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writes:I looked through his phone and found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has been text messaging and calling with at least four different girls. He says they are just friends and that I don't have anything to worry about. What should I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): If you feel deep down that things aren't right between you then you must finish with him. If you trusted him 100% then you wouldn't have that urge to go snooping on his phone right? So all must not be well within your relationship for you to have your doubts. I went through the same scenario with my ex and I should have listened to my gut feelings, he was a player all along and caused me no end of heartache. Be strong, move on and find someone who you can trust and will give you 100%.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): dump him, my boyfriend has been doing this to me for 4 months and I am 5 months pregnant with his child and he is having sex and texting his old girlfriend, what is more pathetic he is she is fat and not pretty go figure, it hurts but in the long run it's better for you.
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (16 August 2007):
 well from what you posted. he sounds like a right jerk. Unfortuantly he may be keeping his eye open for other possible girlfriends. How long have you two been going out? Maybe hes not the relationship type of guy. Maybe he just wants an open relationship, which personally i wood say a deffinate no no too. Or hes a player. Or perhaps thre just friends, but friends with benefits perhaps.
Talkt oh im more hun, tell him how worried you and tell him tht youve seen the proof on his phone and no way are they just friends with that type of talk. Tell him to stop the act if he wants to stay with you. And if he doesnt. just wlak away. You deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): Hi, I wrote the question. Thanks to all of you who gave honest answers. All this happened this morning, and this afternoon, I told him I want a break to think rationally about what I read. These girls had all different area codes and since we met on a dating site, it leads me to think he met them there as well. Further, the text messages were flirty! :( "Hey sexy, just thinkin of you" etc. He says they are friends, stalker ex, and the like. That I have nothing to worry about and that he doesn't talk to them. Ya right! I'm not stupid. He gave me reason to check when he started telling me how his brother's girlfriend calls him all the time asking for advice. It's like he needs to feel needed?! Anyway, last correspondence with him ended like this: "How can you do this to us!? I'm going to get drunk!" Ya, that's him. UGH!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 I think you should get five guys that you call and text regualarly. If he is cheating, you can start looking for a new bf. If he is only friends with them, then it would be good for you anyways to get your own social circle. If you have time to go through his personal communications, and not be able to give more concrete message for us to comment on, then you have way too much time on your hands.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, kenny +, writes (14 August 2007):
 Its hard to comment without knowing what the text messages actually said. Only you read them, like Eve said were they suggestive and flirty, or just friendly texts between friends?.
Look into it abit more because you don't want to lead up the garden path if he is playing around.
Good luck x
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (14 August 2007):
 well it all depends on what was said in the messages and calls.
It could be that they are friends and you have nothing to worry about. But the fact you checked the messages says they might not be.
You may have to figure out the messges i.e flirty, neutral.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): First off I would ask what you think gives you the right to check his phone?I have a fair few male friends that I call and text, and my boyfriend has a fair few female friends that he does the same with. It could be completely legitimate.You obviously don't trust him if you feel the need to read his messages though.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 August 2007):
 You read the text messages babe so you will just have to go with your gut feeling on this one.
Take care.xx.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 August 2007):
 It depends what the text messages said, were they suggestive or flirty at all? There's a small chance they ARE only friends but I'd be more inclined to say he's just keeping his options opened I'm afraid.
Eve
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