I might have a second chance, how do I make it clear I won't break his heart again?
Q. A couple of months ago, an ex-boyfriend from 10 years ago emailed me from out of the blue to say hi. He was the sweetest guy that I have ever dated, but I was very immature at that time. I may have broken his heart as I was his first girlfriend. ...
A. 3 March 2008: How does one say sorry without bringing up any unpleasant memories of the past?
Actions speaks louder than words.
Be extra nice to him and he will know that you are sorry even if you did not say those apologetic words.
Do not mention it unl... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 21 February 2008: You are a reasonable ,sane and rational individual. Thanks for your update.... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 20 February 2008: You cannot expect people to turn 180 degrees.
Sorry , sentence was incomplete.
Should be...
You cannot expect people to turn 180 degrees in a jiffy .If he made some 10% or 20% changes, that is good enough. He is changing and the wheel o... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 20 February 2008: There will always be conflicts in relationships.
It is a matter of solving them in a rational and matured way. It is unavoidable and it can strengthened the bonds.
You do not judge and act like God and demand everything your way. Only childi... (read in full...)
I opened my heart in a letter, now I feel like a fool!
Q. I wrote a girl a letter this past week telling her how special she meant to me. Considering she hasn't written back, I'm assuming she must be freaking out. I am such an Idiot!!! For once, I've decided to pour out my heart to someone I like and ...
A. 20 February 2008: You just sit tight and do nothing until you get a response from her. Do not write to her until you know where she stands on this issue.
You need to make sure, your letter was received by her and not lost in the mail or got misplaced.... (read in full...)
She went off birth control without telling me, now she's pregnant!
Q. My wife and I had talked about waiting to have kids for at least one more year. Well, on the day of love feb 14th she dropped the bomb on me that she was pregnant and that she went off birth control without telling me. She says she didn't think she ...
A. 20 February 2008: Being pregnant does not mean you will have a kid. It takes nine months and anything can happen from now till then.
If it is her first time , she carries more risk of miscarriage.
Pray for her and the baby .The Lord has brought forward your bab... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is making me do things and I am not confortable with it
Q. ive just got in to a relationship with someone that made me do things i wasnt sure i wanted to do. he is 16 im 12 almost 13 i cant tell my mum or dad i still love him and want to be with him but i dont know how to say can we slow down beacuse ...
A. 20 February 2008: Why do you love a drunk and a stoned guy and someone who forced you to do against your will?
Are you his sexual slave too?
... (read in full...)
He said we can advance by the time I reach 18 if I still like him. Why shouldn't we date now?
Q. I am 15 and i like someone who is 20. We both have feelings for each other but because of the age difference we have to wait until i am 18. he said that when i am 18 if i still have feelings for him than we should make the relationship serious. but ...
A. 20 February 2008: It is only your perceptions that you have feelings for each other. You may have misconstrued his feeling for you as love.
He is simply not interested in more than a friend with you and that is only an excuse .... (read in full...)
I really fancy my ex girlfriend's mother...
Q. I am 18. My relationship with my girlfriend ended with her leaving me. She said that we could remain friends. This happened over a month ago. My ex-girlfriend and I have remained friends. She has a new boyfriend and she seems happy. I am happy for ...
A. 20 February 2008: You have met a cougar. She will be flattered by your attentions..
You can read about such woman here;-
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/10/10/the-cougers-the-older-women-who-dates-the-younger-men/... (read in full...)
At what age does a woman reach her sexual prime?
Q. I have a question about a the sexual prime for woman. At what age does a woman reach her sexual prime? During this period of her life does she tend to want and or have sex more? During this time is sex more enjoyable for her? During this time is the ...
A. 20 February 2008: From 35 to 40 when she shed all her sexual inhibitions and fear of getting pregnant.
You can Google for that answer.... (read in full...)
How can I tell when a woman is sexually aroused?
Q. I have a question about arousal. How can I tell when a woman is sexually aroused? Is this something that you can tell when a woman is fully clothed or is this only noted when she is in the nude? At this point is she ready for intercourse or is ...
