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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and as to be expected the original chemistry is dying out. There has been a lot of strain on our relationship but we still keep on holding on. I love him alot but feel that my reactions to hurt that he has caused me are begining to make me push him away, I constantly feel the need for his effection and praise. I know this is not healthy and is likely to cause me to become very needy. I just feel so desperate I'm losing my head, there must be some way for me to turn this around. What has brought the spark back into your relationship? What does your girl do that just drives you wild? How can I make him crave me as much as I long for him?I know this sounds very unhealthy, I'm hoping that another males perspective could help me.
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (23 February 2008):
You are NEVER going to bring back the spark by being needy or pestering him for praise and reassurance, so knock that off right now. Let go of your neediness. Be yourself. Be the girl he fell in love with - the one who made him laugh, or challenged him. Get interested in your own life. In independent confident woman who is enjoying herself is very sexy to a man.
Also get out and do something adventurous and fun. A little thrill and (safe) danger (like a roller coaster or bungi jumping, rock climbing... whatever is your speed) gets the adrenalin going and can bring back some sparks. You need to get out of your comfort zone (aka boring same old routine... yawn) by doing something new and different will bring you both back to life and give you lots to talk about and connect over.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 You could also Google that question and get more details online.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (23 February 2008):
The simple solution is to fall in love with him all over again.
You can read my write here;-
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/05/31/how-to-put-romance-back-into-ur-relationship/
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