In love with my half brother? We plan to disappear as I reach 18, and expect the general disagreeance - but would anyone understand?
Q. i just met my half brother 2 years ago. we've always had this connection, and a lot of unspoken sexual tension. we have been real close for a long time, and i would do a few [illegal] things with him and if it got to bad to calm me down he would ...
A. 5 March 2008: I agree with you
the heart is only a small place
but you don't clutter your heart
with unhappy things.
For then it will have no place for joys and happiness.
... (read in full...)
He got upset by all the guys on my friends list..how can I convince him I did nothing wrong??
Q. I've had facebook and Myspace for about 2 years now. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year. Just last night he looked at my facebook and got really upset because I had guys on my friends list. I don't even talk to 90% of the people I'm ...
A. 16 February 2008: You cannot make him understand . He has already formed his opinions . No wind or storm will overturn his opinions.
The best thing you can do is to delete all those male friends from those sites and end of the matter.
If you won't do it,it w... (read in full...)
How can I move on from a break up that was inevitable, but that I didn't want?
Q. I can't stop crying... I HAD to break up with my boyfriend. He's just so judgemental of my past. He always kept going and going about how awful everything I did before was; that I had a mildly sexual fwb with a guy he knew, that I had a crush on a...
A. 16 February 2008: He was no more in love with you and was mentally and emotionally abusing you.
He is mistreating you and you still love him.It is very sad.By staying ,you lose your self esteem, emotionally exhausted and more to lose than gain.
Don't blame y... (read in full...)
Help from the Ladies - Why can't I get cleavage with a B-cup?
Q. I can't get cleavage even though I'm a B-cup! Okay, my left breast is full B and my right breast is about an inch smaller, a small B. Is this why I can't wear a bra or low cut blouse and get cleavage? I also have a fairly wide shoulder span...
A. 16 February 2008: I know of some women who use the ubiquitous duct tape. They are pretty handy and you can go figure out how to get that cleavage you want. LOL!... (read in full...)
Does he secretly have feelings for the ex - since he refuses to drop her as a friend?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. Before that, he was in a relationship for 10 months, and I was always his best friend. Toward the end of his past relationship, he was saying he loved me. When they broke up, we started going out. ...
A. 16 February 2008: You should believe in your b/f and not her. We are not your b/f and cannot read what is inside his mind.
Even when you are so close to him and yet you cannot know what he is thinking about ,let alone us.
An ex is like an old blanket and some... (read in full...)
How does the morning after pill work? Should I trust it? How do you calculate your fertile period?
Q. On the night of Valentine's day, I noticed that the condom we were using had split. We stopped having sex, and changed the condom. The next day (yesterday) I went and took the morning after pill, but I'm not sure how it could ever stop me being pr...
A. 16 February 2008: Calculating your most fertile period.
The sperm can live for 5 days inside your fallopian tubes. The guys must be there first and waiting for the gal to come.
5 days before and 5 days after , from the onset of your period is the most fertile... (read in full...)
His friends tell me we are soul mates but... he is already committed.
Q. hi, please help. i have been in love with a man for 3 years - i know he used to have feelings for me years ago but i was in a long term relationship at the time. it is driving me insane... i think about him all the time and even his friends tell...
A. 16 February 2008: Do you treat every word that comes out of people's mouth as the Gospel truth? Oh ! Dear! I hope you don't suffer too much earthquakes and disasters in your place.
He used to have those feelings for you . He could have mummified those feelings... (read in full...)
Can a lost love return once you've set them free? Is there really hope or is it better to stay single?
Q. My ex and father of my children says that he needs his time and wishes that one day we will return together later in life but there is too much water under the bridge (I agree), I love him and hate him at the same time but I miss him and want to ...
A. 16 February 2008: You are a tormented individual .
You love him and yet you hate him.
You don't want him yet you expect him to want you.
You are not waiting ,
yet behind the back of your mind,
you hope he will return to you
and a happy ending and live ha... (read in full...)
Is she playing hard to get?
Q. hello, i just need some advice. well theres a girl iv liked since last summer, i offen smile and look whenever i see her, she sometimes smiles bk, but iv never had the chance to say anything to her thro being shy or not knowing how to break into a c...
A. 16 February 2008: You have a defeatist attitude.You should not have added these words .."if your not interested then don't worry bout hurting my feeling, im a bloke!"Now, suffer the consequences.
