I have been dumped after 10 years, during which he kept picking fault with me. Help!
Q. i have just been 'dumped' after 10 years. I am an extremely attractive and kind soul. I did not deserve this. I tried to change for him when he kept picking fault with me. he would never try, even counselling. i made the decision to let it go, ...
A. 9 June 2008: Thanks for your update.
You need to think of yourself first and not sell your soul down the river to some heartless and soulless creature.
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I have been dumped after 10 years, during which he kept picking fault with me. Help!
Q. i have just been 'dumped' after 10 years. I am an extremely attractive and kind soul. I did not deserve this. I tried to change for him when he kept picking fault with me. he would never try, even counselling. i made the decision to let it go, ...
A. 25 February 2008: You are a whole woman even if you are without a man.
I am glad and happy that events have moved to your satisfaction and that you can chart your own life and begin a new life with him, a better and more understanding partner.
You have rest... (read in full...)
He seen us kissing whilst dancing and it's now torturing me as this guy knows my boyfriend...
Q. I am in a loving relationship with a guy who I adore and have lived with for 2 years. On a night out about 4 weeks ago, I was dancing with a mutual friend of mine and my boyfriends. Another friend of ours has said he seen us kissing whilst dancing ...
A. 18 February 2008: If your b/f asked you , tell him that friend stole a kiss from you and you were the innocent party.
You were dancing and suddenly his lips landed smack on your lips and you were shocked and quickly withdrew.It is not your fault. LOL!
Your fr... (read in full...)
All I want is a settled life with him and I want him love me as before.
Q. Hi Dear cupid, My problem is with my husband. I have married from 7 years he was fall in my love but I think he stopped to love me in the last two years although I keep my good looking but in fact I don't love him as before. All I hope is a s...
A. 18 February 2008: He did not stop loving you . His love only ages like fine and matured wine...LOL!
After 7 years , you expect him to be like when he first met you ?
If only we can turn back time....Dear Cupid! I want to be 18 again!
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How do I show her that I am not someone who is all talk but am serious about my actions...? How do I gain her trust again?
Q. I met a woman whom I felt was "perfect" for me in April 07. This being after being introduced, chatting casually and having a fantastic 6 hour date over dinner and drinks. However she had a boyfriend at the time and gradually became confused. ...
A. 18 February 2008: If you throw a porcelain vase on the floor and break it into thousand pieces, can you make it whole again?
You may stick it back piece by piece but it wont be the same again.
Your efforts will only be futile.
Leave her until she sees the l... (read in full...)
Why can't I move on?
Q. My ex partner and I were together for 7 years then split up a year ago. He got a girlfriend straight away, almost too quick if you get my drift. He cheated on me twice in the relationship. I am still in love with him and he keeps phoning and texting ...
A. 18 February 2008: Write down a list of your benefits and losses if you stay or leave and see which is more.
Which is more important to you , peace of mind or money and security?
Write down the reasons why you want to stay in this relationship.
Economic depen... (read in full...)
Finsh him or stay with him?
Q. right... I have been going oout with this boy for nearly 3 weeks and I really like him.But his friend, (who is my friend also), told me that my boyfriend is going to dump me if this girl fancys him. I dont know what to do, finsh him or stay with him...
A. 18 February 2008: A BIG IF!!
IF this girl is going to like him....?
IF your friend is telling the truth....?
IF your friend knows what your b/f is thinking......?
IF the world will end tomorrow....?
IF your b/f dumps you...?
There are no answers to... (read in full...)
I love to have sex with my wife, but lately, I have found that I have a "window of opportunity" to when it can be done.
Q. I love to have sex with my wife, but lately, I have found that I have a "window of opportunity" to when it can be done. The only time she will be in the mood is between 7:00pm and 8:00pm after she has come home from work, had dinner, and does...
A. 18 February 2008: She is too tired and not in the mood for sex and want to relax during that time. You may perhaps help her with the household chores and lighten her load.
She may feel gratitude and repay you back.
Do you help her with the household chores... (read in full...)
The stripper at his batchelor party "scratched his chest"!!!!
Q. I'm getting married in nearly two weeks. Yet I'm torn between so many problems. First one is about my fiance. I love him to death and he's a great guy but something happened on his bachelor night. A couple of weeks ago I told my fiance's best man ...
A. 18 February 2008: When there is plenty of alcohol and women , things may get out of hand.
It is unfortunate that it turned out that way.You cannot changed what happened but you have to look at it from a matured view point and let this incident go because it was u... (read in full...)
