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*lan Phillips
writes:Am I gay Over the last year I have been watching gay porn. At first it was just one or twice here and there. At this point it was just to see what was what. After watching a few time it started turning me on I enjoyed it more and more. At the time nomal porn was still turning me on. After watching the gay porn I start going back to more and more and I realy like it. If I watch normal porn now I watch the gnuy more and forgot the girl is there. I was try gay porn and loved it. After this I found myself wanting the real thing. I went online and met a guy my age I met him in person a few weeks later. He asked if I had been with a guy before which I hadn't. That night we checked into a hotel and we started kissing and had anal and oral sex all night and I realy enjoyed it. Since that night I haven't been into girls just guys. Am I gay please help
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reader, funtimes +, writes (5 October 2008):
hi their, being gay is much more than just the sex, if your gay u will need to feel 3 things towards guys.1, to find them phyically attractive beyond sex2, you have to want to have sex with a certain guy3, you want to relax on a sofa watching a movie and having a cuddle, wanting more than some sex.the porn you watch turns you on, your a guy, physical pleasure will turn men on all the time. Sub-consciously when guys watch porn thy are watching the guy, not the girl. When they masturbate they are recreating the pleasure the man is getting, Are you still a male/female virgin, have you ever had any relationships with women, if you're gay all you will want is to spend the majority of your life with men, just be happy, that's the key to a good life.
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reader, Jsappyh  +, writes (9 March 2008):
I agree. You are doing yourself an injustice by not accepting yourself. Some people go through their entire lives lying to themselves about who they are. You are lucky for finding what makes you happy.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 February 2008):
 As a heterosexual married woman, I doubt I have much insight into this, but I do have a number of gay friends. And from what I have learned from them, most knew deep down inside from their youngest years that they were 'different.' They knew on some level, even if they weren't able to express it then, that they preferred men.
If you're only finding this out now, I'd suggest that you need to be honest with yourself, but I have some inkling that you might be fighting an orientation which you think is wrong somehow.
Being gay is not bad, is not awful, is not shameful. It is not a choice. It's how someone is.
My gay friends, they are successful, and happy, some in longterm relationships, some not. They are happy because they can be themselves with their friends and families; they are successful because they are intelligent and work hard at whatever they've chosen to do.
Or maybe you're bisexual--enjoying sex with both men and women. Only you know what makes you tick.
I can't tell you what you are; you need to be truthful to yourself. One friend said once to me, "The one I found it most difficult to 'come out' to was myself."
If you're in a relationship with a woman, you need to make sure that you are protecting her from STDs; every encounter can run the risk of exposing a partner to a disease. Safe sex, always. And if you're being unfaithful, whether it's with a man or a woman, you need to recognize this very essential fact: it's just not fair to expose someone to risk because you are not able to be honest.
All the best...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): What people generally say is that if you like the same gender, or have gay tendencies, but it feels wrong, then you're not gay. But if it feels right, you probably are gay, or bi for that matter. There's nothing wrong with it honey, it's just finding what you prefer and feel right with. Don't be worried about it, it's not a problem, just a preference.
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reader, lilacpilgrim +, writes (23 February 2008):
 It sounds like you are gay or possibly bisexual, though more into men. It also sounds like you have a bit of denial going on, almost like you want us to tell you "of course not, it was just one night".You shouldn't be worried about your sexuality if you enjoyed what happened. It can be daunting to "come out of the closet" at any age, and I don't know what your situation is (how your parents would react, how your community would react, things like that) but if you keep it secret you'll probably end up feeling confused and guilty. That's no way to live. You should be enjoying life, but first you have to take a good look at yourself and accept who you are.Hope this helps xLove and luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 You have found your sexual orientations. You are living a gay lifestyle and by right you should be known as a gay.
Do you have problems with it?
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (23 February 2008):
 Sounds like you are but you also might be bi...
I like watching gay porn too. It turns me on too although I'm told that its strange for a girl to like gay porn. Lol.
Just accept yourself the way you are and be happy that you have found what feels good to you. Everyone was made differently and therefore they had different preferences.
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