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writes:If a relationship shows signs of sexual abuse, and controlling tendencies, as early within the first 2 months, does that mean it will only get worst??? is it best to end the relationship now before it gets to bad? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 May 2008):
 Will it get worse or not depends on how you tackle this problem.
If you tell him your limits and boundaries and if he respects them , then this relationship can be saved.
You need to assert yourself to make him stop.
If you do nothing , then an abusive pattern will be established.
Sometimes, he does not realize what he is doing because he
may have come from an abusive background and he sees there is nothing wrong with that.
He could be under the wrong assumptions because of his upbringings.
If you do not put your foot down and allow him to progress, then it should get worse.
Most women want to win their man's approvals and love and allow such abuse to happen.
They slowly lose their personal freedom .
You cannot change him directly but you can change him by your response.
Leaving is easy but you will never be successful in any relationships if you just give up easily.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (31 May 2008):
 Yes sweetheart move on, it will only get much worse x
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (30 May 2008):
 If a relationship shows signs of sexual abuse, and controlling tendencies as early as 2 months, will it only get worse?
Yes.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): "is it best to end the relationship now before it gets to bad"
It already sounds bad.
Why stick around to find out if it will get worse when it's already showing signs of sexual abuse and controlling tendancies?
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reader, angelrockheart +, writes (30 May 2008):
I can tell you definately to END IT NOW! I made the mistake of not ending it when I was 13 because I thought he cared - and I am now 15 with the same abusive guy who keeps trying to force me to have sex and I believe he is cheating on me . ( I know this may be hard to read, but people told me to end it and told me that he was cheating on me 2 years ago , and I refused to believe it- even when I saw him with his arm aound another girl , but now I know they were right and I wished I had listened to them) It has definately got worse for me - my partner is now not listening to me an just thinking about what he wants (physically) please think carefully about what I have said because my partner has become more abusive towards me and has also threatened to kidnap me - He is bigger and stronger than me and two years older - please for your own good end it now - it may seem hard and you may think you love him too much but when me and my partner split for a bit - I felt free and I was less stressed than I am now - I hope this is helpful - sorry for going on about myself- keep me posted about what happens good luck x
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reader, angelrockheart +, writes (30 May 2008):
I can tell you definately to END IT NOW! I made the mistake of not ending it when I was 13 because I thought he cared - and I am now 15 with the same abusive guy who keeps trying to force me to have sex and I believe he is cheating on me . ( I know this may be hard to read, but people told me to end it and told me that he was cheating on me 2 years ago , and I refused to believe it- even when I saw him with his arm aound another girl , but now I know they were right and I wished I had listened to them) It has definately got worse for me - my partner is now not listening to me an just thinking about what he wants (physically) please think carefully about what I have said because my partner has become more abusive towards me and has also threatened to kidnap me - He is bigger and stronger than me and two years older - please for your own good end it now - it may seem hard and you may think you love him too much but when me and my partner split for a bit - I felt free and I was less stressed than I am now - I hope this is helpful - sorry for going on about myself- keep me posted about what happens good luck x
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 There's two possibilities, either it stays the same, or it get worse. There's less chances that it becomes better.
I like the fact that he's showing exactly who he his in the beginnings of the relationship.
Don't think that you'll be able to change him. Nobody can force someone to change, it must come from the heart. His heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): I think that if you are even so much as doubting it and something like sexual abuse and control is involved you should end it as soon as possible. If it goes on much longer then you might be drawn in more because of the control. Often when people are like this they will have methods of emotional blackmail to make you stay, so if you leave it for longer it will be more difficult to get out of I think.
Good Luck! Please keep us posted.
xx Hope xx
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Yes.
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