A. 20 February 2008: When a man is aroused , he gets hard.
When a woman is aroused , she gets wet, her nipples perked up.
You can Google this question for more details online.... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me back?
Q. hi There is this boy at work who I really fancy! He always stares at me and then when Ii look in his direction he turns his head away! He also says nasty things like (name) shut up and erghhh comments but then sometimes smiles at me or winks at...
A. 20 February 2008: If he smiles at you , you smile back. Try to break the ice and talk to him. Just ask him anything you can think off.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me to be with somebody else and did not accept my suggestion to remain friends, I do not understand what went wrong.
Q. First off i just wanna say thank you for all the help, i'm in an awkward situation, so any advice is greatly appreciated. Situation: About 4 weeks ago, my girlfriend of just under 3 years broke up with me. We had been dating for roughly 2 and a ...
A. 19 February 2008: It may be a case of being too 'predictable' and no surprises in this relationship or the love has gone stale.
This did not develop over night. She could have probably decided to leave you a few months back but was unable till this new guy came... (read in full...)
We got back together but now she is so cold...what is missing and can we get it back??
Q. I need some help guys. I have known my girlfriend since 2003. We started dating that summer when we met and went on for 3 years, which is when we broke up. We broke up because I told her I wasn't ready to move in with her (she wanted to) and that ...
A. 19 February 2008: Possibly missing is romance and love.. Without these, the world is flat.
Love flew out the window?... (read in full...)
What shall I do now I have all these feelings for her and how can I show them??
Q. I've just recently met a girl just over a week ago now! We have been spending a lot of time together over the last week and its been great! and now im falling for her big time but last night she tells me she's not ready for a relation ship! I was ...
A. 19 February 2008: You are coming on too fast for her likings. You need to pull up your breaks.If you want her, you need to move at her pace and not yours.
Write all your feelings and emotions into a journal. That would help you get out those feelings from inside o... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to suggest we walk away??
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. Things started brilliantly then an unusual work situation had us more focused on how I would deal with it from day-to-day. I had a really malicious boss whose main objective was to e...
A. 19 February 2008: Are you happy or are you in pain?
Maybe, you could suggest a time out or a temporary separation to cool things down.... (read in full...)
Do my friends not like me and should I turn to the teacher I love??
Q. I really need help as the situation is making my depression even worst. I feel like my friends dont actually like me as they only seem to talk to me when there is no one else. Also i feel like i am left out and ignored feeling like this makes me...
A. 19 February 2008: No one has any right to tell you what you can do or cannot do.
Just ignore that teacher .He cannot control your private thoughts and actions.... (read in full...)
How can I make my marriage work when I am always having to prove myself??
Q. I feel like a crybaby, i am a strong person normally but for the past year i have done nothing but try to prove to my husband of 4yrs that im not cheating on him. I love him and have never ever done anything to make him think i would have cheated....
A. 19 February 2008: If your husband is bent on leaving , there is nothing you can do to prevent him from leaving.
You don't have to proof anything to him. You are already guilty in his eyes.
It is not whether you want or not, you do not have a choice but to ac... (read in full...)
I opened my heart in a letter, now I feel like a fool!
Q. I wrote a girl a letter this past week telling her how special she meant to me. Considering she hasn't written back, I'm assuming she must be freaking out. I am such an Idiot!!! For once, I've decided to pour out my heart to someone I like and ...
A. 19 February 2008: It could come as a shock to her and it may take time for it to sink into her mind.
You need to give her more time to reply.
Be patient and have faith. Your reply will be coming soon.... (read in full...)
She went off birth control without telling me, now she's pregnant!
Q. My wife and I had talked about waiting to have kids for at least one more year. Well, on the day of love feb 14th she dropped the bomb on me that she was pregnant and that she went off birth control without telling me. She says she didn't think she ...
A. 19 February 2008: You may have a hard time forgiving her but when the baby comes into this world, you will forget all about it.
Babies are a blessings...
Whatever happens, you cannot change the course of history.If you cannot fight against it , better join her ... (read in full...)
