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anonymous
writes:Hello,My boyfriend moved from another country to be with me 3 months ago. While he has been looking for a job etc he has been living with me and we get along so well. I'd like him to continue living with me but he feels it would be unfair to my flat mate. However last night a female friend asked me if he would move into her apartment as her rent has been increased. I'm so worried that after a few drinks something may happen. I trust my boyfriend but my friend has had affairs with married men before with no guilt. Am I over reacting?
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reader, Barbielashes +, writes (6 August 2010):
She's bang out of order for even asking. No.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): Hello all, thanks for all the advice, Im going to have to have a little chat with my boyfriend tonight and tell him im not happy about this situation.I hate having to pull the jealous girlfriend routine but if im this bad before they even move in together then I cant imagine how paranoid i'll feel when they do shack up together. Life was so much more simple when I was single.... Thanks again x
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (16 August 2007):
 Is it possible for you and your bf to move in to your friends place, and your friend move in with your flat mate? or, Would your flat mate move in with your friend? If so, that would be a better option.
I think you are right to be worried. That being said, maybe this is something you need to look at in terms of staying friends with people that do not follow the moral code that you would want done for yourself.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): No I don't think you are overreacting. And not just because your friend has poor character. But just because I personally think you can't trust anybody too much and you certainly don't want to encourage your boyfriend to be in a situation with another woman like that. No matter who she is. Shit happens. Sorry to be so pessimistic. I don't think over the top jealousy is good but I don't think blindly trusting someone is good either. There's gotta be like a balance. And I think you are on the right track. And I am sure your bf would agree.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (15 August 2007):
 Tell your b/f that you question your friend's ability to behave herself and ask him not to move in with her. Then give her the names of a some women who could room with her and share the expenses. If your b/f doesn't feel right living with you (strange as that may seem) he can always bunk with a male friend until he has enough money to live solo in his own apartment. Anything other than that is just going to cause problems and get complicated in the long run.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (15 August 2007):
 I think you have got every right to feel worried about you boyfriend moving in with this girl, after all she has not got the best track record in the world has she.
As you say anything could happen after a few drinks. No i don't think you are over reacting atal, i would not be comfortable if i was in that situation.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): sweetheart, dont let him move in with her. TRUST ME
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): Why would your friend even think it would be o.k. to ask your boyfriend to come live with her? To me that seems really out of line. You should have told your friend that you would be uncomfortable about this. She has no morals, having affairs with married men. She may decide she wants your man too. And even if your man is a good guy & loyal to you, after some drinks, a lot of those things go out the window. So, no I would not let this happen at all. You need to talk to your flat mate. Maybe she would move in with your "friend" or maybe she doesn't mind him staying there. Tell her your concerns.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (15 August 2007):
 How does your flat mate feel about him living with you?, if she has not got a problem with it could she not talk to him and reassure him about living there.
If you trust your boyfriend there should be no problem, but i do see where you are coming from because i think i would feel abit insecure about that.
Tell him your fears and let him know thats it not that you do not trust him but you are worried about her because of her past history.
Take care.xx.
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