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writes:there is this boy who i really liked, ive liked him for 5months now, we snuck out, one night and we has sexual intercourse, and then the next day he ignored me and he keeps ignoring me, and i feel very used, i really love him, why do boys do that to you? i really need him, im heartbroken with out him:(. im 14 and i him:( he looks at me all the time, and shows off infront of me, i was with my friend and he started flirting with her while i was there, he told me he was different and that he loved me, i neva new he could do this to me:( he is gorgeous and we were such good friends before it, i really love him and he no's it:'( how can you help me please?:'(
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 SOME boys do this, not all. He's either horrified by what he's done and thus scared, in which case he may come to his senses shortly, or he's a complete cad who you need to forget about as soon as possible.
At your age you shoudl also be keeping those raging hormones in check a bit. Difficult, but worth the effort in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): Some teenage guys will do this but the majority of them do not. Some girls will do it too.
It just seems like "most guys do this" because these guys go after more girls than any of others.
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reader, Duckiies +, writes (18 August 2010):
 move on. plain and simple. Hes gonna want to have sex again and just move on.. So best thing is to move on. IM sorry but there isnt much you can do .. now. best of luck
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 You shouldn't feel like he used you. If he continues to have sex with you then he would be using you. It's a cowardly way to say, "I don't really know what happened, but I am not emotionally available to have a relationship right now. I don't know how to deal with this but I don't want to hurt you in the long run. I enjoyed the excitement but didn't know what to do next, because I don't know how to have a relationship. I prefer girls who are easy but don't expect much of me." Of course the sex was good and there was love at that time. No one is going to say "I don't love you," or "the date was so so." Whenever you ask men what do you think of me, they either say they love you, or they avoid it all together and run, because they probably said they love you too it's an appropriate response, but they can't say they don't love you afterwards because it makes them look stupid.
Next time don't rush things. Get to know the guy first and be sure what he likes you in that way too.
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reader, kevin3007 +, writes (18 August 2010):
 why don't you tell him why he's acting in this way and what happened to the kiss and all that flirt cause if you don't you'll feel so bad about your self for not telling him and don't show him that you still care about him sweety you have to fight this feelings he doesn't love you just tell him he's a jerk and hurted you and hope that the same thing will happen to him ......i think he likes watching you in pain and he knows you're jealous so the best thing to do is to date another one so you can forget him and to show him that you're not dead without him .....i am so sorry for you ....good luck
ps: if you'll have a new bf don't make the same mistake means don't trust him
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Oh dear, that's a horrible thing for this guy to do. Unfortunately most teenage guys will say pretty much anything if they think it's going to get them sex. It sounds like he did use you. He didn't respect you enough to be honest with you, and now he's ignoring you?
My advice to you would be to tell a trusted friend or adult. Having someone who knows why you're upset and that you can talk to about him and what happened will help you eventually get over him. I think you should move on, if he treats you like this, he's not worth all that love in your heart; and one day you're going to find someone who is.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 August 2010):
 It's because you're kids and NEITHER of you are READY FOR SEX! He doesn't know what he's feeling just like you don't. You need to be in a proper relationship before you have sex with someone. Casual sex isn't healthy even when you're an adult.
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