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writes:I recently broke up with my gf of about a year. Throughout the relationship she was frequently insecure and jealous, but when she wasn't her love was like the sun. Eventually her jealously and insecurities made her angry, mean, and distrustful all the time. We eventually broke up. It was very difficult because I loved her more than any woman I've ever known. She told me she didn't think we should talk anymore because I wanted more and apparently she's dating someone new and doesn't. Fine. So In order to get over her and move on with my life I erase her from all social media. Well, a few days ago I posted some fun pictures with a beautiful brazilian friend of mine and 10 seconds later she begins following me on instagram again.Why is she following me if she doesn't want to talk and is happy in her new relationship? I'm not private. She could have stalked my page without me knowing, but she followed knowing I'd see it? That's not staying out of my life. What's the deal? Can someone explain her reasoning?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 March 2015):
 It's human nature to want to know what people you know and were close to are up to.
For me I like watching the train wreck my x husband and the woman he left me for (his new wife) are... makes me feel good that he left me and my life is better now.
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reader, Rey +, writes (28 March 2015):
Rey is verified as being by the original poster of the question I honestly don't have any hope of getting back together with her. I was just curious as to her reasoning And thought a female perspective could offer some insight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2015): Maybe she thinks you two can now be friends with no hard feelings since you've both moved on to other people
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2015): Women like to snoop more then men and not out of any romantic interest but just because or even out of spite. Men tend to not care. I think you are holding out hope that she is snooping to get back together. You shouldnt bet on that but just let her snoop and see if she ends up contacting you. I would not wonder so much but just keep trying to get over her and move on because that is what you two have agreed to anyway. It's only Instagram and means nothing.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 March 2015):
 Can't you just block her?
As to why she is doing it, it's hard to say. Can be that she doesn't WANT to think she was "replaced" so fast, maybe she isn't as happy in her new relationship as she pretends to be..
EITHER WAY - it doesn't matter she is an ex for a reason and honestly WASTING time wondering WHY she is doing stuff? it's pointless.
I'd just block her.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 March 2015):
 If you are suggesting that she still misses you and not really happy in her new relationship, it could be. I don't know what instagram looks like but I suppose it's a website with photos and you click a button "follow" and it's easier to access than to stalk anonymously? Maybe she doesn't care if you know about her following. If she does, she wants to occupy space in your mind to stop you from moving on. Social websites are public so maybe you have to make it a private one so that only people you trust can be on there. You should be moving on, so it doesn't matter what she thinks.
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