Do you think I am finally pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having unprotected sex for a month now. And I'm supposed to start my period in 3 days and he went in me. Do you think I could finally get pregnant?...
A. 18 February 2008: You are in your most fertile period but it does not mean that you will surely get pregnant. You will have to wait for 5 or 6 weeks to know the results.... (read in full...)
She dumped me as she still has feelings for her ex...
Q. dear cupid I am at the moment confused, I was going out with a girl for one week where she dumped me and said she still has feeling for her ex, tell my mates that she won't go back to me... girls do you think if I talk to her when college opens pr...
A. 18 February 2008: Sorry , you do not stand a chance. Your name is not inscribed in her heart. Don't waste your time and resources on her.
You can stand by the sidelines until she loses all hope of getting back with the ex .
You can only be friends with her... (read in full...)
A husband who loves his wife doesn't say things like that to her right...?
Q. My husband and I got into an arguement last evening. He was having a beer during dinner and kept on commenting how good the beer tastes throughout dinner and after dinner. While then, I said to him that flowers are nice to give, especially if one ...
A. 18 February 2008: That is mental and emotional abuse. He married you knowing your background and he should not make that an issue.
No loving husband would ever speak like that to his wife.You don't pull the ground from under your feet.He is humiliating and trying t... (read in full...)
14 and worried my vagina is too tight to have sex...
Q. im worried my vagina is to tight to have sex, im only 14 but boys tell me its tight, it takes me so long to masterbate, even if i feel in the mood, is anything wrong with me?...
A. 18 February 2008: There is nothing wrong with you but only in your head. Just learn to relax and use some lubricants if you feel dry.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my Mom I lost my virginity?
Q. I recently had sex for the first time but i dont know if i should tell my mum or not, i dont want her hatin me for it, what could i do?...
A. 18 February 2008: Listen to your conscience. Do they trouble you and give you no peace?
If you don't feel peaceful and you feel troubled, then tell your mom.
Not every mother is the same. Only you know what your mother is like.... (read in full...)
Turns out the girl I slept with is much older than me and married with kids!!! I had absolutely no idea!
Q. Dear Cupid, Not sure what to do about my problem, so here we go... I was out on Saturday night, at a bar near where I live. I met a girl I liked, we had a few drinks, and we continued on to a club. More drinks, and we ended back at my frie...
A. 18 February 2008: I think you have met a female Vampire and if you are attracted to her , she will suck you dry.
Tell her , you don't remember anything about it.Ask her who she is and how she got your number?... (read in full...)
I have been dumped after 10 years, during which he kept picking fault with me. Help!
Q. i have just been 'dumped' after 10 years. I am an extremely attractive and kind soul. I did not deserve this. I tried to change for him when he kept picking fault with me. he would never try, even counselling. i made the decision to let it go, ...
A. 18 February 2008: If you are an extremely attractive and kind soul, why do you worry with a dead wood ?
There will be plenty of fresh and virile men who can replace him.
Do not let him destroy your spirit.Let no man tell you what to do or chain your spirit.... (read in full...)
Should I be patient or should I let him go? He's focussing on his career, and is finding it difficult to balance.
Q. In June I began a wonderful relationship with a man a few years younger than me. I knew at some point his work would take him to a different city. After 6 months spending nearly every spare moment together, we fell in love, and everything was ...
A. 18 February 2008: If he is going to the North Pole , it will be very cold.Whether he can come back from the cold or not is difficult to tell.
I think you should move on. A man who concentrate on his careers has gone off the tracks and it is difficult for him to c... (read in full...)
I love my husband but I always have to fake orgasms...
Q. Hi i'm 30 and been married for almost 6 yrs now. Since the first time i had sex i only had 2x orgasm with a partner. I can only get orgasm when i masturbate but not with my husband or with my past relationships. I always have to fake it everytime we ...
A. 18 February 2008: If you don't fake it , what will be your husbands reaction?
Maybe, he would not know the difference.
You can use a combo while having sex....
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He talks to other girls because "it feels good" and comes home drunk. I should be able to avoid the stress for the sake of my pregnancy!
Q. My bf and I have been together 1 year in Sept 07. I have two children from a previous marriage. My bf and I are now expecting our first baby together in July. We moved to this new house almost a year ago and he has become influenced by his new best ...
