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30-35,
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writes:Hi,I have had a little bit of a problem with my boyfriend lately... We've been together for 2 years now, and he's never had a very strong sex drive. I, on the other hand, want sex more often. He is in his early 30s, so I can't imagine his sex drive has completely diminished due to age. I'll ask, and he'll say that he couldn't be less in the mood right now. I've tried offering things I know he likes, and he just smiles and says "nice try." Things that come to mind are depression or a nutritional problem. What are the causes of a low sex drive in a male, and what are some solutions? I'm willing to try anything.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (15 August 2007):
 The first question is ask is if he actually wants a higher sex drive.
That being said, if he does, then you can start to treat the reasons it exists.
Causes could include: he naturally has a low libido, past of sexual abuse and was raped, guilt issues with sex through family-religion-etc, asexuality (where he does not desire feel the pleasure assocaited through sex), stress, poor health, lack of sleep (sleep apnea), depression, certain medications sideeffects, anything that stops oxygen into the body (like asthma or allergies), having channeled sexual energy in the past into other areas of life, and not being able to break that habit, masterbating to the point that your own touch is the ONLY thing that works and your body rejects the touch or smell of others, boredom, and so on.
The cause of it is secondary. He has to want to increase it. If he does not, then maybe the two of you need to consider an alternative to monogamy, so that you can feel satisfied, and he is not burdened.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 Stress...
Physical illness...
Past sexual difficulties...
Boredom and discontent in current relationship...
If his low sex drive is causing problems you could always suggest going to see your gp and get a referal to a sex therapist.
Take care.xx.
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reader, accused +, writes (14 August 2007):
 Does your boyfriend have any problems with erections? Can he get aroused if he watches something or does something else that involves himself?
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