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Is my boyfriend watching "normal" porn?

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Question - (18 April 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 19 April 2012)
A female United States age 41-50, *onfuzed33 writes:

My boyfriend of a year watches porn. I have often asked what king of porn he likes. I found out on his computer last night that he has been watching porn that involves young supposed high school girls with their teacher? I am so confused is this normal it does not seem like normal porn to me? Thanks for any advice!

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A male reader, Hugh.J United Kingdom +, writes (19 April 2012):

Hugh.J agony aunt"Cerberus", if only more of the world were aware of the sharp difference between ephebophilia and paedophilia, maybe we wouldn't have the paranoia that we do, stirred up by the media, obviously, because it make good copy and sells papers, etc.

"xgod" is also quite right; the girls on screen HAVE to be at least 18, no matter what age they appear to be, and those that look lots younger get more work!

OP, you have the right attitude where your boyfriend is concerned in his use of porn and he is perfectly normal. Enjoy it with him, and pop along to Anne Summers (if you have such a shop in the States) and see what sexy outfits they have for you if you ever want to spice things up.......

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A female reader, Confuzed33 United States +, writes (19 April 2012):

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Thank you all so much for your responses. I just flat out asked him and he opened a couple sites and all sorts of other windows popped up. Porns cool. I was just a little freaked out by what I thought he was into.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (18 April 2012):

Honeypie agony auntNormal is a matter of personal taste... I think the "school girl" porn is rather common. But I guess it would come down to JUST how young the girls look, before I would deem it "wrong"

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A male reader, xgod United States +, writes (18 April 2012):

xgod agony auntMany men watch a wide variety of porn. Most men have specific fantasies that remain fantasies and would never be something they would consider acting out in reality. These are only threats or risks if they cannot differentiate between their fantasy and reality.

Your boyfriend is watching porn that is becoming increasingly popular. These videos involve 18-22 year old girls who have the appearance of high school teens. As long as he does not turn these fantasies into reality, there is nothing to be concerned about.

Perhaps he had a female teacher in high school whom he had a crush on. As long as he comes to you for action and you reap the rewards of his desires, there is nothing to be concerned about.

My wife has a philosophy: As long as I keep it at home and with her or solo, she has no problem with whatever porn I happen to enjoy. Sometimes she prefers I watch my favorite porn just to warm up because she is busy or tired and does not want to waste too much time with foreplay.

If your boyfriend enjoys something involving adult women behaving as teenagers, the only thing to be concerned about is if he actively stares at teenage girls or makes comments about how hot or cute or nice any teen girl looks to him.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (18 April 2012):

janniepeg agony auntThe only normal porn to you will be amateur real life couples recording themselves. Commercial porn has a lot of theatrics and drama. Teacher student porn is very common, and so is nurse patient, body trainer and hot housewives, boss and secretary. There is a lot of paid porn that becomes old recycled porn in free websites. The reason people go for commercial porn is because they feel like more effort and artistic endeavor is put in these movies, and therefore more aesthetically pleasing to the eyes.

Abnormal porn is extreme BDSM, beastilaity, and underage porn. Student teacher porn is considered very mild. It doesn't mean he has a thing for an 18 year old in real life.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012):

OP porn is like food, "normal" is purely a matter of taste and it varies with each individual. I mean if porn is just fantasy then what do you consider a normal fantasy?

Whether it's normal or not is too hard to answer really. To me yeah that's very normal and it's certainly the most popular fantasy too. "Teen" porn including chearleader, schoolgirl fantasies etc is the most popular niche and it is a well studied fact that most adults have Ephebophilic tendencies.

If you want to know whether it's normal or not then you just have think of what the most popular halloween costumes amongst women is. The schoolgirl, the cheerleader and the nurse are the three most popular for a long time now.

It doesn't mean he prefers teens or school girls than a woman his age, it's just a fantasy thing and not really that strange really. I mean there is a reason why most women would still like to look that young and spend billions a year trying to stay young looking.

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