The 'safe but unhappy' longterm or a risk on a wonderful older man?
Q. I am a 23-year old female. I met my partner 3 years ago and fell madly in love. He was without doubt the person I wanted to be with forever, marriage kids, the lot. But things have been declining for the last year, he has become not only less ...
A. 19 February 2008: Both are bad choices which will not make your life happy.I would rather wait for the right man then to be stuck with two impossible man.
Know when to call it quit when your love has died.
If you are in love, you will feel happy .
If you feel t... (read in full...)
I been trying to make a baby but every time me and my boyfriend have sex the cum comes back out so can I still get pregnant and if so how long will it take?
Q. I been trying to make a baby but every time me and my boyfriend have sex the cum comes back out so can I still get pregnant and if so how long will it take? ...
A. 19 February 2008: Each time he ejects into you it is about 500 to 600 million sperms and you only need 1 sperm to fertilize your egg.
Don't worry about those cum that flows out.
You can do a pregnancy test 1 week after you miss your next period.... (read in full...)
How can I truly know how he feels before I open up to him?
Q. I'm so confused. I have fallen head over hills for a guy friend of mine. At times he seems to be really interested in me then again it seems like he could care less (romantically). I want to tell him how I feel w/o jepordizing our friendship. At ...
A. 19 February 2008: If he steps on the gas, then you know he has feelings for you.
He will talk more, see you more and tell you more.... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 19 February 2008: You need to be reasonable. You cannot just say stop .Period!
You need to understand he has needs too even if you don't agree.
What if you reversed the scenario and he tells you to stop your girlie things you do ,like going to the hair dresser... (read in full...)
How can I get over the past and move on with him?
Q. Hi, I've recently gotten back with an ex, we were together for 6 years and apart for over two years, Orginally we split because we got together at an early age and both wanted more, I went away and eventually he slept with someone else, even th...
A. 19 February 2008: You know you cannot go back and change the past.It happened and it is history. You have to accept this fact.
At that time, it happened because you were young and inexperienced. Everyone make mistakes and they learn from it.
Tell tourself... (read in full...)
How do we rebuid trust after his behaviour has made me insecure??
Q. I'm in a relationship with a guy that I love, he hasn't cheated on me but he has said many stupid things that have lessened my trust for him/brought out those age old feelings of insecurity. He's made some really stupid comments about other girls ...
A. 19 February 2008: You have to allow him to grow up at his pace.You cannot rushed it.
If he makes a mistake , he will learn from it.Give him time and accept him and do not judge him.... (read in full...)
How can I stop worrying and being so jealous of him and his highschool buddy??
Q. So, I've been dating a guy for 7 months now. We are completely in love and are close to moving in together. We met through my work friend, Victoria. She and him were high school buddies and have loads of memories and things in common. Now the prob...
A. 19 February 2008: Faith is believing. To believe what you have not seen is great faith.
Try to think positive and believe that everything is fated.Whatever comes, accept it as you fate.
If you are religious, cast your worries and burden unto Jesus.
... (read in full...)
I still don't trust him- should I leave?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. It's been rocky the whole time. I've had numerous problems with him and the internet.My first inkling something was wrong was when i found he had been searching for BBW's on my computer. I am hardly A BBW ...
A. 19 February 2008: No change will occur until a woman realizes that the risk of staying is more destructive than the challenge of moving .
- Cyndi Kaplan -
If he criticizes you often,
tries to control you,
have wild rages,
blames you for everyt... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I don't like him anymore??
Q. Me and boyfriend started seeing each other in year 7. It was really fun we were always talking and laughing where in yr 10 now and i feel like hes got bored of me he just want to kiss all the time and wont let me see my really good friends. I need...
A. 19 February 2008: Just tell him in plain simple English and he will understand. No hints or beat about the bush .
Be direct.
If he touchs you , tell your parents or your teachers.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to settle down with one person or should you get more experience??
