicted" to it as well (like an absolute NEED to do it multiple times a day, which is an addiction that usually develops in teen years and is hard to break since it's stronger feeling than actual horniness).
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Here read this link.. netdoctor on the internet. The advice is the same as most (if not all) medical doctors across the world. Masturbation is normal and healthy at your age, and is known to protect against certain diseases of the penis.
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/masturbation.htm
If you type "masturbation medical advice" into the internet, all articles will say the same thing, unless they are written by religious people.
Kinsey Institute (world renowned sexual experts) calculate that probably 80% of men masturbate. If there was danger from masturbation, that would mean a lot of men having really bad sex, and that's not what the evidence shows.
As I said before, there are also dangers, mostly psychological in trying to control your sexuality this way. But you must do what you feel most comfortable doing. If this is something your determined to do, then it's your right not to express your sexuality with any actions.
Compulsive masturbation, like too much excessive or too much study is off course dangerous. To be healthy you need to have fun and pleasure, to have work, to be fit, and to have friends. You need balance in everything you do, too much of anything will cause you problems.
Pornography is not suitable for children and can cause problems in later life as many women don't like it.
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reader, deba +, writes (13 January 2011):
I may not be the person you want an answer from. I'm a 50 year old wife and nurse so I will speak from both prosectives and leave moral issues out of it. you can go to the Mayo clinic website and find this information so it is a medically accepted. Excessive masterbation/ porn can lead to " delayed ejaculation" the stimulation you get from masterbation is totally different from that of intercoarse. after so much masterbation it takes longer and is more difficult to reach climax with a real person, which can put an end to enjoyment in a relationship. leading to frustration to both you and your partner. In some cases it becomes impossible to come to ejaculation without masterbation. thats my response from a medical view. As a wife , due to this excessive use of porn /masterbation my husband has been involved in since he was probably your age has ruined the sex life of our marriage from day one. sex has never been satisfing because it's been a performance not intamincy and doomed to fail. we both leave feeling frustrated and blaming each other. I realize hormones are raging at you age but for your satisfaction in later relationships keep masterbation to just the neccessary levels if you want good sex with partners/wife at a later time in your life. Good luck
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reader, Miamine +, writes (4 January 2011):
Masturbation is normal and healthy at your age. Pornography is not suitable for children as it gives the wrong idea about sex. Pornography is not very realistic and can be harmful for sexual development in the young.Yes, a very small minority of adults overuse pornography and find they can no longer perform sexually. However many people also find sex problematic because they label it as dirty and wrong.I'm not clear why you want to control your sexuality if you are not having sexual relationships and are not consumed by sex all the time? You have pleasure, but for some reason don't think your allowed to have it. That I find concerning.Repression of sexuality is not a good thing. Your young, your healthy, there will be no problems if you masturbate privately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Well masturbation is totally normal. I don't think you should stop masturbating. The effects of pornography on people is still a subject open to debate. I personally don't feel like those "studies" are that thorough. I suppose the typical masturbator before the porn industry became so accesible used his/her imagination more. Now with the porn industry so accesible a person can rely more on an actual visual of an object that will stimulate them. The biggest conflict with that is that the object of stimulation has shifted from a real life person that you might say have a crush on to just any object of a woman showing tits and ass. You are not focusing your attention on a particular woman but just on any woman, on any tit and any ass. That has got to have some huge effect on the brain and on the way we view sex. It desensitizes your perception of women. Is there a particular woman that men look at in porn? Most of the time, no. It is just image after image of this or that woman, this or that size. Just a variety of bodies. It clearly objectifies women. It is very chauvinistic.That shift from using the imagination to having access to a bunch of visuals often becomes a comfort zone for men. Some men feel that porn can substitute, at least, visually, for the real thing. It is actually pretty sick in my opinion. It is ironic that with the advent of women's rights, women are not more vocal about this. Put yourself in our shoes. Would you guys like it if you were objectified? If websites and tv shows and movies were consumed with images of sexy men to please the tastes of women. If you couldn't watch tv, or check the internet with your girlfriend without some naked guy flashing his c*ck in a little pop up window? If porn was totally skewed toward the likes of women and therefore your girlfriend's all had loads of saved images and movies of other men naked, doing sexual acts? I guarantee you men would absolutely cringe at the thought. The porn industry has definitely changed the dymnamic of alot of things between men and women. I commend you for being mature enough to acknowledge that this may be a problem. If you can help it, no I would not watch porn. I personally masturbate and never watch porn. I don't like porn, I think it is sick. So absolutely, if you can help it then yes wean off of it. Use your imagination. It works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): umm yeah that sucks just stop girls like me dont't really find that cute lol so yeah:)
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 The depictions of sex in porn are often completely unrealistic. So for someone young with limited experience in real-life relationships, porn can indeed be very damaging if it results in unrealistic expectations of your partner. That in my mind is the real danger. So yes, you would be very wise to keep porn out of your life until you're much older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Some women hate that their boyfriend or husband watches or has watched porn. Some even feel that in a way their partner has cheated by seeing other naked women.
A lot of women would love to know that a guy doesnt watch it, so if you want to masturbate why not try it without porn?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Yes, porn can have the adverse effects you mentioned. I'm impressed someone your age would put that much thought and reflection into their porn use. Most kids seem to think "If it feels good, do it." Avoiding porn is a respectable choice at any age, but at yours it is also the wisest one. Previous generations didn't have to deal with the temptation as much, since they were legally barred from buying pornos until they were 21.
Not sure what is so wrong with masturbation while dating though. In fact, if you feel like doing sexual things you may not be ready for and could lead to disease or pregnancy, masturbation would be preferable to that.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 To be honest I do not think people should watch porn anyway. There are little to no benefits whatsoever, physically, emotionally or mentally. Masturbation is natural, it is perfectly healthy, just avoid doing so to pornography and I know that it might be harder for some to do this because they are just so used to having pornography to watch whilst they masturbate. Just try, it is mind over matter after all.
I do not think the porn industry has corrupted you (yet) but if you are not careful, it might. So be wary of your mentality and do not let it be affected by porn.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Yes, it's true. I have seen so many questions on this site alone about it, coming from very upset women whose boyfriends/husbands will no longer have sex with them because they would rather masturbate to porn.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not totally against porn. But, I do think you'd be making a wise decision to limit your use of it especially while you're in a relationship. For example, limit yourself to maybe once a week or once every other week.
I wish you good luck.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (3 January 2011):
 Too much exposure can have a numbing effect, and for some people it results in becoming bored with one act in particular or 'normal' sex in general. That usually leads to the need for something more stimulating or extreme, until it eventually becomes boring too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Intelligent thinking here young one. Good for you. Yes, porn can def be damaging to any relationship. If one gets used to being stimulated by something, they will keep depending on it and going back to it, and if this stimulation is porn that the person is used to and not the the persons body, then that will most certainly cause an issue. My advice: Do not watch it until you are mature, as in 18, cause it is very risky with such a thing to get addicted to without even knowing that you are. If you watch it moderation is key and in relationships it can be healthy I suppose if approached in the right way. Good luck bud.
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