You have prejudged her. You should have said, "if you do not acce... (read in full...)
I gave him the green light to touch me, but he didnt. Whats wrong?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a month. He's very affectionate and likes to hold me, cuddle me and caress me. We've not slept together yet but I've slept in his bed with him and the other night we were both really turned on. I had ...
A. 16 February 2008: He has his inhibitions about sex.
Is he the religious type where they don't believe in premature sex?
He did not want to take advantage of you or he feared that having sex with you may change the relationship.I am just speculating and you have... (read in full...)
My first possible boyfriend. What does all this stuff mean?
Q. Hi(this is long so sorry) i meet this guy last month through a mate and thought he was very cute,anyway he had a g/f and thought nothing else of it,then last week he split with her,my mate who is good mates with said he liked me but nothing would ...
A. 16 February 2008: Talk about anything under the sky.Talk about your pet topics or which you have some expert on.
Ask questions here and there about him .Ask like a reporter for a story . LOL!
Stroking your arm could mean different things to different people... (read in full...)
I keep dwelling on the collapse of my relationship. I feel like nothing makes me happy anymore. What should I do?
Q. How can I stop dwelling on my past? I had a 2 year relationship which ended last summer. Since then, not a day has gone by where I don't dwell on the fact that my ex doesn't want to be with me anymore. It's been almost 8 months now, and I'm sic...
A. 16 February 2008: You need to stop talking about your ex.Do not talk to your friends or for that matter anybody about your ex.
She is history and you need to forgive her and expunged everything about her from your mind.This will be the last time , you will men... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 16 February 2008: There is no rigid formula for this as we are all different. Some maybe fast and some maybe slower and some do not mention it at all.It all depends on the individuals.
If you want to confirm b/f or g/f , then you need him /her to confirmed either ... (read in full...)
In love with my half brother? We plan to disappear as I reach 18, and expect the general disagreeance - but would anyone understand?
Q. i just met my half brother 2 years ago. we've always had this connection, and a lot of unspoken sexual tension. we have been real close for a long time, and i would do a few [illegal] things with him and if it got to bad to calm me down he would ...
A. 16 February 2008: When you are so deeply in love, you don't know what is right from wrong. You are in a world of your own, only the two of you understands each other.
Laws are made by man and sometimes I wonder why they made such laws.Then later on , they will cha... (read in full...)
He suggested that we continue together on the down low, after he decided to officially stay with the mother of his baby. I accepted but soon we drifted apart, now I'm heartbroken!
Q. i am 19 years old and im going through a situation where ive been with this guy off and on since my freshmen year of high school which was in 2002 and we finally stop going out september of 2007. well im still in love with him and wat not...he is my ...
A. 16 February 2008: If you want to plant your love seedlings , you need to find the right suitable soil. If you plant on rocky soil, it won't grow or the plant that grow will be chocked for lack of nutrients or for the lack of space.
You need to find some one who ... (read in full...)
She still wants to go out with me but says it's too soon to accept a relationship, I feel bad about having been rejected though!
Q. i met this girl from a friend, she is very pretty, and looks totally interested in me, we've met trough msn then phone, then we've gone onto 4 dates, i asked her on valentine's, we went out and i asked her to be my gf, she said it was too soon and ...
A. 16 February 2008: Your situation is like you go to the farm and you fell in love with the farmer's cow.The cow likes you and you offered to buy the cow from the farmer.
You give your price but the farmer rejected your offer. You feel rejected. It is not the end ... (read in full...)
She still wants to go out with me but says it's too soon to accept a relationship, I feel bad about having been rejected though!
Q. i met this girl from a friend, she is very pretty, and looks totally interested in me, we've met trough msn then phone, then we've gone onto 4 dates, i asked her on valentine's, we went out and i asked her to be my gf, she said it was too soon and ...
A. 16 February 2008: How can you win her when you cannot cross your first mental roadblock in your head ? If she is not worth it , you can always U turn and go another route.
Do you want her with all your heart ?
Then you have to learn patience, understandings a... (read in full...)
I want my ex to be happy in his relationship but I also... want him back! Struggling with the emotions, what to do?
Q. I have a serious problem with my ex boyfriend and his current girlfriend. My ex and I broke up about a year ago. We have still continued to talk but lately it's been A LOT more. His present girlfriend seems nice enough and I want him to be happy ...