A. 18 February 2008: In business , sometimes , they have to entertain clients or take care of their clients . They may go to those places where there are girls .
You can accept it at face value , if he said he did not cheat on you , You cannot stop him from going th... (read in full...)
No sex for a year and a half and it's driving me CRAZY!!!!!
Q. HI! PLEASE, PLEASE HELP ME!! I'm 18 years old, and I haven't had sex in a year and a half!! I'm feeling unattractive, yet very horny! I could just yell into a pillow for hours with frustration. I really am starting to feel like I NEED sex, and I ...
A. 18 February 2008: Sex is not everything and Life is not only about sex. Do not be obsess with sex . There are so many things in this world that you can enjoy other than sex.
You can always DIY if you want to release those tensions.
You can live without sex...
... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my ex?
Q. Hi, I recently broke up. I stopped talking to my gf 2 weeks ago. Recently, we started talking again, as she needed her stuff out of my apt. The other night she called me up to ask me to go out to a movie. 40 minutes before the movie started. ...
A. 18 February 2008: When she called , you ignored her and now you called and she ignored you.
You two are not in steps or synchronization.
It is like dancing and you two are out of step and stepping on each other's feet. OUCH!
You need to really listen to what... (read in full...)
I like my friends best friend. Am I gay??
Q. Hey I have a problem, im 15 and I like this gurl that is my friends bestfriend. Shes a girl and I have feelings for her, the thing is I am not attracted to girl I just feel as if I realate to her and I think shes really sweet. But I want to know ...
A. 18 February 2008: It is considered a gay relationship when you live together or have sex with each other.... (read in full...)
Am I bored with my boyfriend or this realtionship?
Q. My boyfriend and I met online and it is now one and half year were are together. I am now getting impatient cos we still haven't met each other though he always made plans but for some reason it alway postponed. Latest plan is he is coming this ...
A. 18 February 2008: You have not met him or visited him and you plan to settle down with him just based on your chatting online?
I think this is a very risky way to find your life partner. He could be married or a very old man or a drug pusher .
He does not s... (read in full...)
When is the best time to take a pregnancy test?
Q. When should I do a pregnancy test after the first time of sex? I had unprotected sex for the first time which was on Valentine's day with my boyfriend a week after my period for the month of February....
A. 18 February 2008: 7 days after your period stopped , you don't need a pregnancy test.
5 days before and 5 days after your first day of your period is the most fertile period.
If you have irregular periods, then 10 days before and 10 days after your regular per... (read in full...)
Should I let him know of my feelings or just keep quiet?
Q. I met this guy a few weeks ago, we saw each for about a week and then just stopped. I have developed these feelings for him that I just can't get over. Should I let him know of my feelings or just keep quiet?...
A. 18 February 2008: Don't tell him if you can keep the lid on tightly and if you cannot and felt very heavy burdened, then let it out.
You can go to a lonely place and shout it out , if you don't want to tell him
Building too much pressure inside of you is not go... (read in full...)
Am I obsessed with my university lecturer?
Q. I'm worried that I may be obsessed with one of my lecturers at uni. He's incredibly interesting and despite the fact that he's extremely terrifying, he's so passionate and intelligent. I find myself looking him up in my free time and with desire to ...
A. 18 February 2008: You could be infatuated with your Uni lecturer and you have not come to the obsessive stage yet.
You can Google that word 'Infatuations' and read all about it online.... (read in full...)
How do I know if a guy is flirting? And how do I flirt back?
Q. i was wondering if anyone can tell me how i can tell if a guy is flirting with me or not as i'm new to the whole dating scene also what should i do if a guy flirts with me? should i flirt back and if so how do iflirt with him? if it's a guy that i ...
A. 18 February 2008: If a guy is talking business, then he is not flirting.If he talks about anything else, then he could be flirting with you.
You can Google this question for your detailed answers.
Know what is decent and indecent or the boundaries. Trus... (read in full...)
How can I be intimate with my boyfriend without this horrible ordeal coming back to haunt me?
Q. Hi, this is kind of a strange problem as a lot of the main event I cannot recall. Basically, after nearly 5 months of being with my boyfriend, we decided it was time to have sex and I was in full agreement, feeling very strongly for him and feel...
A. 18 February 2008: It is not easy to forget that incident. You will have to forgive your ex and let time heal your trauma.
If you still feel the pain , I suggest that you go seek a therapist or professional counsel to help you overcome your problems.... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm addicted to stealing money from my parents...
