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writes:Hey I'm 16 and I'm afraid.My girlfriend and I had sex, and We DID usea condom (and I'm pretty sure we put it on right, she put it on) and after about 10 minutes, I decided to check the condom and nothing wrong, but she noticed it was like whitish. But I wanted to stop cause she got me worried, so we did. And then she kinda wiped toilet paper. Thing is I didn't cum or anything but i heard about pre-jaculation but I'm sure the condom wasnt broken either cause I tied it and checked it and it didn't drip.But shes telling me to buy a test and saying that, "I'm not sure" and "I'm just worried and I want to be sure" but she keeps bringing it up and getting us both worried. But now I dunno. Please help
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Ask her to take the morning after pill before 72 hours.
It will calm her nerves and worries.
It is better than the pregnancy test as the test would be negative and not be accurate at this time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): If you have to stop half way through sex because you're both so worried about getting pregnant then there's something wrong.
The white stuff on the condom could have easily been her wetness - nothing to worry about. Get her a test if it stops her worrying but it's unlikely she's pregnant. Then suggest you carry on using condoms and her being put on the pill. That should hopefully relax her mind a little. Using two methods of contraception will make the chances of pregnancy miniscule. And if she still worries after that then you should reconsider whether you are both ready to be having sex at all.
Sex is something that should be enjoyed, it's not sexy or romantic to stop half way through because you're paranoid about pregnancy. Neither of you are going to get much pleasure out of that.
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reader, Bubblezwoah +, writes (2 June 2008):
 if it was whiteish on the outside it could of just been her cum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): I don't know anything about that pre-cum stuff,but she should wait and see if she misses her period.If she does,
it's most likely she's pregnant.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Hi Hun,
The chances of any pre-cum leaking out of a condom and causing a pregnancy would be pretty slim, and I'm pretty sure that if you didn't cum inside the condom before you pulled out, the whitish substance was probably just her own natural lubrication. Chances are pretty good that nothing leaked, but frankly, if you are worried enough to write us, you would probably feel better if she took an over-the-coutner pregnancy test.
If you and she are going to continue having sex, you should consider either some kind of spermicide or her going on the pill as a back-up form of contraception.
Good for you for using a barrier method - that's the best way to keep both of you safe from anything that could harm you or your fertility. That's the clinical answer, not fun or sexy, but it's the way to make sure that you can have children some day in the future.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (2 June 2008):
 You can buy a test, but I think you're wasting your time and money. One of the woman here can give you more details, but what you've described is common discharge from a woman's body (I just can't remember the details enough to tell you for sure... a yeast infection seems right, but a woman should tell you for sure). And for the record, pre-ejaculate is clear so your condom probably didn't break. So, sleep a little easier tonight...
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reader, loca_pequena +, writes (2 June 2008):
If this helps you a little im pretty sure she is not pregnat by the way you have explained what had happend. don't worry to much because it will only make you act in a irrasional way. but if your really worried and cant sleep worried then the only way to figure out is going and getting a pregnacy test.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Since your girlfriend is genuinely worried, I would go ahead and buy a pregnancy test. Everyone will feel better knowing for certain. But the odds of her being pregnant are small. And, FYI, condoms can become whiteish after sex without any damage to the condom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): Dude,
your fine. I wouldnt worry about it. Great job for being smart in the first place by wrapping up. If the condom is NOT broken, then you should be fine. Remember that most condoms come lubricated, so thats probably what you see. Also some females are known to ejaculate aswell.....That could have been the fluid.
So no worries. If she still pesters you, just tell her to wait and see if she is late for her period.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): I think she sould get the pregnacy test to make sure.
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reader, batfink  +, writes (2 June 2008):
You're probably safe given the situation you have described but it doesn't hurt to do a test just to be on the safe side. You are being very mature about this and I'm pleased you are so concerned.
Like I say, it may be nothing but peace of mind is a great thing and I'm glad you're mature enough to be thinking about this.
Buy the test and I hope all is ok. Please let me know xxx
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