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female
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22-25,
anonymous
writes:This guy at school has liked me for a while and is constantly asking me out. I have explained to him that I'm not looking to have a relationship at the moment but he is insisting he walks me home everyday.Yesterday he was jealous of me and my guy best friend (who I was walking with) on the way home. The guy wo likes me started to spread that I am now cheating on him with my best friend. The guy is a close friend but I feel like he's becoming over protective of me.What should I do or tell him to make him stop?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (4 April 2015):
 This is vile behaviour on his part. Speak to the school Counsellor about the steps to take at school to report him.
His behaviour is totally wrong.
His offensive behaviour must be stopped.
If he sends you any Text that is offensive then do not delete them and instead show them to the school Counsellor as I think the next step if he sends you offensive texts would be to report him to police.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 March 2015):
 THIS guy is NOT taking NO for an answer and THAT is not a good thing. It's a HUGE red flag.
And STOP being "friends" with him, the guy is not someone who is a good friend. He thinks he somehow OWN you. RED FLAG, girl.
I'd start with telling him that you have had enough. That you can't be friends with someone who doesn't respect you. That you ARE NOT dating him, NOT are you cheating on him. That you no longer wants him to walk you home. And that you think he needs to leave you alone. THEN it's FULL on ignore time.
Then you TALK to your parents if he DOESN'T listen to you.
What he is doing is trying to ISOLATE you from all other boys so you HAVE no choice but to date him. And he is TRYING to ruin your reputation, so people will automatically think BAD of you and GOOD of him, DO NOT let him.
Now I know you probably don't want to "hurt" his feelings, but you HAVE to be blunt with this guy. He is already trying to walk all over you. Being NICE is no longer necessary.
THIS is a lesson ALL girls should learn. IF a PERSON (be it boy or girl) DOESN'T treat you right, CUT them off. BY staying "friends" with this immature dude you are "telling" him it's OK to treat you the way he does. And it's NOT OK.
YOU are in charge of WHAT you will ALLOW from others.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 March 2015):
 If he's spreading malicious misinformation then he's not your friend anymore. Some boys (and sadly, some men) feel that they are entitled to loyal girlfriends even when there is no established relationship. So even if you rejected him, in his heart it felt like you cheated on him. He is not your guardian and he has no right to tell you who you have friends with. He might also be angry because he thought you lied about not wanting relationships yet you walked with a guy he thought was your boyfriend. He took it personally that you rejected him and gave him some bullshit line about not wanting a relationship. He is angry that you picked the other guy over him. He is creepy and stalkerish. Because he hasn't done anything to harm you, just ignore him but be vigilant until he does something dangerous. The school can't do anything about rumours. Show him that you are not bothered by his rumours. His friends should know that you two are not in a relationship so his supposed rumour was only self serving.
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