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I find myself stealing money from my parents now and again, like £20 at a time. I really want to stop, but I can't. I feel as if I'm addicted. HELP!...
A. 18 February 2008: What do you do with that stolen money? You bought things or spend it on your friends.
Stop this activity and you can stop stealing money from your parents because you won't need those money anymore.
If your parents found out , which they will ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't talk to me...
Q. My girlfriend doesn't talk to me? I have tried everything to get her to talk to me. I text me but she just sends me one word replies back, I feel like she is uninterested. I know she cares about me. She cares about me so much she has told me ...
A. 18 February 2008: Send her a bouquet of flowers and write something sweet and romantic on the card. She will think of you always and you don't have to talk .
She will call you when she has the time.
You need to respect her. There is a time for every thing. If sh... (read in full...)
How can I have an orgasm without masturbating during sex?
Q. Hi, Every time I have sex with my boyfriend the only way I can have and orgasm is when he is in me and I am masturbating and then I feel a good sensation. How can I have an orgasm without masturbating during sex??!! Please answer asap!! thnxx...
A. 18 February 2008: Orgasm is through stimulation of your clitoris by orals or by hands.
Either you do it yourself or your partner perform it on you.... (read in full...)
We had a great first date - should I have thanked him for dinner? What next?
Q. This guy and I have been getting to know each other for several (6) months. We have a strong chemistry and really like each other. We finally went out and had a fabulous time. We clicked. We talked at dinner for 4 hours about anything and ...
A. 18 February 2008: [Quote]
"am not mad, i care about you, if i can help, ask. I can be a good friend 4 you. if you need time, space, ok. I am here for you. take care of wonderful you."
[Unquote]
From this message, you showed that you have no hard feelings , ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of always helping things my husband can't do.
Q. I'm danielle,I live here in south korea and I have a husband who has disability so the problems is I'm tired of always helping things my husband can't do....
A. 18 February 2008: Thanks for sharing your life with us. You did it for your family so that they may escape from poverty back home. You sacrificed your happiness and well being for your family's well being. This is a supreme sacrifice .
Think of it as a gratitud... (read in full...)
He just disappeared...am I being played?
Q. The situation is this,the man i've been with for awhile now just disappeared on me. it's been a month since i've seen him and when i called him to see what the problem was why i haven't seen him in awhile all he could say was that he had been ...
A. 18 February 2008: Pick up those left over pieces and rebuild your life again.There is no point loving a dog that bite your hands.
Let him go.He is only using you as a door mat ... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to cope when the 'honeymoon phase' ends??
Q. Ok so my question is about the topic of 'the honeymoon phase'. You know how when your in a relationship and at first you cant get enough of each other? You're so happy, you're all over each other and cant wait to see the other person and talk to ...
A. 17 February 2008: Be realistic and accept that every good thing will have to end someday. They don't last forever.Enjoy while you can.
Different people have different capacity to love. Your b/f is like a lump of clay . How you want him to be will depend on your ... (read in full...)
Seeking revenge over my boyfriend's cheating. What should I do?
Q. my bf cheated on me and now i wanna show him...i've revenge like feelings for him...i just wanna show him that he is the one who has lost something by cheating on me....otherwise it's goin to ruin my self esteem...we are in touch on day to day ...
A. 17 February 2008: Don't drop down to his level. If you do that, then you are not much better than him.
Show him that you have class and forgive him and let it go.
The fire that burns in you ,will burnt you more than your enemies.
What goes around, comes aroun... (read in full...)
I became good friends with my ex's best friend and now he claims to have fallen in love with me! I don't want to hurt him, what to do?
Q. Hello. I have a real problem here (again, lol) I just started talking to this 14 year old about a week ago. We became really good friends and I think he is overall and awesome person. But now he claims to have fallen in love with me...IN A WEEK!!! ...
A. 17 February 2008: You cannot stop anyone from loving you .Just as you cannot stop the birds from flying over your head.
You need to pour some cold water on him and let him know that you only want to be friends with him .
That will be enough to stop him in his ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue a career that is best for the future or stay with the woman I love in a job I hate?...
Q. I have been with my fiance for more than four years and was due to be married next year. I have been searching for a new career and decided I want to join the army. She will end the relationship if I join because she doesnt want to be on her own for ...
A. 17 February 2008: Which is your priority , career or fiance?
Sorry , you will have to choose .
Which one will will make you happy?
