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writes:I'm in grad school, at the beginning of the year, I asked out a classmate. Great first date, second date was not that good, mostly my fault, I had an off day, nerves and the like. She lost interest apparently, but then two weeks later she invites me to a party. I then invite her to one later, both times she seemed highly interested in me. I even stayed at her house after the first party. I asked her out again, which led to an odd reversal, like she was almost embarrassed to like me and wanted to nip it in the bud. I could be completely wrong and I understand that. I really liked her, so it was like of upsetting.A few weeks later she unfriended me from Facebook, caught me by suprise. So I spent most of winter break kind of stunned, she started dating a guy that seemed to be a complete tool, and very unattractive, I am not brad Pitt, and I know looks aren't everything but this was extremely confusing, like externally it seemed like the guy had no glaring positive qualities, like she was out of my league, I know that is not a good attitude to have but she was awesome, so it is puzzling seeing a guy like that capture her interest.. Once again, I am not a saint, nor can I get into her head. I am also human, so I know I have glaring faults of my own, but she seemed so interested then just did a 180.In January I apologized to her and friended her again. She said we were fine. In February she broke up with the other guy, un-friended him. Later that month, and I understand it is Facebook, but she liked two things I posted. It makes no sense that she would like something I posted, given the fact that apparently I disgusted her, enough to unfriend me. This was the first interaction she ever had with me on the site, so it felt very odd. I liked her still, so it was hard. It reading too much into it (oops). Later, she liked another thing I posted, and then commented on a post I made in march. I noticed she seems to be walking in front of me more and subtle things.We were having lunch at a bar, and she came up with another group, we merged into one big group. She talked to me for a little bit, and we stayed there for several hours. I was talking to one of her friends, and she then texted the friend asking what I was saying. During the stay at the bar the woman I am interested in even said the old boyfriend was selfish and a jerk. It took a lot of will power not to be like HELLO!!! Then most confusing part thought is she told a friend later something to the effect of "I know ( me, the poster) is ignoring me to get me back, it won't work." I am confused to put it simply, I am cordial and polite if she talks to me, but I don't approach her for conversation, I mean I feel like I am on thin ice with her, why would I risk annoying her. And if it's not 'working,' why even mention it? I am very confused, what could this mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for the help, I feel so stupid still crushing on her a little bit, I know logically she is no good, it is proving quite difficult just erasing her out of my head.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (17 April 2012):
She likes to play games and apparently thinks you're playing them too.
I don't necessarily think she doesn't like you; otherwise, she would just ignore you and not care, but she may have unfriended you and everything else before because maybe she was seeing that guy too and decided to go with him so it was easier to just blow you off.
If ignoring her doesn't work, then why does she need to keep "liking" everything and is bothered by it enough to even mention it.
She seems like she's annoying and an attention whore. Sounds like YOU could probably do better.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 She doesn't like you but is expecting you to keeping chasing her like a puppy. Since you are not she is upset and she is looking for another person to chase her. She is "friending" people only to get them to like her because she likes the attention, not necessarily wanting to like them back.
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