A. 16 February 2008: You do not want him to break up with his present g/f but you want him back. How is that possible?
The only way is to tell his present g/f that you will all live under the same roof happily ever after.
Or
You keep doing what you are doing... (read in full...)
Boys consider me ugly and I feel very low about it, whereas the school regulation does not allow make up or other forms of embellishment. What can I do?
Q. i am really ugly, i am dark and my hair is sooo curly and frizzy... my face gets so oily and it looks really bad..we wear uniforms in school and not allowed make up although i do put eyeliner...and im not allowed to straighten or colour my hair or ...
A. 16 February 2008: Get some facial cleansers for your oily face. Don't need to buy expensive ones as the cheap ones can also do the job effectively. You need to find the right brand for your skin sensitivity.If they are excessive, you need to see your doctor.
Take ... (read in full...)
Sibling problems, Help!
Q. I don't know what to do about my brother. This isn't some weird incestuous relationship, I just mean that my brother hates me and I don't know where else to go. I'm 16 and he's 14. Here's the thing. We get along for certain periods of time, it all ...
A. 16 February 2008: You need to make peace with your brother and your surroundings.
You may not like his ways or his attitude but he is your brother and you need to give some and take some or maybe only give and never take any.
You will have to accept him for w... (read in full...)
He's invited me over but I'm a bit scared in case he's too pushy!
Q. arrghh ok so I've been recently getting to know a guy at my school. He told me he liked me and got me roses for valentines. So far he's been nothing but sweet to me, we're really getting along. but I've heard things about him, he's very promiscu...
A. 16 February 2008: It would be more appropriate to meet in a public place than the home.
When you go to his home, it could mean that you are willing to go all the way with him. He may get the wrong signals.
There is also the risk of being forced to do what you d... (read in full...)
What advice can you give me for the future?
Q. Hi. I went out on the town tonight and had barely any contact with a woman at all. I was lucky to even get involved in a conversation. I usually get lots of attention but tonight I have come home feeling disappointed. I know when you go out you ...
A. 16 February 2008: This is what life is all about. There are good days ,there are bad days and some days , neither good or bad.
You are still young and have a long way to travel in this life.
Live for today and take each day as it comes.
Work hard, play hard ... (read in full...)
Is this man worth my time?
Q. I am in a almost 2yr realationship. My partner has taken a 2wk trip with his ex since I have been with him. He shortly after that broke up with me to go back to her. After he tried that for awhile he came back to me, relizing that she was not ...
A. 16 February 2008: Can you live without him?
If you can , then it would be easy .Just walk away from him and forget everything.
Life is not that simple. You cannot choose and pick what you want from a person. He comes with the good as well as the bad.
Some... (read in full...)
Falling in love with a much younger woman...what to do?
Q. Hello all. I'm seeking advice on a very heart wrenching problem I'm trying to sort out. I'm a 36 year old man who works with a 23 year old woman. Both her and I are in exclusive dating relationships but not married. I think it's safe to say that ...
A. 16 February 2008: Love is not about age or looks but about maturity and compatibility.
If you think age is a hurdle then you are not matured enough to be in love on a deeper level.
If your head and your heart go on a colluding course, then you will have no pea... (read in full...)
I can't tell if my college guy friend likes me more then a friend or not.
Q. I can't tell if my college guy friend likes me more then a friend or not. We have been friends for a while and have had sort of a flirty relationship, but he was dating another girl and nothing went out of bounds. Recently, he and his girlfriend ...
A. 16 February 2008: He likes you alright but he does not want to openly admit to it.His lack of follow through in school is because he does not want to let others know about his closeness to you .
If you want more affections from him , you need to get him to a mor... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with him? I'm scared of getting hurt
Q. i'm 18 he's 24. we go to college together and ever since i met him this fall i thought there was something about him. a couple weeks before winter break he started doing simple things and being a sweetie like playing with my hair, leaving all our ...
A. 16 February 2008: You may think your friends having sex is great but you do not realize what is going on through their heads. There will be so many gamut of emotions and feelings that suddenly cropped up and they will have to handle all those new stress that they ... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend saved those videos?
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were both in realationships prior to us being together. I snooped and found a camcorder, with some videotapes. I find out he had been filming various types of females, while he was in his old ...
A. 15 February 2008:
One time when he was young and stupid and got plenty of time and had nothing to do, he went and did some stupid thing , filming girls butt .
