My friend is finding motherhood very stressful. How can I help?
Q. I've been staying at my friends house while her boyfriend is away as they have a 4 week old baby and she wanted some company and help. I knew they were finding being parents hard, this is their first child and they are both 23. Last night I woke up ...
A. 2 March 2008: What she needs is close support and a friend. You are doing the right thing to be there for her. That is all you can do till she becomes stronger .
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Do you think he is into me or not really, anymore?
Q. I was practice teaching at this school for 2 months but left to teach somewhere else. I found a DVD I borrowed from one of the others teachers a month later and contacted him to tell him I had it and if he wanted it back. I've always had a lit...
A. 29 February 2008: If you like to dance with the wolf, then get up and dance with him and see where he leads you.
Don't regret it if you let go of this opportunity.... (read in full...)
Meeting as friends to see what happens
Q. Hi, I'd really appreciate any advice you guys could give me. I'm 24 and my first real relationship ended last year in november. We'd been together 3 years but he felt he couldnt really give it his all anymore and I was feeling that I wasnt rea...
A. 24 February 2008: That married man is not a good option. You should give your attentions to your ex and see how it develops. Try to work at it and give your best shot.Take things each day as it comes..... (read in full...)
Turned me down because she thinks I'm gay.
Q. A girl turned me down because people call me gay at school but i am deffinately not and i really like her, what can i do ?? i dont care wat people think but its effecting me now as i can not get the girl i want because of it. it makes me really sad ...
A. 24 February 2008: Sorry , it is not easy to clear your name when that label sticks on to you. Time may help you or if you move to a totally different location.
You would need a lot of convincing that you are not a gay. Whatever associate you with this label, d... (read in full...)
I have invested so much emotionally and financially to this guy... turns out he is happily married with no plans of divorcing! What now?
Q. I had an affair with a married man for 1.5 years when his wife discovered the affair. She made him leave and because I knew how much his son meant to him, I helped him get set up in an apartment near his home and have paid for his rent for the last ...
A. 24 February 2008: When it comes to love, women leaves their brains behind.
You can read more from my take here ;-
http://www.pi... (read in full...)
If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin?
Q. I've got one curious question to ask you. If you use a condom when having sex, areyou still classed as a virgin? Please tell me, I asked my mum, she said ask your dad so I did but he said ask your mum etc etc. I can never get anywere with my famil...
A. 24 February 2008: What do you mean by virgin?
A girl is considered a virgin if her hymen is still intact. She may not have sex and still lose her virginity because the hymen or thin membrane inside her vagina can be broken by rigorous exercise .
She may have ... (read in full...)
Do any of you guys have any tricks that all males do to let girls know they're interested?
Q. This is a question for all the guys. I like a guy right now but it's really hard to tell what's going on in his mind. Sometimes, I catch him looking at me, sometimes he just never looks at me when he has the oppurtunity to, from a close distance. I ...
A. 24 February 2008: You can read about all those tips here;-
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_tell_if_a_guy_likes_you
... (read in full...)
My friends say he will let me down again. Was I wrong to give him a second chance?
Q. I was in a long distance relationship with this guy we'll call him H. We met a week before he went to uni 5 hours away from where i live but carried on speaking on msn everynight- webcamming, video calling etc. He was due home for christmas in which ...
A. 23 February 2008: When you break a bone and it grow back, it will become stronger. Just as in relationships, you become stronger after each failure. You know your mistakes and your weakness and you will try to overcome them.
No one is perfect. If you do not give... (read in full...)
We work together and I don't understand him. How can I?
Q. we both are working together for the last one month.iam attracted to him and it seems he is also.he use to stay always close to me and brushing me and touching me.gives me looks and few times i saw him staring me.iam shy type .when i flirt with ...
A. 23 February 2008: He is disturbed by your flirtings with others and feels let down by your actions. He cannot express his dissatisfaction to you and so only half hearted and reply in monologues to you.
If you are interested in him , you may want to pay more att... (read in full...)
Am I gay because of what I did?
Q. Am I gay Over the last year I have been watching gay porn. At first it was just one or twice here and there. At this point it was just to see what was what. After watching a few time it started turning me on I enjoyed it more and more. A...
A. 23 February 2008: You have found your sexual orientations. You are living a gay lifestyle and by right you should be known as a gay.
