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writes: Hi there,Okay, so I've now been married two months; however my husband is stationed overseas. I love my husband, and aside from being apart am very happy. My husband's family lives a few hours away and I visit as often as I can. Over the last few visits I've noticed that my new brother in law consistently winks at me, and squeezes my leg all the time. Seems minor I know, but it's so sudden. Lately he calls me just to talk and when I call his wife to talk he eventually takes the phone. Overall, I don't know if I should be concerned and if it's something I need to discuss with my husband, since I don't want to worry him unnecessarily. I love my husband and there's no possibility of my misbehaving, I just don't know what to do. Should I be worried, should I say anything? Thanks for any advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): I agree with the other advice. I would not tell your husband except as a last resort. Be assertive letting your brother in law know that you are a no go area - simple as.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (21 February 2008):
First of all i wish you the very best in your new marraige but i'm also aware that certain problems pop up from unexpected source like a brother in law.It's good that you love your husband and do not wish to misbehave so my advice to you is that put a stop to your bro inlaw's behaviour by being frank that you are not comfortable with what he does and if he doesn't stop,inform his wife.If you ignore it,you may eat your words of fidelity.The body's weak,prevention is necesssary.I also agree with you about not alarming your hubby as you may create friction between two brothers.
Good Luck
Take Care.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 I wouldn't say a word to your husband. I'd simply tell the brother-in-law that you don't care to have him touching you. And mean it! I assume your brother-in-law is squeezing your knee when his wife is not present? If he ignores your request, tell him again, only this time, make sure his wife hears you when you tell him to keep his hands to himself. You need to nip him in the bud. He shouldn't be touching you at all and, unless you put your foot down, he'll continue squeezing your knee and who knows what else. Cutting him short in front of his wife should put a stop to it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 Do not encourage him. Put your feet down . Stand up to him and he will respect you and not become bolder through your inactions.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (21 February 2008):
 Hi there,
tread very carefully. some may say it is only a wink and a friendly touch on the knee. But as a guy , no one on our team gets flirty like that unless they are keen on you.
You are vulnerable at the moment and this would not be the first time a guy has hit on a women who's husband is overseas. I wouldn't mention it to your husband if he is overseas as he will feel powerless and it will undoubedtly cause a scene, but do so if he persists. And he can only behave how you let him, if he takes the phone of his wife to talk to you simply end the conversation. Do that often enough he will get the hint.
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