Only you can answer that question.... (read in full...)
He won't let go of the other girl and he won't let me go either. What does this say about this man?
Q. I was with this guy for 4 years. He always been nice to me during our relationship, but I caught him cheating on me. Instead of begging me for forgiveness he dump me right there and walk away with the other girl. I was devasted and I started to ...
A. 17 February 2008: Give him a time period(1 week to 1 month) for him to think . If he cannot answer you , then you leave.
He is a fence sitter.... (read in full...)
I never surrendered to the persistencies of this married man, but it's very hard to resist the urge. Ways to make this easier?
Q. i did make a mistake when i fell for this married guy who's in my office and senior to me...but the best part is this i never allowed him to touch me and i simply refused to get physical with him....now i've stopped talking to him...even he didn't ...
A. 17 February 2008: If there is a need to speak to him , you have to speak to him.
Once you speak to him , it will break your spell.
You will not be troubled about this urge anymore.
You need to normalize your relationship as you work in the same place.
Be ci... (read in full...)
My bf is somewhat ugly and I'm not sure I fancy him. What to do?
Q. hello i am having a boyfriend problem.see i like him but hes a bit ugly i don't want to hurt his feelings but i don't think i fancy him ?? what shall i do?? ...
A. 17 February 2008: When there is love,Beauty can even love a Beast, everything is beautiful but when there is no more love,even Mr. Handsome can be ugly.
If you don't fancy him , then let him go....... (read in full...)
How do I tell my bf I want a baby at 13?
Q. Ohkay.I am 13 years old.I have done everything with a guy.The first time though I didn't use protection hoping I would get pregnant.But I am dating this guy right and I really love him.I want to have a baby with him but how do I tell him?I am young ...
A. 17 February 2008: Tell him in plain simple English .Anything more than that is difficult for his simple mind to understand.
Who is going to support your baby? Who is going to pay for all those expenses and bills?
You want to have a baby just to prove your own r... (read in full...)
What should I do? My husband never offers me oral.
Q. Hi, my husband and i have been together for 2 years. I give him oral sex every night sometimes even twice a night. He never gives me oral. He will tell me that he will do it one night and then finds an exscuse like i'm to tired, or he tried and i ...
A. 17 February 2008: You can try communicating to him and if it does not bear fruit and you feel that you need orals, then set your boundaries for sex if him. No orals , no sex. ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of always helping things my husband can't do.
Q. I'm danielle,I live here in south korea and I have a husband who has disability so the problems is I'm tired of always helping things my husband can't do....
A. 14 February 2008: Life is not easy for you and I am sure you feel tired when you have to take care of a disabled person. I am not going to judge you and I hope you have enough rest , eat well and the other family members treat you well.
Maybe, you would like to ... (read in full...)
We had a great first date - should I have thanked him for dinner? What next?
Q. This guy and I have been getting to know each other for several (6) months. We have a strong chemistry and really like each other. We finally went out and had a fabulous time. We clicked. We talked at dinner for 4 hours about anything and ...
A. 2 February 2008: Thanks for your update.
From your description of him, I think he is intimidated by you and secondly he is not in a strong financial position. He does not initiate the phone calls to you and have told you about awful at calling you.
The rea... (read in full...)
He just disappeared...am I being played?
Q. The situation is this,the man i've been with for awhile now just disappeared on me. it's been a month since i've seen him and when i called him to see what the problem was why i haven't seen him in awhile all he could say was that he had been ...
A. 25 January 2008: You could go up there to check on him or you could just play the waiting game. At this moment , you cannot be certain.... (read in full...)
We had a great first date - should I have thanked him for dinner? What next?
Q. This guy and I have been getting to know each other for several (6) months. We have a strong chemistry and really like each other. We finally went out and had a fabulous time. We clicked. We talked at dinner for 4 hours about anything and ...
A. 21 January 2008: That is well done. Now,the ball is at his feet.Your waiting game begins.... (read in full...)
We had a great first date - should I have thanked him for dinner? What next?
Q. This guy and I have been getting to know each other for several (6) months. We have a strong chemistry and really like each other. We finally went out and had a fabulous time. We clicked. We talked at dinner for 4 hours about anything and ...
A. 20 January 2008: It is not he is not interested in you but he wanted to know if you have the same interest in him by calling him up.He wanted you to initiate the call.This would prove to him of your interest in him.He wanted to seek further confirmations.This is ... (read in full...)
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