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writes: Ok...so what if your boyfriend acts cool. As in you'll see him when you see him. Does it mean he doesnt love you. After nearly 3 years together is it normal to be nearly devoid of affection and compliments?? Please tell coz i just dont know!! What keeps it going?? For all the married people out there.... how in gods name do ye keep it going.....is there a forever????!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Enjoy him , appreciate him and give him compliments always and he will come back for more.
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reader, Devil Spawn  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 YES There is a forever, with the right person, your BF sounds like he needs a bit of a wake up call.
I don't need to act "cool" to be with my wife. I lover her. Pure and simple. I would tell the world if I could.
Relationships are hard work but when you are in love its not really all that hard.
Good luck my dear I hope you find the one you are looking for.
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reader, batfink  +, writes (2 June 2008):
I'm in your position darlin. I've been married for nine months and with him for 4 years. It's totally soul destroying as I should know. You need to speak to him. In my case there isn't a forever as there were reasons he wasn;t being as he should be. I would personally say, after being hurt by someone very like the one you speak of that you can either be the one who always tries so hard in the relationship. Always be the one who initiates the afftection or you can do one of two things if you really want to save the relationship:
1) Speak to him, let him know that his lack of affection and compliments is affecting you. Let him know that this cannot continue if you are to have a healthy relationship. He may wake up and realise that he may lose you if his behavior continues.
2)If this doesn't work then you need to consider leaving him. I know this is hard but it is th truth. I understand what you are going through as I haVE recently broken up because my husband is exactly as you describe (with a few other issues thrown is, see my posts).
You deserve better but if you want to work it out you really need to sit down and talk to him. It may be that this style of relationship has suited him so far. He may be wiling to take it further but afraid to ask.
Please let me know how it turns out.
Batfink xxx
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