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anonymous
writes:Hello..We think my girlfriend is pregnant and were not sure what to do.We had sex just about a week after her last period finished, She is now 2 weeks late on her next period. She is getting weird stomache aches nearly all the time and her breasts are sore. She hasn't done a pregnancy test yet but we both want to keep it if it does turn out that she is pregnant, If she does keep it her Mum will throw her out of the house and if she has to have an abortion she will hate herself forever.What can we do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): umm well im 30 weeks and when i finally told my parents they didnt turn away from me if her parentss love her and are ganna be there for he they wont throw her out but she needs to take a pregnancy text or she should go to the doctors to find out but either was she needs to find out for sure i know alot of girls that say the same thing but they weren't pregnant so just go get a test and then worry about every thing else but dont freak out yet if she not sure
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 It might interest you to find these support groups and dig up all the info's you need at this link;
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/pregnancyandfamily/support_groups.shtml?tab_id=18
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): In reply to all of the comments.
We aren't worried or scared about the situation were in we just don't know what to do.
If she is pregnant, It is unplanned but we both want it.
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reader, I'llTryToHelp  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 STOP torturing yourself and go get a prenacy test.
Please don't go for an abortion if she is pregnant.
Have you ever heard of anyone saying that they were happy with that decision? It might take the pressure away for the moment but it always comes back to haunt them.
Her mother will not throw her out. She'll be understandably angry but she'll get over it. Why aren't you using birth control? THere are SO MANY products out there that this shouldn't even be happening anymore.
If she isn't pregnant, please remember the scare and worry you've had and don't risk it again. Learn from this!
Good Luck and it's gonna be ok, whatever happens...
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Hi there! Of course, preggy test first. By the way, my mum told me I would get thrown out too. She didnt. In fact, quite the opposite. She looooves her grandbaby, and so will her mum. Parents tend to say that kind of thing to PREVENT it from happening, but, once the deed is done, there isnt anything they could do about it. If the test is positive, she needs to get checked out by an OBGYN, (docter for female parts). Even if you guys decide not to keep it, she needs to be seen. What YOU can do is be supportive, back her up, no matter what she decides to do with the baby. It's important you show that you care and that you arnt gonna bail on her. Good luck, keep us updated!
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (3 June 2008):
 just search family planning in the search bar of that first link love that will take you to the page TAKE CARE
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (3 June 2008):
Hi Hunny
The first thing you need to do is get a test and see for sure if she is pregnant, These stomach pains and sore breast could be the period due...But at 2 weeks late you can test now thats the most important thing...As then you will both have a better idea of where you stand with her mum..Then if you find out that she is pregnant and you are both wanting to keep the baby you go to the family planning centre and discuss with them any concerns and fears you have...They will be able to help with all your concerns if your g/f is pregnant ..Also the citizans advise will give you loads of help with anything you need to get you started like housing and getting set up on your own if her mum will throw her out you will need there help ....But get that test done love you may be worrying about nothing and worry can stop a period from coming...
http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?ArticleId=839#
http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/index/getadvice.htm
The family planning can help with the test hunny thats the most important first step...TAKE CARE OF BOTH OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): Firstly, get a pregnancy test done. There's no point worrying about something that might not happen.
Secondly, if she's pregnant it's unlikely that her mother will turn her out onto the street, although her father might. Mothers are quite soft about this sort of thing whereas fathers tend not to be so. Just ask my daughter.
I personally have no leanings one way or the other about abortion, but if she decides to have one it must be because she really wants it and not because she's being pressurised into it.
Thirdly, if she's not pregnant, treat this as a wake-up call and act more responsibly in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): First breath go get a pregnancy test..No need to worry find out then you can figure it from there she may just be late because of all the worry.
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