Q. Is it possible to have been in one relationship with one person and just stay with that person? Or is it better to get'experienced' and then settle down? I am a lil confused, I have been with my gf for 1year and 2months, shes my first gf and im 2...
A. 19 February 2008: It is all providence. If you are meant to have one relationship , then it will be that way.
If not , you will be like your partner moving from one till you settle down with the right one.
No two relationships are the same . Each and everyon... (read in full...)
How do I get him back?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago for a stupid reason. We were together almost a year and a half and I love him more than anything and I know he loves me too. The problem is he says that I hurt him really bad and he just needs time to deal ...
A. 19 February 2008: If he loves you , he will come back for you .
If you love him , you will have to let him go.
If he does not come back, then he is somebody's.
If he comes back , then he belongs to you.
Wait till the tempest blows over and when the ... (read in full...)
Why do women play hard to get and when does the playing end?
Q. I am just curious...but how far will a girl play hard to get before she finally decides...Okay, I tortured him enough? I know someone who really likes this girl and he obviously makes it known to her. By the way she looks and flirts with him, I am ...
A. 19 February 2008: You are welcome and thanks for your verifications. No offense meant or intended.If any , my apologies .... (read in full...)
It's all wearing me out emotionally...
Q. My husband has a very fiery temper and when he gets angry he can be very rude and swear and shout and insult me, calling me 'thick' and a 'bitch' etc .. I have told him so many times that this hurts me and upsets me but the next time we argue it ...
A. 19 February 2008: You have allowed him to be that way by not putting your foot down .Once you allow him to mentally and emotionally abuse you, it will form a pattern and it will progressively get worse in time. You will feel alone , powerless and frightened of him.
... (read in full...)
Is it forgiveable?
Q. I went out with my boyfriend and his good friend for drinks last night. We had all consummed a lot of alcohol and my boyfriend went to play poker on the other side of the room with a group and I stayed at the bar with his friend. Next thing I ...
A. 19 February 2008: No sins is too big to be unforgiven. It is just a kiss and he should grow up.
He is just too petty, small minded and immature.
If he is a mature guy , he would wait till you go home and in the privacy of your bedroom tell you his feelings and... (read in full...)
I never realised I was unhappy in my marriage until I met this old friend...
Q. I'm a 49 year old man, married for 26 years, unhappily for the last 12 or so. About a month ago I received an e-mail from a high school friend through one of those reunion websites. We knew of each other but never dated. She just asked how I was ...
A. 19 February 2008: Do you think it is worth to give up everything you have and go for this woman?
Your house, home, wife and children.They will surely not agree with you .
You will have to start all over again.
Many have traveled this road and regretted it.
... (read in full...)
Why do women play hard to get and when does the playing end?
Q. I am just curious...but how far will a girl play hard to get before she finally decides...Okay, I tortured him enough? I know someone who really likes this girl and he obviously makes it known to her. By the way she looks and flirts with him, I am ...
A. 19 February 2008: It is not easy being a woman. She is a complex being and there are a lot of emotional issues she has to deal with unlike men.
Many men would be interested in her and she has to decide which are the genuine ones and weed out those false ones.
N... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is jealous of my ex and blew everything out of proportion, he even says he doesn't know if he wants to be with me! What do I do?
Q. I'm so sad... My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. He's so jealous of my "ex"... this guy we both know, who used to be my friend with benefits years before I met my boyfriend. He's been jealous of him since he found out abou...
A. 19 February 2008: Just leave him alone and he will come back to you . He is like a child throwing tantrums and have his way.Save your breath. Just explained once to him is enough. If he cannot get into his head , he never will even if you tell him 1000x
It is diffi... (read in full...)
I can't stand him looking at other girls! What do I do?
Q. I am married to a gorgeous guy much younger than me and we are basically very happy. I just need helpwith one thing...... he really stares at other women. I've talked to him about it and he reassures me how muchhe loves me and says he finds it ...
A. 19 February 2008: The antidote for men staring at gorgeous girls is to be gorgeous and sexily dressed yourself .
Then you will be the center of attractions where ever you go and he will get uncomfortable with all those strangers staring at you.
