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writes:I'm in love with my best friend's girlfriend, what do I do?This is probably the worst situation I have ever been in, at least in the terms of love. Let's start out with this, my best friend and his girlfriend have been going out for 3 years now and since then I ended up being really good friends with her. The thing is recently I have started to see that my best friend has been treating her like crap. And well that makes me feel bad for her and wants me to hit my friend upside the head. It's like everything a guy could do to be a bad boyfriend he does. There are even signs of him being abusive to her. Since then me and her have been getting closer and she knows how I feel and she's starting to feel the same for me too.Just need some advice quick....
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reader, Confused...22 +, writes (22 June 2008):
Interesting. This sound like what my friend did to me. He made me look bad to make others believe stuff that he did not even know. I wonder where you are from. It was around this time my "friend" started doing this to try to get with my girlfriend... Unless he has hit her and it is actually known and not made up by you to make yourself want to be with her then I would say you need to back off or involve other people like her parents to make sure no abuse is going on if you are a true friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): your best freind is a jerk. you should reconsider him as a dumbass and be happy with the girl you know you will treat better than him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): Are you sure or is she just glad you are there to help and support her?
Have you tried talking to your friend about it? If you are a true friend you will.
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reader, beautifultrustnlover +, writes (17 August 2007):
 she needs to leave him asap and talk to her about it let her know she isnt alone and be there for her as a FRIEND intill she's over him
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 August 2007):
 Is your friend really being a jerk to her, or is that what you WANT to see and convincing yourself it is so?
Is she telling you things about him that would lead you to this conclusion, or your own observations?
My only concern is that you will use all of the above as an excuse to go for her, when in fact, those allegations may not be true. In that case, you have done the wrong thing.
If those things are true, and you beleive you are a better man for her, then go for it, with the understanding it will cost you this friend, as well as the respect of your circle of friends...who will not know or believe the tale of his abusing her.
If he really is a jerk, why is she still with him? Is she planning on using you as a temporary rebound guy, just to get out of a bad relationship? It would be more credible if she dumped him first without having it to do with you.
Be careful, as much as this may be true, it could also be a set up for you.
Lastly, I wonder...if you are certain he is such an abusive jerk...why would you still be freinds with him? This makes me question a lot of things. I would end my friendship with any man that abused women, as it is against my own personal moral code.
-Frank B Kermit
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