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writes:Hi,I've recently gotten back with an ex, we were together for 6 years and apart for over two years,Orginally we split because we got together at an early age and both wanted more, I went away and eventually he slept with someone else, even though we said we wouldnt, that really hurt me. After that we split, and in the time apart we both had other relationships, we stayed away from each other,We got back together because we both never fully let go, or fell in love again although even in long relationships.I love him and he loves me but I find it hard to let go of the past and what happened, things bring back hurful memories and in sexual situations I sometimes imagine him with someone else or imagine he had better sex with someone else, even though our sex is good, we're very open and have agreed to talk about all things on our minds.Sometimes I think it could be easier to be with someone where the past doesn't hurt, but I don't want to let him go at all, it's like I can't live with him, can't live with out him, I love him but want to be happy, he makes me happy but other thoughts upset me so much and keep coming back,Any advice on getting over the past and moving on when you get back with an ex?
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reader, Sinead27 +, writes (19 February 2008):
Sinead27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAww thanks guys feel way better now, somtimes you just need to hear it from someone else, an outsider as well, sometimes get even more confused from advice from friends,Cheers really thanks
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 February 2008):
 You know you cannot go back and change the past.It happened and it is history. You have to accept this fact.
At that time, it happened because you were young and inexperienced. Everyone make mistakes and they learn from it.
Tell tourself that you need to live in the present and the past is gone.You may think of it but it will not hurt you anymore.
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reader, faith_believe_love  +, writes (19 February 2008):
 Hi, Getting over the past is never an easy thing to do especially if that past was hurtful and that past was with someone you love. Even after how many years gone by that past will still comes back again and again and surely those emotions of the past will arise too. Your not the only one who feels that right now I bet him too feels the same way.In my opinion you should just concentrate on whats happening right now keep yourself busy and make sure that when you have to take a rest or you have a free time dont let your self think about those memories in the past that will absolutely hurt you or may change your views. take care.
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