He may then t... (read in full...)
Take a chance and ask her out?
Q. There is this girl I know. She introduced herself to me online and at first I brushed off as nothing because there's weird people online. But as I got to know her through messaging and found out she goes to my school, we started talking in person ...
A. 19 February 2008: You can ask her out for coffee or tea, or dinner or just stroll in the park or shopping malls.
Suggest something to her and then ask if she likes to go where.... (read in full...)
I missed my chance, what do I do now?
Q. Hi, really hope you can help me. I knew this guy when i was in college (just as an acquaintance). He moved to another country for work. we got in touch online and hve chatted a lot of times. I really started to like him, but i thot i'd tell him when...
A. 18 February 2008: If your position is hopeless, cut your losses and run. Cut all contacts with him to forget him quickly and heal your pains. If you remain in contact with him your wounds will never heal . Just like an open sore. When it is going to heal, you go ... (read in full...)
I can't stand him looking at other girls! What do I do?
Q. I am married to a gorgeous guy much younger than me and we are basically very happy. I just need helpwith one thing...... he really stares at other women. I've talked to him about it and he reassures me how muchhe loves me and says he finds it ...
A. 18 February 2008: You need to accept the fact that he is that way and it is not easy to change. If he is a crab and walks sideways and you married him , don't expect him to walk forward and not sideways. You should be confident and secure in his love. His eyes... (read in full...)
I might have a second chance, how do I make it clear I won't break his heart again?
Q. A couple of months ago, an ex-boyfriend from 10 years ago emailed me from out of the blue to say hi. He was the sweetest guy that I have ever dated, but I was very immature at that time. I may have broken his heart as I was his first girlfriend. ...
A. 18 February 2008: If he is interested in you he will come and see you or talk with you more often. During this period , you will have to let him be in the driver's seat. If you take over, and up another gear, you may scare him off....... (read in full...)
My wife has left and I'm so confused and scared, please help!
Q. My wife has suddenly decided we are over. She ahs been contacted by an old boyfriend from Jr. High. We have had intimacy problems ever since becoming serious in our relationship. She has had an abusive past and was really dumped on by her first ...
A. 18 February 2008: If her heart is no more there, you should let her go. Be strong and act confident.Go find another one . If the shirt don't like you , throw it away and buy a new one.... (read in full...)
I'm so insecure about our relationship, but don't know what to do!
Q. Dear Aunts I am so insecure with my boyfriend, we have been thru so much. Before we went out we had ups and downs he always tested how much i really liked him coz his inseucre himself and he used to go back to his ex we'll call her *kiara* and ...
A. 18 February 2008: Take one day at a time and stop worrying about it. Just go out and enjoy each other.
Nobody knows what will happen in the future.... (read in full...)
Would it hurt if I told him he has a small one?
Q. would it hurt a mans pride to tell them they have a small penis? especially if they are already an insecure person....
A. 18 February 2008: You don't talk to a man about money or sex. Those two are very sensitive topics.
Just as you don't want men to talk about your beauty or your sexual performance.
Tell him , his looks like a gorrilla's, that will boost their ego's.... (read in full...)
He seen us kissing whilst dancing and it's now torturing me as this guy knows my boyfriend...
Q. I am in a loving relationship with a guy who I adore and have lived with for 2 years. On a night out about 4 weeks ago, I was dancing with a mutual friend of mine and my boyfriends. Another friend of ours has said he seen us kissing whilst dancing ...
A. 18 February 2008: If your b/f asked you , tell him that friend stole a kiss from you and you were the innocent party.
You were dancing and suddenly his lips landed smack on your lips and you were shocked and quickly withdrew.It is not your fault. LOL!
Your fr... (read in full...)
Take a chance and ask her out?
Q. There is this girl I know. She introduced herself to me online and at first I brushed off as nothing because there's weird people online. But as I got to know her through messaging and found out she goes to my school, we started talking in person ...
A. 13 February 2008: If you don't try , you will never know. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain. Give your best shot.... (read in full...)
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