Do you have problems with it?... (read in full...)
Do you have any tips to try to get rid of my feelings?
Q. (Sorry, this is a repost after getting an account.) So, I've been looking for some help from various places, and this situation I'm in is quite the rough one. To start this off, it's an online relationship, we talk on the phone, but there's n...
A. 23 February 2008: Go to the highest mountain you can find or a cliff or somewhere lonely and shout out your frustrations . You will feel much better afterwards.
Or you can do it in your room, let your frustrations out by punching or kicking your pillow.
Accept ... (read in full...)
Can you answer my questions on sex please?
Q. Ok I am a 20 year old virgin in college which is tough. But I think my time may be coming. I have A LOT of questions (sorry, and thanks to anyone who reads it all) help on any would be appreciated. Anyways I hear all this about women having a hard ...
A. 23 February 2008: You can read all those technics and detailed answers online by 'Google' all those questions.... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to adjust to being single. I miss relationships! How can I relax a little?
Q. Hiiii Bit of a problem. I've been single for like a year and 2 months. Problem is that after all that time, I'm still not truly used to being single. I miss having a relationship very much, and everything that goes with it! EVERYTHING! (You...
A. 23 February 2008: There is a time to be single and a time to be in relationship. Think of this like a cycle. You will be in a relationship when you least expect it.You can think of it like the four seasons, winter, summer, autumn and spring.
Then you should g... (read in full...)
What does your girl do that just drives you wild? How can I make him crave me as much as I long for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and as to be expected the original chemistry is dying out. There has been a lot of strain on our relationship but we still keep on holding on. I love him alot but feel that my reactions to ...
A. 23 February 2008: You could also Google that question and get more details online.... (read in full...)
What does your girl do that just drives you wild? How can I make him crave me as much as I long for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and as to be expected the original chemistry is dying out. There has been a lot of strain on our relationship but we still keep on holding on. I love him alot but feel that my reactions to ...
A. 23 February 2008: The simple solution is to fall in love with him all over again.
You can read my write here;-
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/05/31/how-to-put-romance-back-into-ur-relationship/... (read in full...)
I think it's love that's keeping us together.....
Q. I am totally in love with a boy I met at 14, we were together for a year and he taught me a lot of new things I had never experienced about love, we then broke up for another year as we made a descision, we obviously didn't realise it was going to ...
A. 23 February 2008: He is too young to understand what love is . He has been successful in preventing you from leaving by scaring and threatening you with suicide . He is in fact manipulating and controlling you with this threat.
You will have to pluck up your cou... (read in full...)
Embarassing to date a fat person?
Q. is it embarassing to date a fat guy? what do you think when you see a fat couple? give me your own honest opinion pls....
A. 23 February 2008: It is only embarrassing if you think it is embarrassing.It depends on where you stand.You should not let other's opinion influence you.
Be yourself. Do you like fat people? If you don't like to date fat people, don't do it.
Do you have anythin... (read in full...)
Have been sleeping with one of my father's favourite employees, if this continues should I tell my parents?
Q. My parents own a company that I have worked at for the past 3 years. Through out my years there I have always been attracted to one of the men that work there. Recently we've hung out and have begun sleeping with each other. As it stands now things ...
A. 23 February 2008: Do you have any future plans ?Are you serious in your relationship?
If you are planning to get hitched, then you should let your parents know.
If you have doubts about him , then hold a bit longer until you are very certain.... (read in full...)
Only 3 days ago I met a nice guy online, and I feel like risking my 3-year relationship for him! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years but about three days ago I met a guy on a chat line, he has been very nice to me and I started to get feelings for him. I love my boyfriend very much and don't believe in cheating but I ...
A. 23 February 2008: You mutually parted and good for you . You can throw away all his baggage and fly again. Good Luck and enjoy!... (read in full...)
How do I politely deny their invitation to go on a date?
Q. I regularly work in the evenings at my parent's family business. Of course, I get customers who are in their 20's, 30's, all ages. I'm 18, and some of the men have giving me their numbers,or myspace..or shown some sign of interest, such a...
A. 23 February 2008: Tell him, I am flattered but I am taken or I am in a relationship. or I am seeing someone. That he is too good for you and some other girls deserved him. No! Thank you. If they give you their numbers or myspace, just accept it but y... (read in full...)