The chicken has come back to roost for him.
When you were young, did you do any impetuous thing ... (read in full...)
Today I came across lots porn in his drawer - and not classy porn either, and it seems to really bother me.
Q. Hi - I have been with my boyfriend for about two years now and everything seems nice; although today I came across lots porn in his drawer - and not classy porn either, and it seems to really bother me. I know that it is seem as normal for men to h...
A. 15 February 2008: Having you and porn are two different issues.The porn do not take over your place. He still loves you the same. You are real while those porn are just fantasies.
When you are not there, he needs them for visual stimulations when he has the urge... (read in full...)
What do readers think of a singleton going out with someone's who's got children already?
Q. A girl likes me, but she's got 2 children, 5 and 6. What do readers think of a singleton going out with someone's who's got children already?...
A. 15 February 2008: You get an instant family and catapult into an instant dad and make sure you have deep pockets. You will have to feed three other mouths.
... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend saved those videos?
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were both in realationships prior to us being together. I snooped and found a camcorder, with some videotapes. I find out he had been filming various types of females, while he was in his old ...
A. 15 February 2008: I saw a a T.V program on this butt business and how those butts were in actions, jogging, walking or climbing.They were just butts because the program did not want to identity the owners. Ordinarily, we seldom observe people walking and how the butt ... (read in full...)
It's all such a mess, I was told my husband cheated on me and threw him out, now I've found out he didn't!
Q. I have been with my husband for almost 7 1/2 years now... we've been married for almost 4. We have two sons, one 5 1/2, and the other is 1 1/2. He was my high school sweetheart, and we've been through so much. He was in the Marine Corps, and is such ...
A. 15 February 2008: All's well that ends well!
I am glad and happy for you that everything is bright and shinning again in your life.
Take care!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ALMOST kissed he best friend's wife, what is that???
Q. OK Guys... I have dilemma again. Last night my live in boyfriend took me out to a Dinner and Dance restaurant on Valentines Day. We invited my Mom and her boyfriend, and his best friend and his wife. (They all have known each other for years.) ...
A. 15 February 2008: Your rightful place would be besides your b/f and in between him and that friends wife.If you have done that, this incident would probably have no occurred.You need to guard your territory. LOL!
Any how , you should be wiser the next time where yo... (read in full...)
Are all women bisexual?
Q. just wondering... are all women bisexual?...
A. 15 February 2008: I don't think that is a true statement.Many women may have bisexual tendencies but that does not mean that they are bisexual.This is just my personal opinions only.... (read in full...)
I'm married and in love with another man.
Q. I am a 23 year old female and I have been married for 8 months. My husband and I have been together since I was 18 years old. I was head over heels in love with my husband up until about 7 months before we got married. I am a christian and my ...
A. 15 February 2008: As a Christian , forgiving should not be difficult as if you do not forgive others , how can God forgive you of your sins.
Thinking of him in your mind is committing adultery and that is a sin.
Your Christian friend is fishing in troubled wate... (read in full...)
I think he is too skinny. Am I being shallow?
Q. hello please help me, there is this boy at my school he is so nice, popular and always making everyone laugh, we get on so well and always joking. my best friend thinks that i should go out with him as he likes me as well but im always attacted to ...
A. 15 February 2008: He may be skinny on the outside but his heart is made of pure gold and encrusted with diamonds. If you do not know how to appreciate him , other girls will. It is your loss.... (read in full...)
Am I inadequate - if someone's desires and wants I can not fullfil, am I just crazy to stay with my girlfriend?
Q. I have been in a relationship for the past 2 years. Over the past couple months, several "significant" dates have passed by, and we have fought all the way to this point. My girlfriend has never felt I love her. I am not very emotional, and not one ...
A. 15 February 2008: She felt unloved because you did not want to participate with her daily bath and sex rituals. That is what she sees.
Your needs are incompatible .You need to resolve this issue or it will tear your relationship apart.... (read in full...)
Does he like me as just a friend or something more?
Q. I like my flatmate at uni and he knows how I feel through a stupid mistake. However, yesterday on valentines day, my other two flatmates were going out with eachother and it was going to be just me and him alone. So he kept joking in front of ...
A. 15 February 2008: He was just toying with your feelings like a cat and a mouse..
He was not serious with you but he was trying to take advantage of you.
... (read in full...)
