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*igger1969
writes:I sure need some help here guys. My boyfriend of 4 years has broken up with me. i did something a bit underhand and sneaky and i used his 16 year old daughter to get some info out of her. i onlt did it cos hes not very talkative and im extreamly insecure and in my poor head i thought he was covering something up. anyway turns out he wasnt. his daughter got very upset.she trusted me.he obviously is upset and wouldnt speak to me by text or phone. i then pushed so much he texted to say its finished. he also said he didnt love me anymore. he says he is thinking clearly and not clouded by anger or hurt.i asked if any chance in the future and he said no never. then today i asked if i changed my thoughts and got proper help would he come back. he said maybe. my question is what do i do? sit and wait and hope? or accept and try forget him? i cant move on i love him too much.
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reader, tigger1969 +, writes (29 August 2010):
tigger1969 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni admit i am terribly insecure due to a previous ex cheating me terribly. this isnt the 1st time this kind of thing has happened...we have had many breakups and fallouts over the 4 years due to me feeling this way. sometimes i dont feel like i can talk to him....
i have now found out he has started chatting online again....what should i do?
i feel like just leaving it and giving up hope but then he replied to an email i sent last night and he still has me listed as "babe" his pet name for me.....
what does that mean?!
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (29 August 2010):
 I think writing a letter is an excellent idea...and then you need to just wait and see. Don't hassle him or be pushy. The ball is in his court and your going to have to respect how he plays it.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 August 2010):
 By tapping into his privacy, and assuming he's hiding something, you are implying that he's just like other men, that made him feel he's not special to you anymore. You are also trying to turn his daughter against him. What do you mean proper help? You don't need help. Woman to woman, I know how frustrating men make us feel because they seem so cold and disconnected. Maybe he needs help too, to communicate and share his feelings with you. Your needs were not being met and you didn't know how to ask for them. Write a letter and apologize to him. Tell him if you could turn back time here's how you would have handled it differently: you would have simply asked him for emotional support, more time together, planned more activities together, rather than suspecting him. Tell him you appreciate all thing things he did for you, and how special he is to you. Tell him that rather than facing your own weakness of being insecure, you accused him of cheating. Ask him to share more of his feelings and in doing so you would feel more secure.
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