How can I get over myself to find love?
Q. I am 17 years old and i have never had a real boyfriend, I feel very self conscious and find it hard to trust people. Some of my friends have boyfriends and I don't exactly want to "follow the crowd" but do want to feel loved, how can I build on my ...
A. 21 February 2008: Get a new make over and exercise for a fitter and healthier body. You will become more highly visual to the guys.... (read in full...)
My friend is finding motherhood very stressful. How can I help?
Q. I've been staying at my friends house while her boyfriend is away as they have a 4 week old baby and she wanted some company and help. I knew they were finding being parents hard, this is their first child and they are both 23. Last night I woke up ...
A. 21 February 2008: She could be having postpartum depression . She needs to go see a doctor for medications.
She needs close support and care.What about her parents or relatives? You have been doing a great job of keeping her company and giving her your support.... (read in full...)
How to fix a Long distace relationship
Q. Hello, can anyone help? I am in a long distance relationship with a girl in New Zealand. I live in the UK. We are both 37 We have been together for one year and have met up 4 times. We text and phone all the time and the relationship is goo...
A. 21 February 2008: Keep sending those e-mails even if she did not reply you . She would want to read them and know what is in your mind.
By sending those e-mails, you are telling her that you are still thinking of her and she is very much in your thoughts... (read in full...)
Do you think he is into me or not really, anymore?
Q. I was practice teaching at this school for 2 months but left to teach somewhere else. I found a DVD I borrowed from one of the others teachers a month later and contacted him to tell him I had it and if he wanted it back. I've always had a lit...
A. 21 February 2008: He has commitment problems.Recognize that and it would save you lots of anguish and heartaches.
If he is interested in you , he would have gone with you half way around the world and not still stuck at 1st base!... (read in full...)
How can I make my guy see that it is time for us to break up and move on?
Q. Hi I've just ended my relationship after almost 5 years. We split up early last year and somehow got back together around August time. We didn't live together or anything. During that time apart though my feelings changed and after getting ba...
A. 21 February 2008: Change your handset to a new number.That will stop all those nuisance calls from him.
His thoughts and emotions are unstable and like a chaotic sea.
You need to stay away for a period of time to stabilize his thoughts and emotions. ... (read in full...)
I didn't go out and party "a lot" so my gf left me. Any way I can show her I can be "fun" too?
Q. My girlfriend just broke up with me recently, and she gave no clear reason. Our relationship was fine we were completely fine, but i think it's cause i'm "lame." I admit I don't go out and party "a lot" but I have friends and we go out once and a ...
A. 21 February 2008:
"You are too predictable and no surprises . "
That is the most given reason when girls want to leave a relationship. It becomes too boring and when you take her for granted.She needs some surprises now and then to maintain her interest in ... (read in full...)
I wish he could last longer in bed, how do we achieve that?
Q. hi, i'm 17 and me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 9 months. we have sex a lot and i love it, but sometimes i wish he could last longer. any advice on what to do? also, i've never orgasmed either, and i know loads of women take ages ...
A. 21 February 2008: You can try to press/pinch the head of the penis till it flattens, the blood draining back into the system. It could prolong his coming ejaculations.
The other way is to tell him to stop and freeze when he feels like coming to get the feelings... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to the maturity of older women, is this normal?
Q. I wonderd about this and i think finally that i was right all along. I like older wemon, it's because i don't like the imature actions of a lot of the girls at my school and thus making me not like them. But older women i have been around even if ...
A. 21 February 2008: You may prefer older women but have you ever thought that some older women do not prefer younger men when it comes to love?
They may prefer you as friends but in love....??????
Generally speaking but with exceptions, most women prefer an older ... (read in full...)
I have invested so much emotionally and financially to this guy... turns out he is happily married with no plans of divorcing! What now?
Q. I had an affair with a married man for 1.5 years when his wife discovered the affair. She made him leave and because I knew how much his son meant to him, I helped him get set up in an apartment near his home and have paid for his rent for the last ...
A. 21 February 2008: Cut your losses and run. The longer you wait , the more you will bleed .
Before the Titanic sinks , jump ship or it will drag you all down to the bottom.
He is just a fence sitter and will never divorce his wife and he is only using you and in... (read in full...)
I am bi and my dad said he would disown his children in such case, so how can I tell them?
