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writes:ok i'll try to keep this short..i have been with my BF for 4 years..a freind of mine told me that there was something i might want to see on Facebook,, she lead me to my BF's...EX girlfiend's profile..Apparently little miss,, has created a photo album, consisting of her and my bf,, WHY IN THE HELL,, would she do that,, i mean its been over for a little over 4 years,,,,I so want to tell her to take the freaking pictures off there, and so does he...but he just brushes it off and says, she's a nut. I don't want to let her know i seen those pics or that i was viewing her profile....Am i wrong to be mad about this..Also,, is this normal for someone to do that? I know for a fact that he hasn't had contact with her at all,, He has no use for her,, Is there even an answer for this?
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reader, Bianca301192  +, writes (21 February 2008):
I see your point. I guess all you can do is comfront her, and ask her why she has them up.It is abit odd why she has them up after like 4 years, but ask. You'll never know.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (21 February 2008):
There are two ways you can really address this. One is to accept that they do have a shared history and that you cannot deny her her memories simply because your buy is no longer in her life but in yours. The other is to write to facebook as Fade871 has suggested.
Now in deciding which course of action to take, consider if the context of her album is from her personal history / diary level, or it is more a creepy stalker type of perspective. Are the photos part of a shrine. Does it seem like she is still fixated on him. As a general rule I have no problem with people who I have shared past times with on any level including photos of me and them as part of their facebook pages, however I draw the line at people who want to somehow represent that past as something it was not or that it is not in the past but ongoing. Then I would be upset and do something about it.
Regardless of all this, he is no longer with her and it is you he comes home to and is with. That simple fact can be very satisfying.
Good luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 If you know the truth, there is nothing to worry about that picture. Just let it pass and stop worrying about it.No point making it a big issue and be unhappy.
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