A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Im 23 and still a virgin,I once used to be very proud of the fact because unlike the other girls my age Im not just willing to sleep with any guy,the only problem is now the older im getting im finding it hard to even get in a relationship with a guy cos im afraid they will run a mile,I go out with my friends and the guys are all over them because they offer sex up on a plate to them,I just feel like the odd one out,i lack confidence because of it.Iv tried the internet dating thing...but its never turned out well.I really feel like im destined for spinsterhood with my cat ha ha...but dont want to be.any advice?
View related questions:
confidence, still a virgin, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): I lost my virginity at 20. By bf had had several other sexual partners. He was honored to take my virginity. And said it made it very special for him too. He now says I am the best sex he's ever had.
So there you are. Don't worry. Be proud of yourself. And never regret it. When you do lose it, lose it to the right person. Because believe me, it's worth the wait. Good luck.
A
male
reader, Duckiies  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 DONT WORRY if you are still a virgin. I think it precious to keep. Give it to someone you have passion for it. You probably give him the best sex of hes life because you really love him. Just be more relax and dont worry about it much. You will find someone. For once, time is on your side for a change.
Guys just want to get in your pants. Just be patient. You will soon find the man of your life.
...............................
A
female
reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Keep trying with the internet thing. You may have to improve on your profile. Put up a happy, sexy photo of yourself. You will get more hits if you say you are open to casual sex. I know this is not what you want but many guys skip the ones who only want total committment. Once you get a date you could negotiate. Be careful also there are men who says they want kids and want relationships just so they get more hits. Be sure to talk to them on the phone and get as much details as possible. You can ignore those who talks with a breathy voice and mention phone sex right from the start. Also say goodbye to those who give you a weird vibe. You have to talk to many frogs before you find the prince. Many men cannot wait to have sex but they would wait if they find a special woman who's happy with herself. Before brooding about how bleak the dating world may seem, be the woman every man wants you to be. You have to give them reason to believe that life is better with you in it.
This is my advice but honestly I could tell you that my boyfriend and I started all casual for one year, and then we are steady for two years. Good luck to you. Anything goes.
...............................
A
female
reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 It's fine that you're still a virgin!
These guys that are surrounding your friends are only doing it because they want to have sex with them. They don't want a relationship! So even if you didn't feel left out, and they were buzzing around you too, you still wouldn't have a relationship and you'd probably still be worried about growing old, alone and having a LOT of cats!
You shouldn't let the fact that you're not willing to just sleep with any guy hold you back from finding a guy you love. Don't tell him right away, just say you want to take things slowly, and when you're at the stage in the relationship where you think you want to have sex with him, it's your choice whether you tell him or not. My advice would be to be honest about it but some girls chose not to.
good luck!
xxx
...............................
|