Q. My dad has always said he would disown his kids if he found out any of us were gay/les/bi. I don't have the best relationship with my dad but I do my mom but I am afrade to tell them that I am bi. I am 17. I have three brothers also that would judge ...
A. 21 February 2008: Why do you need to tell them or the world that you are a bi?
You know the wrath you will incur if you let them know. Is it worth the risk?
Be a closet bi until you are independent.... (read in full...)
My love has faded and I find myself annoyed with my bf. Why do I feel this way? How can I make it go away?
Q. I have a boyfriend of three years. A little bit more than that. I used to be basically obsessed with him because it took me a while to get serious with him because of other girls. He hasnt touched another girl for three years so that's all fine... ...
A. 21 February 2008: It could be that you have come to this part of the journey where the land is arid and the winds are blowing intermittently.
The next phase maybe better....... (read in full...)
It's stressing to lead my life keeping in mind what society is thinking and perceiving about me, but I can't help it!
Q. hey everyone here....i m a girl suffering from depression and anxiety disorders with a low self esteem....my problem is tht i'm too people conscious...all the time i'm analyzing every small action and every small word uttered by me n what people ...
A. 21 February 2008: Do what you think will make your happy and not society happy. Society is just a nameless institution with myriads of opinions.
What is more important in life is your happiness! If you want to be a clown and am happy , so be it.
You do not ha... (read in full...)
I've been sleeping with my daughter's boyfriend, thing is... he doesn't know I'm her mother!
Q. I'm having a morale dilemma. I'm single mum of one (38) with a 20 year old daughter. I work with a really cute guy whose 25 and made a pass at me on a works night out. I felt flattered but turned him down as I am his boss. A few weeks on,...
A. 21 February 2008: As a mother , you should think of your daughters happiness first.You may have to give him up and this is a sacrifice which you have to make for your daughter's sake unless you want your daughter to disown you.
Whatever happens, it cannot be undon... (read in full...)
Her not talking to me is tearing me apart. How can I fix this?
Q. Hey I really like this girl but today I got into a fight with her ex and now she refuses to retun my calls, txts, and Ims. I told her I like her but she didn't feel the same and I just want her to be happy but i still want her to be a close fr...
A. 21 February 2008: Tell her you are sorry that you should not have got into a fight with her ex and wait till her storm blows over.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex has created an online profile with photos of her and my bf. Am I wrong to be mad about this?
Q. ok i'll try to keep this short..i have been with my BF for 4 years..a freind of mine told me that there was something i might want to see on Facebook,, she lead me to my BF's...EX girlfiend's profile..Apparently little miss,, has created a photo ...
A. 21 February 2008: If you know the truth, there is nothing to worry about that picture. Just let it pass and stop worrying about it.No point making it a big issue and be unhappy.... (read in full...)
I want my best friends ex bf! But she still loves him! What can I do?
Q. Well, I have e problem...I have a bestfriend. Shes been my BFF since 6th grade. Her and her ex broke up over a year ago.. but she loved him and claims "she always will...he was her first love". Well, now I LOVE him, i dont know what to do, I love ...
A. 21 February 2008: If she is a true friend, she should not stand in your way .After all , the boy does not like her anymore. In reality it is easier said than done.
If you really love this boy , you may have to decide who do you want to spend your time with or who i... (read in full...)
I can't let go of her! Help
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a guy, age 16, and there's this girl and we've been the best of friends for 9 years. Naturally, I started to have feeling toward her. I asked her about a little while back and she said she didn't want to damage our friendsh...
A. 21 February 2008: She wants only friendship from you and you should respect her. Continue with being friends for her till one day she will see the true potential in you.
Don't fight those feelings. Just accept them and you will have peace inside of you.
... (read in full...)
Met him online through a personal ad...can anyone answer my questions?
Q. Ok, so i met this guy online through a personal ad. hes totally cool and he wanted to hang out almost immediately. he seems kool and he understands that im not just in it for sex and neither is he. i kinda nervous tho. i think about him alot and i ...
A. 21 February 2008: Treat him like a man. Let him do all the chasing and you enjoy his friendship and be positive. If he likes you like honey , he will come back for more..LOL!... (read in full...)
It was wrong to cheat years ago, but do I have to suffer for the rest of my life!
