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writes: Dear AuntsI am so insecure with my boyfriend, we have been thru so much. Before we went out we had ups and downs he always tested how much i really liked him coz his inseucre himself and he used to go back to his ex we'll call her *kiara* and my bf *ben* well, ben used to go bak to her i think atleast 2 times and wen he was with her (they neva went out was jus seein each other for 2 years on n off) and he never cheated on her and treated her good.then he met this girl who i met him thru and he ended up bein with me after 8 months of on n off then we went out now for 2 years but we broke up once for 3 months n he went bak to her and started likin her and forgettin bout me wen we got bak he said dat he tried to use her to get over me and other girls but it didn't work and that he mayb felt like he liked her but it was only coz he misses her as a friend but i don't believe himand now that we've broken up again n gotten bak (this time he didn't talk to any girls) i still feel insecure that one day he will leave me for her =( or that i don't mean as much to him as she did.and we've talked about this issue sooo many times n he always says that he doesnt care about her anymore, shes nothing to him and that he knows with me dat i;m his first love and she was jus a giant crush and it was nothing but physical attraction but i know it was more then that coz otherwise why didnt he cheat on her but he cheated on me? =\ n it doesn't seem like he respects me muchi know that i need to leave him coz i duno wat else to do, unless u hav been thru this before and hav some tips kiara is really pretty and nice and loyal n wud be a fantastic gf, they broke up because they had fights n coz she didn't talk bout her feelings n was too shy. that was 4 years ago. i keep thinkin that if i leave him, he'l lgo bak to her and that would break my heart. it would make me feel like the 2 years i've spent with him meant nothing.:'(plz help
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Oh Dear,
It really doesn't sound to me, like you will find happiness with this man. There has been to much going on for you to have any trust in him.
If you leave him I'm sure he will go back to his Ex, only because its easy though. What you have to consider is! 1. Is it worth feeling a small amount of pain for a while and then maybe meeting the guy of your dreams. Or 2, do you stay in a relationship where you have no trust and are scared that you are about to be dumped all the time. Of course the choice is yours, but remember! there are plenty more Guys out there, that will treat you really well and you wont feel like you do anymore.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Take one day at a time and stop worrying about it. Just go out and enjoy each other.
Nobody knows what will happen in the future.
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