Lately our conversations have been short and awkward. Does that mean she doesn't like me anymore?
Q. Desperate as I am gonig to this site... I need assurance of sorts. This girl and I both like each other. We both have told each other and considered dating. We are really good friends and afraid to ruin that.... so we're holding off but she says...
A. 15 February 2008: There are 'kinks' in your relationship. You need to iron them out and it takes time to go back to normal.
Just bear with her and it will soon be summer again. Treat each day as it comes. ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's hiding something from me?
Q. Give me some feedback, my boyfriend always hides his phone, keeps in his pants and hardly lists any phone numbers, they are unlisted, just by digits, to top it off he turns his cell phone off when he charges it, the ringer is always silent, to me ...
A. 15 February 2008: I think you are paranoid. You should not control everything your b/f do.Give him some space and don't breathe down his neck and suffocate him.
In any relationship , you should give some leeway.A relationship based on fear and suspicion will not... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend saved those videos?
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were both in realationships prior to us being together. I snooped and found a camcorder, with some videotapes. I find out he had been filming various types of females, while he was in his old ...
A. 15 February 2008: It was only a fad . Don't get mad and it is not worth messing your relationship over this.
You should see the humorous side of it.LOL!... (read in full...)
Water under the Bridge...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now, we have been through just about every wrong path a relationship can take... But we still care for each other. My family tells me to let go and move on, his family is embracing our relationship ...
A. 15 February 2008: Tell him that you want to start all over again from scratch. Begin a new phase in your life. Ask him to give your relationship another chance. Try to learn from your past mistakes and inexperiences.
If there is still an ounce of love inside o... (read in full...)
Heartbroken and confused...
Q. Hello. I'm finding it really hard to cope losing my girlfriend. She ended our relationship Tuesday because she was not happy but I really love her. If we were still together today it would of been 14 months and 2 weeks. I love her so much my heart ...
A. 15 February 2008: Loving her is one thing but how you treated her is another .
You need to know why she was unhappy with you? Is it because of something you did or is it because of you as a person?
If you did anything wrong or did not do something which was ex... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend saved those videos?
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were both in realationships prior to us being together. I snooped and found a camcorder, with some videotapes. I find out he had been filming various types of females, while he was in his old ...
A. 15 February 2008: That was in the past. Whatever happened in the past, do not dig it up. Everyone has a past and it is best you let it go .
Would you feel better if you asked him to delete or throw them away?... (read in full...)
It's all such a mess, I was told my husband cheated on me and threw him out, now I've found out he didn't!
Q. I have been with my husband for almost 7 1/2 years now... we've been married for almost 4. We have two sons, one 5 1/2, and the other is 1 1/2. He was my high school sweetheart, and we've been through so much. He was in the Marine Corps, and is such ...
A. 14 February 2008: Time will heal all your hurts and pains. Just be good and nice to him like a good wife should be.
It will return back to normal in time.... (read in full...)
It's all such a mess, I was told my husband cheated on me and threw him out, now I've found out he didn't!
Q. I have been with my husband for almost 7 1/2 years now... we've been married for almost 4. We have two sons, one 5 1/2, and the other is 1 1/2. He was my high school sweetheart, and we've been through so much. He was in the Marine Corps, and is such ...
A. 13 February 2008: Just be frank and sincere and tell your husband that you made a big mistake , apologize to him and seek his forgiveness.Since he love you , I think he will accept you back.
You should have checked and verified those rumors first before you take... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with him? I'm scared of getting hurt
Q. i'm 18 he's 24. we go to college together and ever since i met him this fall i thought there was something about him. a couple weeks before winter break he started doing simple things and being a sweetie like playing with my hair, leaving all our ...
A. 20 January 2008: Yeah! If he fancies you , he would have jumped on your suggestion without hesitations.But this does not mean that you have no chance. It suddenly hit him like a hurricane and he could not respond with the right answer. He needed more time to decide. ... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with him? I'm scared of getting hurt
Q. i'm 18 he's 24. we go to college together and ever since i met him this fall i thought there was something about him. a couple weeks before winter break he started doing simple things and being a sweetie like playing with my hair, leaving all our ...
A. 10 January 2008: Just be a friend and let the current carry you wherever it wants.Enjoy your friendship, live in the present. Be an optimist.
Have you heard of this adage? It is better to love and fail than not to love at all.
... (read in full...)
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