Q. I am not for sure where to even begin. Here it goes! My BF and I have been together for 4years in the beginning of our relationship I cheated on him. I know it was wrong and I am not excusing myself for this, after a year he found out about ...
A. 21 February 2008: If you love him and want a better relationship with him , you need to withdraw from him till he wants to come back to you on your terms.
He has to grow up and move on with your past.. You do not have to suffer all your life for a mistake in the p... (read in full...)
My cheating boyfriend wants to stay together, I think, does he?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now.He's 34 and Im 25 and Ive stuck by him through thick and thin.when his car broke down,i took him to work for four straight months. He lost that job last month, i was still driving him around,spending ...
A. 21 February 2008: I think you should give him more space so that he can ponder about his future and whether he still wants to continue with you.
It is like those swines who like the mud bath and do not want to get up. You leave them till they want to get up.He ha... (read in full...)
I lost a lot of weight, and want more sex than my man can provide, how can I change things around?
Q. Hi, I am a 26 year old happily married woman. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and together for 8. We are very happy and compatiable. The only problem I have with our relationship is that he doesn't want sex NEARLY as much as I do. ...
A. 21 February 2008: To have great sex, you need to eat the right kind of food, have enough sleep and exercise.
You can read what I wrote here;-
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/09/09/not-having-enough-sex/
http://pinksuzie.com/... (read in full...)
Is my brother in law trying it on?
Q. Hi there, Okay, so I've now been married two months; however my husband is stationed overseas. I love my husband, and aside from being apart am very happy. My husband's family lives a few hours away and I visit as often as I can. Over the l...
A. 21 February 2008: Do not encourage him. Put your feet down . Stand up to him and he will respect you and not become bolder through your inactions.... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 21 February 2008: You are a reasonable ,sane and rational individual. Thanks for your update.... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 20 February 2008: You cannot expect people to turn 180 degrees.
Sorry , sentence was incomplete.
Should be...
You cannot expect people to turn 180 degrees in a jiffy .If he made some 10% or 20% changes, that is good enough. He is changing and the wheel o... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 20 February 2008: There will always be conflicts in relationships.
It is a matter of solving them in a rational and matured way. It is unavoidable and it can strengthened the bonds.
You do not judge and act like God and demand everything your way. Only childi... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 19 February 2008: You need to be reasonable. You cannot just say stop .Period!
You need to understand he has needs too even if you don't agree.
What if you reversed the scenario and he tells you to stop your girlie things you do ,like going to the hair dresser... (read in full...)
Only 3 days ago I met a nice guy online, and I feel like risking my 3-year relationship for him! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years but about three days ago I met a guy on a chat line, he has been very nice to me and I started to get feelings for him. I love my boyfriend very much and don't believe in cheating but I ...
A. 12 February 2008: You could bring a friend along to accompany you .Remember not to accept any lift from him .Be careful your drinks is not spiked.
Type this address in your search window to go to Google.
http://www.google.com/... (read in full...)
Only 3 days ago I met a nice guy online, and I feel like risking my 3-year relationship for him! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years but about three days ago I met a guy on a chat line, he has been very nice to me and I started to get feelings for him. I love my boyfriend very much and don't believe in cheating but I ...
A. 12 February 2008: You should not feel guilty to meet another man. You have done nothing wrong.You are just checking out some facts and you have not committed anything yet.
If you don't meet him, you will never know if he is real or not.
Get his real name and ad... (read in full...)
Only 3 days ago I met a nice guy online, and I feel like risking my 3-year relationship for him! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years but about three days ago I met a guy on a chat line, he has been very nice to me and I started to get feelings for him. I love my boyfriend very much and don't believe in cheating but I ...
A. 11 February 2008: Be careful of online friends. You don't know who they really are until you meet them in real life.They could be married or conman on the prowl.
Do some background checking first.... (read in full...)
Only 3 days ago I met a nice guy online, and I feel like risking my 3-year relationship for him! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years but about three days ago I met a guy on a chat line, he has been very nice to me and I started to get feelings for him. I love my boyfriend very much and don't believe in cheating but I ...
A. 7 February 2008: Just enjoy the attentions and the flirting. Don't take it serious because it could be a girl or a married man or a machine..LOL! There is a Russian Casanova unleashed online and it is a program .... (read in full...)
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